Anal play hygiene, a guide for how to prepare yourself for a good pegging.


I’ve had many a bottom to play with, some come very well prepared and smell fresh as a daisy and others haven’t even bothered to wash let along have a douche out or use an enema system.

You can either purchase your own enema or douching kit.  Google is your best friend, use it to search on various suppliers, here are some links  for you to check out



If having such an item sent to your home or workplace is going to cause problems then simply pay the extra £20 fee to me and you can have a douche or better still an enema to flush you out before any anal or strap-on play commences. The enema I have here is a low volume of water with natural salts to activate the lower bowel and works within 5 to 7 minutes. I will administer it and then you will be sent to the toilet to expel and clean up.

Here is another link to include a great variety of anal toys, if you are new to anal play and wish to lose your virginity “I really love popping cherries” then if you are able to do some”homework preperation” with a small toy to help you relax and then you will become accustomed to items entering you, it will make pegging easier and not so daunting for your first time

Whilst I am on the topic of hygiene a reminder to either freshen up when you get here or have a shower within one hour of your session starting and wash your bottom and genital region after using the toilet.  98% of you come to sessions smelling delicious and squeaky clean (that I have to refrain from eating you, haha) sadly 2% don’t and I have a nose like a bloodhound and can tell!  And brush those teeth too!!!  I am in close proximity with you in sessions and adore a nice clean sweet smelling or simply clean body with fresh minty breath to play with.  I have mouthwash in my bathroom as well as a selection of gents products so if you need a freshen up or gargle then please ensure you use the bathroom first.  Great personal hygiene is essential to show respect to me your Mistress!  I do understand that some of you may have come straight from work and simply do not have the facilities to use before you visit me.

My future blog will be on sounds, the risks, the fun and what to expect.

Mistress Helen X



I am new to the BDSM scene and wanted to find someone to lead me into the world. All I can say is WOW. Mistress Helen gave me something to remember and I am already penciled in for a second appointment. Her surroundings are lovely and clean, she is most charming and has a body to die for. She was very accommodating of my needs and reassured me as well as very relaxing, so I am now induced into the world, and like it. Cant wait for my next time, and what a beautiful lady to show me.


Dear all

News regarding BDSM & Massage appointments:

I will be away from Thursday 18th August lunch time through to Monday 22nd August inclusive and available for sessions from 23rd August.  I have limited availability Tuesday 16th August from 2pm to gents who have seen me before and space on Weds 17th August to anyone new who can pay a deposit in tomorrow.  Best time to reach me tomorrow is 9am to 10am for phone calls as I will be busy in session from 10:30am, or send over an email.

From 23rd August it’s business as usual until my next double domme day with Mistress Jane sometime in late September or early October (date to be announced) This takes place in Berkshire.

I look forward to seeing my regular playmates/slaves again very soon and fresh meat is always welcome.  When you email please ensure you provide some information to include why you wish to session with me, some dates/times/duration and a general list of likes/dislikes/ or willing to try BDSM activities.  I see gents over the age of 25yrs, fit and healthy and under 18 stone in weight (due to excess wear on dungeon equipment)

Best regards

Mistress Helen X




My second visit to Mistress Helen Ryder. For full cross dressing/sissy training this time. Well It couldn’t of been better. She really is good at this. She really try’s her best to help you feel comfortable and enjoy your fantasy. A nice discrete place to visit, Very clean too. I am looking forward to next time.

February 2016

What can I say? Mistress Helen Ryder inspires complete confidence (and total obedience!) Whether you are at the beginning of your journey or already a few steps along, once you have spent time with Mistress Helen, you will find the path to your deepest desires; through honesty and surrender comes liberation. You will always yearn to return, and you will – as will I, as often as I can! Thank you Mistress Helen

February 2016

It is some considerable time since I visited a Domme (I have been more into pure CP recently) and even longer since I was feminized. I saw Mistress Helen’s website and immediately felt she would be a good Domme for me to restart my journey.

We exchanged emails so that she knew what I was interested in and on the day, having made me very welcome, she transformed me – despite her best efforts, I still looked far from a pretty lady – and we continued into other BDSM activities, all of which I enjoyed.

I had a 2 hour session which was extremely competitively priced. Next time, I plan a longer session, maybe to explore other BDSM activities, but possibly if we both have the time simultaneously, I would like to spend the day as her maid – which we discussed favourably – which I am sure I am going to find a superb experience.


I came searching for a Mistress to indulge my passion for BDSM late in life as I was lucky enough to have been in two long term relationships which more or less fulfilled my desires without being brilliant. After the last ended it has taken me some while to realise that I would get what I wanted much better from a pro domme. After a couple of disastrous meetings with dommes not interested in me other than as a cash cow I broadened my search and came across Mistress Helen. From the very first phone call she instilled trust. Totally at ease from the phone and email contacts and having paid the sensible deposit I arrived at her door certainly apprehensive but not feeling anyway in danger.
Immediately sat down for a soft drink I was put completely relaxed and discussed where were going with the session. It is not easy to state precisely what one wants but luckily as the session developed Mistress Helen managed to instinctively know what I wanted and there was no danger of having to top from the bottom. I got exactly what I wanted from the session and loads more besides.
I am now delighted that I can regularly beat a path to her door. We try new things and excell at the old things. She is an expert with canes and many other orthodox and surprising instruements so if that is what you like you will not be disappointed, but she is multitalented with many other kinks, some I have tried and loved and some are not for me, but nothing ventured.
She has made me a very happy old man.


I’m heading off on a mini break for a couple of days in the sunshine 🙂 I will last look at emails on Weds 22nd June afternoon and then be out of complete contact until Saturday 25th June from around 3pm.  I will not be taking my phone with me I will be leaving behind in the UK and no looking at emails on the beach either.

Being as I am away such a short time I will be making the most of it!

I look forward to speaking with you on my return.

**All photos used with approval of the subject with some edits to prevail identity, fantasy/fact/fiction with no harm to the participant, transient stripes and theatre style roleplay***

It had been a long day dealing with all the miscreants of the finishing school for young ladies and there was just Loretta Cox left to deal with in regards to inappropriate school uniform and her general behaviour.

My name is Helen Ryder and I am the new head mistress at the Burgess Hill academy. I am very keen to implement some new techniques such as aversion therapy, which Loretta would be receiving very shortly!

“Come in Loretta”

“Yes miss”

“Let’s have a good look at your uniform today, do you think you have stuck to school rules Loretta?

“I think so miss”

I lifted up Loretta’s skirt exposing a pair of non-regulation red panties with love hearts on them as well as sheer black lace top stockings.

“These are NOT regulation navy or black knickers Loretta, and wearing black stockings tut tut, you should be wearing long black school socks”

“I thought now I’m a big girl miss I can wear stockings”

“Oh no you can’t young lady, you break school rules and you pay the price, you are going to be spanked”

I grabbed Loretta and pulled her across my knees with head down low and bottom up high I spanked her over her non regulation panties and then to Loretta’s humiliation I pulled them down and spanked her bare bottom!

“Get up Loretta and pull your knickers up”

Loretta’s face was very red and almost as red and glowing as her bottom.

“You are dressed like a tart under your school uniform and as for the length of that skirt, which is very questionable”  “Dress like a tart then be treated like one, that’s my motto”

I  marched Loretta into a class where young ladies were taught the basics of beauty and started applying lots of make-up and red lipstick, it wasn’t long before Loretta was looking like a cheap tart.

“Stand up and look in the mirror”

Loretta stood in surprise at her very slutty appearance “Oh miss I look so grown up” she said smiling and twirling in front of the mirror.

”I was shocked that she had the audacity to look pleased with herself, well you are over 18 Loretta and being as you are so keen to look the part of a slut then you will be treated as such”

Having attended a very forward thinking course recently I had a bag of interesting items for aversion therapy.

I strapped on my black leather harness with a red veiny cock and gave the slut a condom “Loretta I think you can demonstrate how to put this on with just your mouth if rumours are true”

On her knees with her mouth full of cock Loretta certainly seemed to have had some practice and was soon deep throating and gagging on the cock.  Such a shame Mr Baxter the deputy head wasn’t around for Loretta to work on the real thing.

“Get up little slut and over that bench”

I strapped Loretta down to a black leather bench and stood right behind her telling her I was going to make use of her little fuck hole and make her very sore and that it would indeed be punishment and she would be so sore afterwards that she wouldn’t be so quick to bunk off after hours and sneak off to the local barracks and play with the squaddies.

Noticing some unruly public hair I got out a shaving kit I had seen in the beauty room and made her silky smooth.  I applied lots of wet sticky lube to her little fuck hole and finger fucked her first, opening her up and getting her ready for some cock.

I positioned myself behind her thrusting hard in one whole length into her tight fuck hole. Loretta instead of crying out “please stop” she was groaning and asking for more!  I worked her in every position with bigger thicker cocks and the greedy slut was still asking for more until I had her on her back on the gyno bench with her legs right over my shoulders banging her hard and fast.  Only stopping briefly to shave her a little love heart above a very excitable engorged clitty which was very moist.

It was at that moment I thought to myself why bother trying to curb a young ladies sexual appetite and simply encourage her instead, after all I could continue having a lot of fun with Loretta and encourage her to make use of her talents on webcam and getting paid for entertaining the local men as well as encouraging her into a very promising career in porn.

“Get off that bench Loretta and stand over there” I indicated pointing to the other bench ” bend across that spanking bench and stick your bottom right out”

I reached for my very thin cane known as the bastard and told Loretta that as her new head mistress I might well encourage her natural talents but she wasn’t getting off so lightly for her earlier cheek and she would have 12 of the best.

12 strokes later and one very welted red bottom I told her to pick her panties up and dismissed her.

What an end to the day I thought with a smile on my face.






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“Panty Perv gets spanked humiliated.”
This is an account of my recent highly enjoyable visit to Mistress Helen. If you ever feel the need to be under the control of a gorgeous dominatrix, great at role-play, with a sense of fun, who can also be strict and severe, then a visit to Mistress Helen Ryder certainly hits the spot.
I was supposed to be measuring up for a decorating estimate for Miss Ryder when she caught me sniffing panties from her washing basket. I was so engrossed that I didn’t notice her filming me on her phone until she barked “put those down you filthy pervert, and get in here! Now!”. She twisted my ear and pulled me into her work/play room. This was full of BDSM equipment: spanking bench, canes, crops, floggers, paddles, cuffs, ropes, gags, nipple clamps, and lots of other stuff I didn’t recognise.
“I’m Mistress Helen, a professional dominatrix” she announced as she slapped my face, “I have perverts like you for breakfast. If you don’t do that work for me for free, I’ll put this film will be all over the internet, with special attention for your wife and your boss. Do you want that?” I admitted that I’d rather she didn’t, and had to accept her demands. A few unpaid hours painting wouldn’t be so bad, and I hoped she would let me go.
“Not so fast” she said. “I’ve bought some new items, and I can try them out on you. Won’t that be fun?”. She didn’t wait for my answer. First up was a very large sissy maid costume. “Get undressed, and look sharp about it!” she ordered. When she saw I was wearing ladies panties with ‘PLEASE SPANK ME’ written on the back, she laughed, before obliging with a leather belt (“seeing as I’d asked so nicely”). I took them off, and she laughed even more at my chastity device. Forced to my knees, hands on head, I had to explain that my wife makes me wear the panties and device because she doesn’t trust me with female customers. “Don’t all wives do this?” I asked, but I just got another slap.
I was put into the dress, with matching panties, suspenders and stockings, a blond wig, and a frilly white hat and apron. “Very fetching” she said. “Give us a twirl and some curtseys”. I did as I was told. “Hmm. You’re about as elegant as an elephant!” she pronounced, as she put me in handcuffs, anklecuffs and nipple clamps. She ran another chain from my clamps to the ankle chain, so I could only take short mincing steps without pulling on my nipples. I was gagged with my own panties, held in my mouth by a bone shaped bit gag. “Sissies should be seen but NOT heard” she told me. Finally, a pink ‘SLUT’ collar with tinkly bells on was buckled round my neck.
 “You might look the part, but how good are you at chores?” she asked as she gave me a pink feather duster. She picked up something painful-looking that was like a short bullwhip with a dragon’s tail on the end, and marched me downstairs to dust her living room, casually flicking my backside with the whip as I did so. Ouch!
Dusting done and dusted, I had to serve her a cup of tea and then polish her shoes with the panties in my mouth while she sat and sipped her drink. By now I had been given quite a lot of penalty points for doing things either wrongly or too slowly. I was taken back upstairs, dusting the handrail as I went, and strapped to her spanking bench. She told me that 40 strokes from various implements, ending with 10 from a cane, should buck my ideas up. The cane was new, as she had recently broken her old one on another slave. I prayed she didn’t want to test this one to destruction too. It hurt, but the cane survived (and so did I) and I was released for my next chore.
My gag was replaced by a rubber penis gag with a dildo sticking out the front. (I secretly hoped she might sit on it and bounce up and down, but no such luck.) No; she taped a pair of panties on the end, and led me into her spare room, which was full of shoes and boots. Despite my predicament, I couldn’t help laughing at how many pairs there were. For this I was punished. She replaced my clover clamps with a similar but far more painful pair with much stronger springs, and told me I would have to wear them for at least 5 minutes. She then looked for the first clamps. I tried to tell her through my gag that they were still attached to my chains. For grunting out of turn, I was sentenced to 30 minutes in the new clamps. A bit harsh, but when she saw I was actually being helpful she relented, and reduced the time to 10 minutes. “Be grateful for small mercies!” she told me. I could only nod in agreement.
I polished the shoes, and then two rubber dresses, with my duster gag. She removed the clamps, and put me back on the bench for another 30 or 40 strokes before letting me up again. “Stand there, and DON’T look round”, she ordered, as she pushed my nose into the doorframe. When she was ready, she led me by my ear to the bathroom, where I had to clean the washbasin and toilet. Thankfully I could use the brush instead of my tongue!
For my final dose of discipline, she removed the penis gag, and put my dribble soaked panties back in my mouth, held in place by sticky tape. This time I was secured to the bench with wrist cuffs as well as leg straps. “Blimey, how hard is she going to hit me?” I trembled. Fairly hard, as it turned out, but in hindsight it could have been worse.
I was released, and made to curtsey several times, each one lower than the last, while thanking her for her correction. I had to promise to mend my panty sniffing ways, and she reminded me what would happen to the film she had taken of me if I ever lapsed back into my old habits.
With that, she told me to put my ordinary clothes back on. My only underpants were the soggy panties that had been used to gag me, but they did at least feel cool and soothing on my hot, sore, stripy red bottom. I half expected them to start steaming.
Pansy Penny

Corporal Punishment, Humiliation, Crossdresser, Role-Play, Strapon and much more!

I’ve also got back onto my healthy eating more juicing plan for a while and day 2 was a bitch!  The headache from hell (glad I had the foresight not to book anyone that day) I received a special offer for so decided to go for the 5 day soup/juice cleanse after my lovely meal out in Brighton (well Hove actually) haha at

Phew what a fun week that was 🙂

I would write more salacious blogs but sometimes I have writer’s block even though I would be writing about a session that has taken place I feel the words need to freely flow. So here are a few pics from the last week instead, some from sessions, a meal out with Slave Rod including a trip into Brighton, some new latex that I ordered a couple of months ago, enjoy!

Oh yes that is a head girl school girl pic for a special roleplay 😉 as well as the PC Ryder roleplay!