West Sussex Mistress Helen Ryder


I am an experienced Mistress from simply being a pure Lifestyle hobbyist for many years before embarking on offering professional sessions.  I started my training alongside Mistress Lubyanka as her assistant (using the name Serenity) and worked with several other Professional Mistress, attending BDSM workshops and lots of private play parties before taking flight solo.

I am friendly and approachable but do not wrongly assume this makes me any less “Dominant” ALL scenes are “Safe Sane and Consensual” and also “Risk Aware Consensual Kink” It is your responsibility to make me fully aware of any possible contraindications to a session with allergies, phobias and any health conditions that I can adjust the session or refuse certain aspects if harmful to you.  All sessions are bespoke to your particular interests.

I enjoy a vast range of activities from sensual tie and tease, pegging, EStim, many exciting gadgets for edging, sissy make overs, spanking & hard CP I’m quite the domestic disciplinarian!

*** There is a list of activities I do NOT provide at the bottom of this page.  Ensure you read them!***

Booking Procedures blog:   click here   Please read these before you call.

Activities I enjoy available for sessions:

  • Adult Baby: Intro level: Disposable diaper, plastic pants and bottle feeding, wet nappy change only. For FULL AB services visit a Mistress specialising in this field
  • Anal Training : Stretching, Strapon, Fisting – this happens to be my favourite hobby, cater to the newbie and the experienced
  • Aunty nephew role play or other family RP, aunty catches you in her underwear drawer or looking at naughty magazines
  • Ball busting: not extreme play
  • Bastinado
  • Bottom Worship: Clothed – Kiss My strong buttocks over my leggings/latex or hosiery
  • Bondage: Ropes – Leather Straps, Cling Film/Pallet Wrap
  • Caged or secured to massage couch and left in another room whilst I undertake other sessions £60 per every hour, no play incl
  • Cash Point meets, £50 non return deposit to meet you in Burgess Hill or Haywards Heath, min withdrawal £100 from machine.
  • Castration & Circumcision “fantasy” roleplay, not actual harm or removal!
  • Couples: I will see NEW couples away from my domestic premises (lady MUST get in touch NOT the man and by phone only) £300 for 1.5 hour booking, £350 for two hours, only at a dungeon close to Gatwick.  If we have met before session/social then appointments in Burgess Hill are possible.  This is BDSM play only, take your sex home with you.
  • CP: Corporal Punishment , Caning, Spanking, Flogging, Spanking Bench. A good old fashioned over the knee OTK your very own Sussex based Disciplinarian
  • CBT: Cock and Ball play, Teasing, Torture, Wax, Electrics, Weights, Sounds, Pump, Bondage, Clamps, Crushed with hands and fingernails digging in
  • Chastity : You provide your own device for key holding at £60 per month basis, further interaction then POA
  • Confinement: Pallet wrapping on the suspension bench or in the cage
  • Cross Dressing: Sissy’s – tv’s – Tarts – Maids
  • Dental Examination, various roleplay as sadist dentist or sexy but strict hygienist, have you been a good boi and been flossing regularly?
  • Depilation: Removal of pubes and/or body hair by shaving, chemical (veet if not allergic) or plucking
  • Domestic servitude: Come for maid/butler training and wait upon Me
  • Double Domination: This will be advertised on my blog page so keep checking for updates
  • Electro Stimulation:  E-stim Plus an array of accessories for internal & external, subject to particular metal implants in your body
  • Enema: Available in sessions from one hour, small surcharge £10 added to cover disposable sterile one use kits
  • Face sitting: In my smother box or on the suspension bench and I will be wearing underwear
  • Face Slapping/Spitting
  • FinDom: Financial Domination, make regular monthly tributes to support my lifestyle, gift me generously
  • Fisting
  • Foot and Shoe/Boot Worship My naked or nylon encased feet or shiny shoes or boots to polish with your tongue.  My feet are a UK size 7, in very high heels I take an 8
  • Forced Bi ONLY available to repeat established clients, NEVER on a first visit to Me, prove yourself on a solo booking first! http://www.mistress-helen-ryder.co.uk/forced-bi-my-thoughts-experience/
  • Forced Exercise either in private or if I deem you suitable then to the gym with Me!
  • Hair cut humiliation, hair shaving no 1 or 2, pudding bowl cut.  I’m NOT a qualified hairdresser so at your peril.
  • Humiliation, from pudding bowl haircuts to panty wearing the world is your oyster with your Sussex Humiliatrix
  • Kidnap scenario (fantasy roleplay): Only available if I have previously seen you for a session, this is always double domme with duration of 2 hours (£500)
  • Latex Vacbed in sessions of two hours plus as takes time to set up
  • Leather body bag for total body bondage encasement
  • Lesbian cuckold domination sessions with my naughty girlfriend Lily, I dominate her!
  • Magic wand with sleeve, wonderful device for orgasms if I allow you that privilage
  • Massage: I am fully trained in the art of various forms of massage, using aromatherapy or unscented massage wax with my soothing hands and hot bamboo.  Showering is available both before and after
  • Medical Play: Urethral sounds, surgical staples, needles, injectable sterile saline, bed bath, shaving
  • Mouth Soaping: Been swearing & using dirty words then it’s time to soap that filthy mouth out by your wicked step mother role-play or nanny/aunty/teacher etc
  • Nipple Torture : Cat Claws (metal)  Clover Clamps, Wax, Suction, Fingers & Nails, Deep Heat, Freeze Gel, Ice, Needles, Bamboo Sticks & Cupping
  • Nettles: When they are in season and available
  • Orgasm control: Denial, Post Orgasm Torture, Edging, JOI or Ruined Orgasm
  • Pallet wrap on floating suspension board for sensory/EStim type play sessions over 1.5hrs are essential
  • Poppers (bring your own) under controlled conditions with your health permitting! NO Blue lips!
  • Rev 1000 Rotating male masturbation device
  • Role Play: Strict bitch boss and you’re due an appraisal, will you do anything to keep your job? Caught stealing panties (PC Ryder will arrest you) been naughty & caught being a peeping tom, this Wicked Sep Mother will punish you and many other RP ideas
  • Sissy Play/Training – Satin – Frilly
  • Smothering:  Using my body weight to pin you down!
  • Sounds, note I ONLY use medical grade steel, no high heel insertions (dangerous, risk of tearing /infection & death)
  • Spanking: On the bench or over my knee, enjoy wriggling and squirming over my lap whilst I pin you down with one leg firmly over yours and give your bottom the full attention it deserves.  Or over the bench, there are strong sturdy leather straps to keep you in place as well as plenty of extra rope and ties for those who enjoy full restraint
  • Spit Roasting: Filled both ends, available on double dommes days
  • Sploshing session on you in the bathroom, SWEET food massage a wonderful gooey time (extra on tribute,see page)
  • Strap-On Worship: On your knees and suck my Mistress cock
  • Straight Jacket: Strapped in so tight and utterly helpless, there is NO escape until I release you
  • Tease & Denial & Post Orgasm Torment
  • Tenga egg £6.00 for your own personal Tenga egg device
  • Tickle Torture: Tormented by my finger nails, cat claws, bumble bee glove, feathers and anything else that I can tickle you with
  • Trampling: Walking all over you and crushing you under my weight
  • Transexual Doubles with my friend Tiffany Aching (advertised on my blog page)
  • TV makeover Wigs, Full Make-up, a selection of wigs and accessories and full make-up with a selection of underwear and some clothing, you may bring your own clean clothing to sessions.  semi pro Photos taken on request with my Nikon DC3200
  • Verbal Domination
  • Venus 2000 Milking machine (the gold standard from USA) Between 8 to 300 strokes per minute will keep you right on the edge until I’m ready to release you!
  • Violet Wand: Electro sensation play with my beautiful Fluvita fully reconditioned vintage medical device, subject to any metal implants in your body and depending on what they are
  • Water Sports: There is an extra charge of £20 on top of usual fee
  • Wax Play:  A variety of plain wax or coloured as well as soya candles to massage in
  • Wrestling, this is some FANTASY light wrestling ‘HOLDS’ ONLY due to restricted space! scissor holds, school girl pining, face sitting and smothering ONLY!  For a fantastic Dominatrix that specialises in this field visit http://www.missscorpion.com/

Serve outside of a session or become a collared slave:

For those that desire a top up outside of Professional sessions or maybe you are not quite ready to serve in person and would like email correspondence or phone calls, then ensure you enhance My life and contribute to My Femdom lifestyle. We can discuss adopting one or more of My bills.  From £42 gym membership, weekly food shopping £40, utilities and much more.  A donation gift to My bank account will prove you are genuine and peak My interest, pop over a polite email introduction after sending a money gift to show you are genuine and 100% committed to serving ME.  Details are on My tribute page.

Clients that I currently see and take in parcels for and receive multiple emails from between or setting up sessions are expected to enhance My life, the more generous you are the greater the reciprocation!  Only two way traffic here.

Collared slave, I often receive requests for collaring due to coming into this as a lifestyle Mistress.  I will only collar someone I’ve known for some time.  A collar has to be earned and even collared slaves pay for sessions and enhance Mistress’s life, yes there will be contact outside of sessions, as well as tasks to fulfil but being a collared slave means dedication and generosity on your part, the greater effort you put in, the greater the reward you may receive!  I command the utmost respect from all my slaves and expect total devotion.

Activities I do NOT offer:

  • Body to body naked massage
  • Blackmail, this simply does not interest me in the slightest P.S recent chap not prepared to make bank payment as I would see his surname!  I’m the one allowing a stranger to enter My private domain so RESPECT MY booking & vetting  procedures!
  • Drugs, do not take illegal substances or drink vast amounts of alcohol prior to your visit
  • Cuckold with a male partner, My sex life is Mine alone and private
  • Lap dancing or ANY sexy dancing, you can dance for Me!
  • Nitrox or any gases
  • Oral/Rimming. Nude Face sitting
  • Sex/Escorting, kissing, intimate body worship, look up escort services elsewhere
  • No naked sessions, I WILL be dressed in an outfit of My choice
  • Cuddling sessions
  • Scat, vomit or Flatulence fetish
  • NO Sweaty feet,dirty bottom, panties worn for several days.  Only sweaty gym kit sessions within 30 mins of Me leaving the gym!
  • Balloon Popping
  • I do NOT provide any sub services as I do NOT switch
  • Smoking fetish, I am a non-smoker and enjoy a smoke free zone, this means you can NOT smoke at all in your time here, wear a nicotine patch!  I may even give it a good slap!
  • Crushing insects, small mammals, fish etc.  Any harm to living creatures other than You!
  • Lift and carry sessions
  • Wrestling at competitive level, see this amazing lady http://www.missscorpion.com/
  • I do NOT see clients under the age of 25yrs, NO exceptions!
  • Texting, ALL texting is IGNORED! Ring or email to make contact. Texting indicates you are a time waster &/or haven’t read my site
  • I am NOT looking for any personal slaves, I only offer “Professional” sessions, long term regular clients are the ones who then become part of My inner circle and may one day earn a collar (see above)