Thank you all very much for supporting Me over the last few weeks, the ones that have sent tributes, bought My clips, sent Amazon GC’s & paid for chats. This has been wonderful and I really appreciate it. Long may it continue with this side of My business.
Sadly I still get the emails/bloody texts from the others! Hmmmmmmmm Covid19 has certainly shown Me the absolute best in some people and the utter worse.
I hope you are all doing ok and keeping well.
I was chatting earlier today with Mistress Ophelia De Havilland (a lovely friend of mine) about how we start doing sessions again hopefully in the not too distant future.
As many of you who know Me I already only offer limited sessions in a day for many reasons.
Once sessions resume I will continue only seeing 1 or 2 people on any one day.
There will be a session in the morning for however long that person wishes to book for, there will then be a gap for a VERY deep clean BEFORE I see My next plaything.
A deep clean will consist of every surface that anyone can come into contact with, door handles, light switch, light pull, stair rails etc as well as EVERY item used in a session with My hospital grade cleaners.
On entering My premises I will ask you to have a good wash of hands and face and strip and wear a mask, I will also wear a mask (mmmm kinky hey) but I won’t be stripping (I know what you are thinking) 🙂
Overkill maybe or maybe not, but it’s our lives and staying fit and healthy. Anyone booked in will have to present as completely well on the day, any possible risks must be eliminated. Deposits will be held against a new play time if either you or Myself need to reschedule.
It’s lovely to receive fantastic help and support from some of My bois, thank you very much for being wonderful and you will all know who you are.
To those who email, state they will do ABC and don’t follow though. I feel nothing other than pity for you, that your world is so small and you are so inadequate and can’t grasp how to use this time we have for anything positive or productive. Shame on you.
To those who are genuine and wish to Amazon Gift Code Me with either an online purchase or from a shop then only send to My email of helen-ryder@hotmail.com Send it first and send an email 20 mins after you have done so. I won’t be sending any replies to anyone asking if My email is correct.
To those who purchase My clips, thank you and I do know what part of the world is purchasing right down to the town!
I have, quite some time ago, it was just like a normal cafe but with kink pics on the walls and a wooden spoon for your table number, I always love a wooden spoon 😉
This isolation and lockdown has had me thinking about the social aspects of BDSM as well as the session side.
Wouldn’t it be great to go along to a safe place and just be able to meet like minded people, have a cuppa, nice slice of cake and if you drop some crumbs on the resident Mistress’s carpet maybe have to go over her lap for a little spank (not compulsory as it’s a social)
I would be looking at a small tribute to cover overheads of course as time spent chatting is great but could be spent in sessions. My thoughts are once a month or every six weeks on a day of my choice, prob a Friday morning for 1/5 to 2 hours, min of 3 attending and up to 5 if just Me or with another Mistress then up to 8. Everyone pays £35.00.
It’s not a play party, it’s time to come share a story, a book you’ve read, something saucy you’ve seen but can’t share with others.
Send Me an email if this is something you would like. I make a fantastic Victoria sponge cake and any flavour variation. I may even consider a sissy maid in attendance that can make a little batch of cakes to contribute to our gathering (same tribute for social applies)
My location is on my website along with all other basic info, receiving so many silly questions at certain times of the year is relentless!
Recent stupid question was asking how far I am from where the person was staying/lives, use Google maps or AA route planner and put location A to location B and there you have it! So simple when you engage the big brain up top!
If you are going to email questions and ask Me anything fully covered on My website then send over a buffer payment first to appease Me.
Minimum Amazon voucher of £30 accepted to helen-ryder@hotmail.com
or bank payment to: sort 20-92-54 Acc 70468665 use ref questions
Thank you to everyone that has been to visit Me over the course of this year, I have now placed My canes, ropes, Venus2000 and other wonderful props and gadgets aside until 27th December. It has been lots of fun to get know you and play. I won’t be answering My phone unless I have the time or inclination to log into the Adult Work phone chat system. I look forward to more fun times in 2020.
I attended Sanctum Fetish Club last night with My super mate Jo Armstrong, fondly known as Big Sis, we saw lots of Our fet friends there and danced, spanked and played the night away.
I will have availability on 27th 28th 30th and 31st Dec during the hours of 11am to 5pm.
Available in Sussex from 8th Jan and back to advertised hours
Other news
My kitten had a second operation at the beginning of this week as she went lame overnight and wouldn’t bear weight at all, emergency vet visit and xray, sedation and then operation to remove all the metal work as the surgeon felt it must be the pins holding her leg and the growth at her age was starting to cause pain.
Anyone who hasn’t sent Me a Christmas gift as yet and would like to then please contribute to the ongoing expense of everything to do with her care. I have to drive quite a distance to see a different orthopaedic specialist surgeon and will be taking her for physio very soon (also some distance) sort code 20-92-54 Account 704568665 Name: Ms Rogers Ref: of Vet gift
Keep an eye on My Twitter for general daily news, tweets and up to date pics.
Thank you for the lovely gifts I’ve received, especially the vintage bottle of Tom Ford Violet Blonde.
Mistress Helena Huddersfield & Mistress Helen Ryder
Goddess Asha London Mistress & Mistress Helen Ryder
Mistress Helen Ryder
Goddess Amani London Mistress and Mistress Helen Ryder
For those who have asked what the difference is between having a double domination with My friend Miss Kitty Bliss and Miss Ruby Vixen.
My friend Miss Kitty Bliss is a lifestyle background established very well renowned Professional Dominatrix, she has her own website and has been in the industry for over 10 years and is fully fledged in many areas of expertise, Shibari needles/medical and hardcore pursuits are a real passion. MKB excels in hard CP too, she also has a clips website page with many movies to view. Up until September 2019 MKB was the proprietor of The Barnet Bastille in London. We have worked together and filmed together for quite some time now, we gel very well together and have a lot of fun double domming. Your experience will be a fully interactive BDSM kink session with both of us actively pegging you, carrying out intimate examinations and bouncing off each other with ideas, and we both excel in roleplays. We have events throughout the year together at various locations for filming as well as My base in Burgess Hill West Sussex, so always look out for our blogs.
Two strict Nurses
Miss Kitty Bliss ready for your medical inspection
My other friend Miss Ruby Vixen is new to the world of BDSM and she purely assists Me in session with some spanking, trampling, guided use of electrics and as a voyeur. She is most happy assisting and flexing her new found dominance alongside Me, she doesn’t switch and doesn’t do anything of a sexual nature, so do not ask! I guide and instruct Ruby throughout your session. She doesn’t wish to become a fully fledged full time Dominatrix and enjoys the fun and ease of working as an assistant alongside Me or also helping out on Double Domination events with MKB, two’s company and three’s a party!
On the above date I will be teaming up with the gorgeous Mistress Helena for play times between 11am to 4pm. To book your fun & games send all polite respectful enqs to 07557 516183 and visit the website for details of services that We enjoy! http://www.manchestermistresshelena.co.uk/
Two Alpha females who will take full control of your mind and body, from CP, Pegging, Spanking, Humiliation, full cross dress service, Prison cells, Confinement/Lock down and much more! Sadistic and twisted as well as sensual teasing domination, your limits respected.
Good news that I have had My operation and both lens replaced in eyes and I am healing well. I am actually back in sessions today onwards with My regulars and seeing new play mates from Friday 11th Jan when back in full glamour mode of wearing make-up. If you are new and want to come play before Friday just be aware I will be the kinky strict girl next door look!
Up and coming events are 12th Femdom Tea Party
25th Queen Bee’s with the gorgeous Miss Kim in London
31st Jan Miss Kitty Bliss here for sessions and Pedestal that night so we are pondering on if to go along for a few hours.
1st Feb Miss Kitty Bliss here for doubles from 12 midday as we will need some sleep if we attend Pedestal.
I’m teaming up with Joanna Armstrong for The Burgess Hill Sissy Academy Days, make-overs/photos and play at various dates throughout the year and also by special request.
One of My friends is very interested in coming to assist and be a voyeur on sessions, some extra pocket money for her and lots of fun. She is 28, slim, totally gorgeous and a lovely lady, watch this space for an announcement!
I have one place available for Malaga, send an email if you would love to come and have lots of fun in the sun. It’s more reasonable for the 3 nights fully inclusive bed/board/food that you would have thought with a tribute to Moi and your flight on top for you to book/pay. Transfers from the airport to the villa can be arranged. We haven’t set the dates yet but it will be late May/June/July/August for a THREE night stay. I will need to have met you and played a couple of times between now and going away.
In 2019 I will hold My multi slave events as well as attending Malaga with THREE slaves in tow for fun in the sun. I have THREE slaves/subs attending now. It will be 3 nights away with board/food/all beverages included in your booking for the villa and you are responsible for booking your flights, pick up from the airport can be arranged. Serious enquiry’s are welcomed and we need to have met and played together a couple of times before the Malaga mini fetish holiday. There will be a set daily rate for Moi divided up equally between the THREE slaves. POA with 50% deposit at time of booking and balance in full 48 hours before we depart.
This blog was updated 12th March 2019 to reflect the 3 attending, another trip to BDSM Villa will be arranged in the near future.
The multi slave event will take place on Monday 4th March from 11:30am to 2:30pm with time set aside afterwards to wind down, have some light food and refreshments. £230 with 50% deposit taken at time of booking, balance on the day.
The nature of play will include some small periods of confinement, sensory dep, interaction with other slaves if desired. Spanking, CP, EStim, Venus2000 and much more! All boundaries and interests discussed in advance.
I won’t be available 2-12th Jan as I will be having essential eye sight saving surgery, book now if you’ve been thinking of coming to see Me! I should be all seeing again & ready and raring to kick arse from 12th Jan and the double domination date of 31st Jan and 1st Feb with Miss Kitty Bliss is 100% happening in regards My eyes! In fact if things are still blurry by then Miss KB will be My eyes and it will be a bit like pin the tail on the donkey! Mwhahahahaha just joking 🤣 🤣 🤣 I will honestly be fine and available again from 12th Jan if not before!
It may well be the end of any prescription specs, I will have some plain glass ones for specs fetish.
One of My chaps was asking what/why so an edit here and further edit for the FULL story:
I have the early stages of a slightly more rare type of cataract in My right eye (caused by trauma) and with a high prescription for long distance and now reading I need a multifocial lens and both eyes having lens replacement cost £6,836.00 and that is with 10% discount given, Ouch………………………
Rather than join the NHS waiting list and (possibly go blind in one eye whilst waiting) and not get the full treatment required for My eyes I have booked this private.
The NHS will only do My right eye and then only cut My eye open, remove My lens and replace with a monofocial lens. Which will not 100% correct My vision and then I will still need reading specs for close work. Going private also covers any top up laser treatment. The NHS won’t do this. My left eye is also a very high prescription of -7 so it’s not feasible to wear lop sided specs with one heavy prescription and a plain lens with reading varifocial one side or wearing only one contact lens. The level of My prescription and other complications is making it more complex. At the end of the day I am having MY eye cut open and lens taken out and replaced so I want it done once only and have the best treatment possible!
Whilst I’m a real time Dominatrix rather than online Findom, kind donations would be greatly appreciated with the high cost of this operation. Please email if you would like to contribute to My eyes and help Me pay back the finance loan and deposit which are hitting My pockets extremely hard! Especially with the loss of income whilst I am unable to work. Another 1K hit to My self employment!
It is after all something very essential to living/My wellbeing and not some daft high end pair of shoes or handbag!
New eyes for 2019 All the better for seeing you with! 😘😘
Mistress Helen xXx
The Lowdown of the person behind it, updated 2020!
I am not usually one to air laundry in public but there are still little rumour’s floating about so here goes.
The woman who caused it was an utter idiot and got confused in a basic exercise at the gym threw a weighted ball in my face instead of simply passing it. I had been in a laying down position to sitting up so didn’t stand a chance! My nose was split open on the upper right hand side bridge and I have a scar! My specs which were only a few months old and cost over £600 were badly damaged. The eyesight test I had at the time of new specs showed my eyes to be healthy and normal, 6 months after the gym accident showed the damage that had been done. I carried on working on occasions with said person but later on I broke away due to the gaslighting and other weirdness such as ignoring my visits to Yorkshire on social media, doing nothing to promote my visits. Putting up spiteful posts on Twitter aimed at me stating things like boring and high protocol can play elsewhere. High protocol because I queried the basic provision of lube or any sterile lube in her premises, she used cooking fat (Trex for sounding) both irresponsible and dangerous.
She even suggested I wait to get my eyes done on the NHS having rang my partner on return from the clinic the very day of just returning from an assessment! No offer of chipping in at all as she caused it! My partner was still paying some of her bills at that time as that’s what she does! Only interested in him for his money.
I tried to be the bigger person and forgive simply for my partners sake as he had been friends with her for many years (she had manipulated him well) but after much shit stirring, general two faced bitching to a friend I introduced her to. Then waiting outside the loo for me to come out on a group night out to have a word, my patience by then was pretty thin! She stated my partner thought the air needed to be cleared (this was in fact a lie) as I asked him afterwards.
Another time I’ve had her slag off someone I had admired for her style and hard work in this industry and hoped to maybe work with one day. In front of other slaves at a BBQ how the Mistress’s photos were all photo shopped and bathroom tiles are not that size. I’ve now worked with this amazing lady and she is stunning and her tiles are the size in the pics in real life. Imagine being so jealous bitter and twisted that you have to make stuff up about others…..
Back to bonkers she has no real respect for me or my personal relationship. Earlier on she had been very friendly and I saw a really nice side of her, but not for long! She then went on to involve my partner in keeping secrets about something very trivial and told the rest of the word her business. The other Mistress I was friends with knew it all and slipped up by spilling the beans at an event the other one wasn’t attending. She even sent my partner text messages whilst we were away on holiday being really off to him and disrespectful to me regarding the info being passed on to me.
I had my friend Jo visiting and bonkers rang to have a go at us because we were doing a photo shoot involving dress’s that actually belong to my friend and trying to tell me how to run my business! I stood up to her, so did my friend and then she throws a fake wobbly.
Attending a Femdom event, which bonkers came along to just a couple of weeks after surgery and blanked me at first, then chatted briefly. Was downright rude to one of my friends for something naughty one of her slaves did. We were all involved in writing up punishments (all in good humour and jest) and she wasn’t having any of it. Ruined the group photo by acting like a fool. She was really off towards me, to the point of actually giving me some sort of odd Paddington Bear stare across the room, later admitting she had done so because she thought I was giving her funny looks and this other Mistress pointing out I had just recently had eye surgery. Even at this point I was being polite for my partners sake and knew any friendship was over. Seriously you can’t make this utterly childish rubbish up!
The other Mistress I was friends with seems to be passing back n forth info so earlier this year Jan 2020 whilst out at a Femdom event in London. I told her in reply to her offer of visiting her new place that I wouldn’t be able to maintain a friendship built on any foundation of trust. That the two of them could stick with each other and leave me out of their drama and bitching. I was sick to death of the interference and negativity and don’t want people like that in my life.
The funny thing is they have both lied about what each other have said to me, the lady in London felt so bad on her return from a visit there and stated she had joined in on the laughing over Me and had seen a really nasty side to bonkers! That she wasn’t sure if she wanted to go back again (but has) so that proves she is flaky and untrustworthy. The London lady felt the need to meet with me for lunch and apologise and clear the air. We did meet and discussed various things that had gone on after that second visit but I was on my guard after that. I was told how they were all in a group with a slave included laughing about me behind my back, with him admitting I was the brunt of the toxicity at present and it would be someone else’s turn next! Hmmmmmm well good luck with that friendship as I’m well out of it!
I’ve seen bonkers tear a slave a new arsehole for something she should have taken responsibility for herself. Having profiled people in the police in a civilian role I am normally very good at being able to see right through people/her where others are taken in. Suckers!
They do say keep your friends close and enemies closer but I prefer to keep people I can’t trust well away, many miles away and there they can stay!
