I’m talking endorphins btw!


This is a lovely testimonial from one of My recent players, it was a pleasure to have him back and I look forward to further sessions.


Good afternoon Mistress Helen.
You were quite right.  Something clicked inside me on Tuesday. You opened the door to a different dimension. A headspace totally different from anything I’ve experienced previously. This both scares and excites me because I know I need to go there again. 
If our first session was play, then on Tuesday, I genuinely felt like a miscreant being punished for wrongdoing. I knew I was in for a tough time when you gagged me. Its just a pity I wasn’t able to keep the ballgag in. I shall try and obtain a gag of my own that doesn’t make me feel like I’m choking.
The caning you gave me was my first time from cold and I never expected it would hurt so much more. Yet despite the burn of each stroke, instead of trying to shy away, I was conscious of pushing my bum up to present it properly for the next one! I was in a place where to get through, all I could focus on was your voice and the pain of each stroke. The connection was electric. When you said enough, I honestly wouldn’t have cared if you’d said I was getting another 12. By accepting the ordeal, I got to a place where the endorphins were giving me wings. And I need to go back there.
First though, I need to let my sore bum heal and process a bit further what happened. Separate play from punishment, consider what’s next. At the moment, I’m thinking that our future sessions (if you’ll have me!) are going to be cold, hard canings. Real punishment. I don’t want to have a safe word because I need to endure the ordeal to get into the headspace I am looking for; but also, because I trust you implicitly to push me, to punish me and when to bring me back down.
Apologies for the length of this e mail but I did want to share my thoughts as no Mistress has ever before taken me where you have in just two sessions. 
Until we meet again, Mistress Helen my thanks.
Kind regards
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Hello subs/slaves/sissies/Kinksters and all

If you’ve been craving a decadent double domme with two feisty fun strict Alpha females then look no further

Tuesday 30th August is the date to book in! Miss Kitty Bliss is coming to play for the day. We offer just four playtimes so it’s essential that you book and pay deposit to secure your time soon, although sometimes we have the odd cancellation so it’s worth asking a little closer to the date.

Now a message to ALL

Please ensure that you are freshly washed all over wearing clean pants and clothing when you come along for your playtime, most of you are good and do this.  Please pay your deposits within 24hrs (if not before) of arranging a playtime as I will not leave your booking firmly in My diary until I have a deposit against it.  If you wish to pay the final balance the night before you are due that’s great but not leaving tributes in full to the last minute!

I have had a fantastic holiday in the UK, doing a tour of the Jurassic coast Dorset and down t Devon, then back for some amazing playtimes this last week.  I have availability next week so get in touch by email with an outline of what tickles your fancy from My list of kink/BDSM interests listed on this wonderful website. Include some dates/times, we can then briefly chat, pay your deposit and have the most wonderful time.




To help some of My regs that book flights to come and visit for their playtimes as well as all other enquiries, I have current availability on these dates: 12th to 17th May at a variety of times, email over your interests and preferred timings, we can arrange a short 5 min chat so we have spoken and have you booked in, then you pay the deposit within *X hours of our chat, enabling you to arrange another chat closer to the date of your playtime if desired.  I require a minimum 24hrs notice for My Burgess Hill play space and 48 to 72 hours plus if you wish a playtime at either The Brighton Dungeon or Gatwick Dungeon.  I only offer same day appointments to trusted regs (deposit still taken) or those with a holding deposit already in place with two hours notice after agreement to see you.

*X hours, I will specify this in Our chat

🎁**Gifting: This is always lovely and appreciated, Tips, gift codes for Amazon/Etsy and My fave perfume at present is Do Son by Dipytique and they have a beautiful scented soap and other items in this gorgeous fragrance I will add their official site link, they also sell in major department stores John Lewis/Fenwicks/Selfridges etc.  My Birthday is 24th August  Do Son Collection (

I am not available between these dates: 18th to 23rd May

I have availability from 24th May to 17th June

I am not available between 18th June to 27th June

I am available from 28th June to 15th July

Not available 16th to 18th July

Available from 19th July to 5th August

Not available 6th/7th August

Available 8th  to 10th August

Not available 11th to 15th August 

Available 16th to 19th August

Not available 20th to 25th August

Available from 26th August to 1st September I think that will do for now and help you plan your spankings and all sorts of wonderful kink BDSM play over the next few months 👌



I’m often asked why someone would want to see a dominatrix, especially if the person is happily married or in some form of relationship, surely they could get their partner to show an interest??

Lots of people who come to see Me don’t want to rock the boat at home, they’ve had this interest/kink that goes way back and they’ve tried to bring it up, maybe seen a TV programme and the partner has expressed disgust so they think their partner might potentially end the relationship.  Yet this urge/feeling and fantasy exists and simply won’t go away, they can only suppress it for so long.  I have chosen not to appear on TV or in mainstream media so that My own business stays more discreet and that no one knows why you are visiting Me.  I think there are far too many “Salacious” TV docs/shows that do not truthfully reflect real life, the Mistress being interviewed is under pressure to perform/portray herself on mainstream media in a certain way and the media company has their own agenda.

Some people are simply working in a high pressure environment and want to pay someone for an easy transaction with no messy strings, that’s where I come in as I love to take people on a journey to explore their fetish or fantasy, they can come along to a safe welcoming space, to share this small but essential part of them, with trust and mutual discretion.  I’m not here to break up a marriage, I do not provide any sex.  Many of My clients have found a visit keeps their personal relationship healthy.  On occasions a wife or partner have sent their husbands along with a note or we’ve all met up for lunch to discuss playtime or punishments.  Some of these people have become good friends but also respect that this is My business so continue to book occasional play times..

I have also been asked how I would feel if My partner visited a Mistress, well having been cheated on in the past I would have been far happier if My husband had been visiting a Mistress and having CBT or tens tonnes of S**t kicked out of him or other kink, especially if it made him a loyal person to Me otherwise.

Some gents absolutely need CP and their partner doesn’t want o inflict pain of them or some just keep it a secret and time appointments around home events so that marks won’t be seen.  I’m also often asked not to leave marks, just a red rosy glow that will disappear after an hour or two!

Most of My clients would agree that after a session they feel elated and internally as though their clock has been reset!

A reminder to ALL that I do not have any form of sex with My players, do not ask to touch Me in sessions, any form of touch (as foot worship) is invited and the pre session chat covers mutual interests so that you don’t embarrass yourself by asking for something that I do not do.  I’ve always made it clear that this is not sex!  It’s BDSM fantasy play.

**Edit to add

Due to another email asking if I am trust worthy and will the person be recorded, have photos taken etc

If you can’t see for yourself as mentioned within My website and on Twitter, that any pics taken are ONLY with the persons permission, ALL clips that are on clip sites ALL have model release signed as it’s been a filming day/session and pre agreed.

If you are really paranoid and nervous and have to ask then you are not ready to see a Mistress.  I’m not offended by such questions I just find them unnecessary and extremely tiresome.  I loathe spoon feeding people, unless it’s part of your real time session with something “nasty” mwhahaha 🙂

Well what an exciting few weeks it has been!

Miss Ruby Vixen and Miss Kitty Bliss have both graced the Burgess Hill playrooms to come and play with some of my bois, what fun we’ve had!

Miss Kitty Bliss is a fully fledged Mistress who has been in the business for over ten years, she has her own website, runs her own business and runs Club Sanctum, which is currently having a sabbatical due to availability of London venues at present.  MKB is very experienced in CP & Medical play, strap-on, bondage and much more.

Our next double domme date is 4th May, we do get busy so it’s wise to book in advance and secure the playtime that works for your kinky time.

Miss Ruby Vixen is My assistant, an extra pair of kink friendly hands in a session, more of a playful voyeur & gentle switch, MRV doesn’t take care of bashing in the back doors with a strap-on (that’s Moi & MKB) she does like to have you suck on her lolly cock though 🙂 spanking, clothed face sitting, trample and foot worship.  Hence the rates are advertised accordingly.

Easter is soon upon us, if any chaps out there want to see how many mini eggs I can insert in your slot then do book a session and bring the chocs too!  I do love a sense of slightly warped good fun in My sessions 😁

All sessions are 24 hours notice if you are not known to me

Established regs I require TWO full hours notice from having agreed time that day

ALL sessions require a non refundable deposit (moved to one new date with 24hrs notice)





Miss Ruby Vixen is back to have some fun in sessions as My assistant, she will be happy to be a voyeur for those who love being watched and she is also into giving spanking. crops/paddles, spit roast strap-on on you, trample, clothed bottom worship and spanking!

If you’ve been yearning to watch me have a younger lady over my knee or over yours under my supervision then Miss Ruby can be booked to come in on sessions.  She will only be working with me and not available on her own.

Miss Ruby will be available Fridays between 9am – 3pm Weekdays 3pm – 5pm and some scope outside of that by special arrangement.

Her rates will be:

Assistant 1st hour £60, then  £50 each additional hour

Spankee/Switch rates £100 1st hour, then £80 each additional hour

ALL bookings are non sexual!  If you’ve enquired about the slubb/wand or venus200 on you within the play time,  then of course that’s what you will get!

Miss Ruby has a new Twitter id of RubyVixen (@MissRubyVixen) / Twitter   she may answer respectful Twitter DM’s if you wish to chat with her in detail she will charge for her time.  I’ve suggested £20 for 10 mins phone chat, book direct/pay her.  This is non refundable.  Miss Ruby is available with notice on Fridays ONLY between 10am to 2:30pm finish.

I will be taking bookings for Us both so get in touch via My email:

Check out My Twitter feed for all advertised double domination dates and general news, this link is My ONLY Twitter, there have been several fakes recently, stealing My images and creating Twitter accounts to scam people, they have been reported numerous times but still exist!  Mistress Helen Ryder The Ultimate Sussex Mistress (@MsHelenRyder) / Twitter  The one and only!!!

I’m teaming up with my friend Mistress Amber in Gravesend Kent on Thursday 24th Feb 2022 we will be offering CP/All impact play, bondage, NT, sensory dep & many more BDSM Delights.  Pegging, medical play and HE is not available for this DD date, pop your enq into an email to apply.  StrictLeatherLadyAmber (@StrictLadyAmber) / Twitter

Thursday 24th March 2022 My friend Miss Kitty Bliss will be working with Me in Burgess Hill for a full BDSM experience to include pegging, medical play, CP, bondage, sissy make overs and much more!

The sooner you book and pay your deposit the more likely you are to get the time that works well for you, we are taking bookings now.  Sometimes there are places closer to the date so it’s always worth asking.  Miss Kitty Bliss (@Miss_KittyBliss) / Twitter



I have several items that I rarely use in sessions these days so I am selling them.  It will be collection only.  Bank transfer or cash on collection.

I have rejigged the clinic so that there is better access to the bondage chair next to all the medical kit and Venus2000, being as I have gyno stirrups in the main bondage room and the bed is very comfy I can still carry out all medical procedures in there.

I have bought a metal raised platform single bed base & moved the mattress from the main room into the clinic so there is a single bed for treatments/guests staying.  This means I won’t have to move a heavy sprung/memory topped mattress on a regular basis! Hooray 🙂

I am selling the Bristol Maid 4 section hospital screen £170 (new is £323.99) it folds into smaller sections for different looks and to fit in your space  Bristol Maid Four Section Curtain Screen | Health and Care

Drip stand £50 (new is from £100) as seen in photo, items not incl

Gyno chair £370  (cost £550 new MIV furniture) seen here in the medical gallery, it has 3 positions, flat, semi recline  chair & fully upright, Myself and Miss Kitty do not come with it 🙂  West Sussex Mistress Helen Ryder (



Wishing ALL My wonderful players who have supported Me in 2021 with sessions/servitude and tributes.  There has been lots of laughs, fun and games and I welcome you back in 2022 for many more great times!

My new years resolutions are simply to do more art projects and crafts.  *Bore alert! I picked up a crochet hook after at least a 35yr break and I’ve little arty projects involving those, at least it will make Me easier to gift with yarn etc from relations and friends 😉

2022 I will continue to reinvest in My business with new items of kit, if there is something in particular you would enjoy that fits My remit then play items gifts are very much welcomed.

I also welcome new clients, just read the website in full and make sure you’ve done your research that I am the right Mistress for you and then follow the booking blog.  I have many fetish interests such as spanking, domestic discipline, many BDSM pursuits to include pegging so check out My vast list.

Don’t forget to like My Tweets and especially retweet ALL My promo tweets, it’s always appreciated X

Have a great NYE what ever you are up to and see you on the flip side

Kinky wishes

Mistress Helen xXx

Sending Christmas holiday wishes to all my wonderful players and followers

I’ve received a couple of emails asking for a session before Christmas, which I have replied to and can see it’s in my sent items so please ensure you check your spam folder!

I have limited availability from 14th December up to 6pm finish on 21st December inclusive.  Get your booking/deposit in quickly.  I do on occasions receive cancellations so it’s worth asking.

I have just come to the very last day of isolation (officially) but I am taking a couple of extra days to get back into the swing of going out and doing a mega deep clean of every surface as well as spray down and air out the atmosphere before anyone attends.  Yes I succumbed to getting Covid.  I went to Pedestal on 25th November and 5 days later I tested positive for Covid after feeling rough, the PCR drive in confirmed my thoughts and the isolation date started from that positive PCR date to 10th Dec.  So I am well out of any risk of infecting anyone else when I leave the house for the first time this coming weekend!  It’s been like heavy flu and total loss of smell/taste from day 3 and still something that’s not returned.  I’ve been told it may just come back or could take ages.  I am double vaxxed and was due a booked booster on 20th Dec, which will now have to be done in January.  I had a flu vaccination just a day before attending Pedestal so wonder if this lowered my bodies immunity to the dreaded C19.  Who knows…

If you wish to wear a mask in sessions again that’s fine by Me, also LF testing on the day and temperature check.  My temperature only raised to 36.6 during My Covid sweats!  I normally run at 36.2

I won’t be taking sessions from 22nd December to 26th December inclusive.

I will be available again from 27th December and up to 30th December

Unavailable 31st Dec to 2nd Jan 2022

Open for business 3rd January 2022

I may log into the phone chat platforms as and when able to so keep your eyes peeled.

Thanks to all the wonderful players who came to visit over this last year, wishing you all the very best in the lead up to Christmas and the New Year.

Mistress Helen xXx