West Sussex Mistress Helen Ryder


Welcome to the site of West Sussex Mistress Helen Ryder.  I have two well equipped play rooms within my house, one of which is a white medical room “My own kinky clinic” for medical roleplays and the procedures suited to “The Clinic”  with gyno chair and medical theme. The other room “The Kink Emporium” my bijou residence has a wonderful ambiance and is set up for alternate massage, CP, Strap-on fun and much more.  My premises are used solely by me and not rented out to anyone.

Fetish Furniture:

  • Suspension Bed
  • Suspended Floating Board for sensory deprivation or pallet wrapping
  • Stocks
  • St Andrews Cross
  • Full Length Cage (lay down)
  • Spanking Bench
  • Smother Box for face sitting/watersports
  • Gyno Bench (adjustable for sitting up/laying down)
  • Bathroom splosh/food play sessions
  • Domestic Scenarios: Such as OTK spanking on my comfy chaise longue sofa or over my school desk for those who don’t like dungeon style equipment. In my FAQ’s you will find a list of the activities that I thoroughly enjoy.


I am situated approximately under 3 miles from the A23 exit Burgess Hill.  If coming by taxi I’m just 5 minutes from Burgess Hill train station, thirty five minutes by car from Gatwick Airport, and under one hour from London Victoria via fast train.

I regularly update my blog page with new photographs, salacious stories, general news and on occasions the homework tasks I have set my regular slaves/submissive to write about their sessions (if they wish to share them with you the reader)


From a very early age I worked out how to have men hooked around my little finger and could see how much they enjoyed being teased!  From early days tying boys up to lamp posts and laughing with my girlfriends, feeling that special power over them.  Dressing my male friend in a bridesmaid dress and full make up and making him parade around for my amusement and then in my twenties attending Fetish parties and clubs, having a small stable of personal slaves that I am lifestyle and becoming a professional dominatrix as a natural progression.  I love working in this chosen profession, beats (don’t excuse the pun) any day compared to my previous high response stressful job working 24/7 cover in the public sector!  Such superb job satisfaction” as a “Professional Mistress” I simply adore seeing my “boi/girl & anyone in between toys” quivering in anticipation, exerting my power over them and seeing such pleasure in their faces.

Newbies & The Experienced

If you are new to this world then I will gently take your hand and lead you astray, having first spoken with you about where your interests lie, any concerns that you may have and what it is that you would like to experience from a session.  BDSM and seeing a professional Mistress is not all about receiving pain or being abused, it’s about having fun whilst exploring your kinks and delivering a fantasy in a safe, sane and consensual  environment.  Good clear communication is key to getting it right!

I see lots of seasoned players too, all session are bespoke to your particular interests.  Simply get in touch to discuss a session or a fantasy you may have and have it tailored to your desires, fitting ultimately into my own interests listed.

Come and explore your kinks in a safe environment with a friendly level headed and multi faceted Mistress who will not judge you, leave your inhibitions at the door.


My premises are always clean and all items/toys used sterilized and sanitised to very high standards (covered with disposable condoms where applicable)  I use medical supply equipment and use strict cross contamination measures with any equipment used. There are times through out the session where I wear nitrile gloves for specific procedures.   Rest assured you are in safe capable hands.  I have a clinical background in former employment where I learnt about sterilization procedures.

I also expect you to have an excellent level of personal hygiene, washing facilities (if needed) are available for both before and after your session.  You may bring your own wash bag or use the vast selection of products provided as well as a fresh fluffy towel for your use only.  *anal play (come thoroughly cleansed) a quick acting enema at a cost of £10 can be administered at the start of the session if you are not able to prepare yourself.  Enjoy a nice hot shower before and after your session in my well equipped premises.  Tea/Coffee and a biscuit are offered if I feel you may need grounding after your elated state so you are safe to drive/travel home.  I have a high regard for duty of care with my clients.

I do not cram sessions in back to back!

Mistress clothing:

I make great choices in my own attire and prefer to dress to please myself in a way which will create an air of mystery to the session and surprise you.

I have a variety of “Mistress attire” and you will see some of this in my gallery.  I dress to please Myself in a way that will express my domination over you, very specific outfit requests are controlling and do not empower Me.  It’s ok to express that you have a liking for a type of look, which I will take into consideration.

I love wearing stockings, fishnet hosiery, retro lingerie, fetish wear such as latex or PVC, medical uniforms (NHS & latex/PVC Nurse for medical roleplays) sexy push up bras with a chemise or corset, sheer sexy dress’s,  wet look material catsuits, Beautiful satin blouses and short skirts to show off my legs, shiny patent heels either shoes or sometimes boots.

When I am not in session I wear casual clothing and may well be in the gym, any repeat clients to book with a minimum of two hours notice AFTER we have spoken and agreed to session.

I do NOT offer nude sessions.