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I am introducing a tax for stupid questions.

My location is on my website along with all other basic info, receiving so many silly questions at certain times of the year is relentless!

Recent stupid question was asking how far I am from where the person was staying/lives, use Google maps or AA route planner and put location A to location B and there you have it!  So simple when you engage the big brain up top!

If you are going to email questions and ask Me anything fully covered on My website then send over a buffer payment first to appease Me.

Minimum Amazon voucher of £30 accepted to helen-ryder@hotmail.com

or bank payment to: sort 20-92-54 Acc 70468665 use ref questions

What treats we have in store for you!

A double domination of delights from soft spanking (haha, snigger) ok limits respected to hard CP (we excel at this) and all manner of kinky BDSM play

Medical roleplay and various procedures

Kidnap scenario (see tribute Page for this)

Sissy sluts/maid

Bondage

Pegging and Spit Roasting

Venus 2000

EStim and Violet Wand

Sensory dep/Hypnosis (made clear when booking in advance)

Just a few ideas to wet your appetite and not a comprehensive list by any means!

Get in touch via email first and follow up with a nice little chat to book your play time!

 

Thank you to everyone that has been to visit Me over the course of this year, I have now placed My canes, ropes, Venus2000 and other wonderful props and gadgets aside until 27th December.  It has been lots of fun to get know you and play.  I won’t be answering My phone unless I have the time or inclination to log into the Adult Work phone chat system.  I look forward to more fun times in 2020.

I attended Sanctum Fetish Club last night with My super mate Jo Armstrong, fondly known as Big Sis, we saw lots of Our fet friends there and danced, spanked and played the night away.

I will have availability on 27th 28th 30th and 31st Dec during the hours of 11am to 5pm.

2nd Jan 10am to 7pm

3rd Jan 12 midday to 7pm

4th Jan 10am to 7pm

unavailable 5th as travelling

Working in Huddersfield 6th Jan with Mistress Helena  https://www.manchestermistresshelena.co.uk/

Unavailable 7th Jan as travelling

Available in Sussex from 8th Jan and back to advertised hours

Other news

My kitten had a second operation  at the beginning of this week as she went lame overnight and wouldn’t bear weight at all, emergency vet visit and xray, sedation and then operation to remove all the metal work as the surgeon felt it must be the pins holding her leg and the growth at her age was starting to cause pain.

Anyone who hasn’t sent Me a Christmas gift as yet and would like to then please contribute to the ongoing expense of everything to do with her care. I have to drive quite a distance to see a different orthopaedic specialist surgeon and will be taking her for physio very soon (also some distance)  sort code 20-92-54 Account 704568665 Name: Ms Rogers Ref: of Vet gift

Keep an eye on My Twitter for general daily news, tweets and up to date pics.

Thank you for the lovely gifts I’ve received, especially the vintage bottle of Tom Ford Violet Blonde.

Mistress Helena Huddersfield & Mistress Helen Ryder

Goddess Asha London Mistress & Mistress Helen Ryder

Mistress Helen Ryder

Goddess Amani London Mistress and Mistress Helen Ryder

Mistress Helen Ryder

 

Jo Armstrong and Mistress Helen Ryder

It’s been a fantastic whirlwind months of sessions, socialising, double domme with My amazing bestie Miss Kitty Bliss, we had such a scream with our boi and gurl toys together and carried out quite a sissy make over on our evening booking, who travelled over from Ireland, landing at Gatwick and getting the train to Burgess Hill (easy journey he says) he is also a repeat visitor.  i have a few chaps who travel from abroad for sessions, yet over the years EVERY enq from Chichester West Sussex has rang asking questions and then states Burgess Hill is too far! Laughing My head off!

Other news: I’ve also been settling in a new kitten (whom has recently broken her leg) will come back to this!

Attending the Femdom Ball 2019 with My collared maid and slave, modelling for the fabulous House of Harlot and finally looking at the pics and saving them to post here for you all to enjoy.  This event is something I greatly look forward to each year, meeting up with Mistress friends and meeting other ladies from afar.

I am very fortunate to have My own fully equipped premises at home, this enables Me to offer sessions at rates the average person can afford.  The ambiance here is amazing and every possible luxury is included, My premises are not a vast giant dungeon space, hence My fees reflect this and it’s not to undercut anyone else  Obviously if I were hiring dungeons then My fees would also reflect hire charges and travel. I can at certain times of the year also put on little offers like any other business.  It doesn’t devalue My status as a Professional Dominatrix and I do it to suit Me.

If all is well I will be away in Yorkshire for a few days from 23rd to 26th December and then back here, this depends on My little lady and the care she will require ongoing until her leg mends.

Back to working from home/kitten, so My eyes were off her for 10 mins and I walked in to find her with her leg at a raised angle and crying, thankful to have Miss Kitty Bliss with Me that day so emergency dash to vets and she was examined, kept in for observation and pain relief.  They wanted to X-ray but had to schedule her for the next day as had other even more serious emergency surgery in.  A very sleepless night and the next morning I took her for X-rays, diagnosed with a broken Femur right near her growth plate that it would require pinning by a specialist orthopaedic surgeon in Hove the very next day.

My little kitty has had her op and will have to have another to remove the pins as otherwise it will effect her growth (poor sweetheart) now thankfully being a responsible pet mummy I have her on the Vets VIP plan as well as insured so a lot of the expense will be reimbursed in a few weeks.  The excess on the policy is about £150 and also 20% of ALL treatment.  I’ve also had to purchase dog crates and others bits and bobs to aid her recovery.  So far it’s totted up to just under £3K with the vets and bits n bobs around £120.  She also has to have physio appointments at £75 a pop in Worthing, so more expense, fuel/travel/time. The excess/fees will still be in the hundreds.

The reason I’m stating the above is that it’s still a massive dent to the pocket, rather than any perfume/Gin/gift presents I would be so appreciative of donations to her surgery and ongoing physiotherapy.   Thank you in advance to those who would love to help support a good cause.  I think it’s far more important than some others wanting silly loub shoes, furs (fur belongs on the animal) jewels, handbags etc  I am often asked how you can support Me and show appreciation for the wonderful play I provide, so this is it.

Also if you have been thinking of booking in for play, don’t wait! I am available for session in real time and phone chats and you can support Me with purchases of mini movie clips and photos from My Adult Work profile too.  If you just wish to donate then please email Me for My bank account info. https://www.adultwork.com/1248241

I wish you all a very Merry Christmas and I’m sure I will be blogging again in a week or two with updates.

Check out My Twitter for all latest updates and news on a daily/weekly basis https://twitter.com/MsHelenRyder

Kinky wishes

Mistress Helen Ryder

I was going to post a blog back in October when I had been to The Femdom Ball and then got very busy indeed so time for a catch up!

My loyal collared sissy maid came over from Norway and stayed the weekend of the ball and we travelled to London to attend My other very loyal slaves house for drinks/nibbles pre ball and to get ready to go out in style. I wore a gorgeous floor length black fitted dress with ruffles around the top and rhinestones on the waistband, My maid wore a 1950’s black and white maids dress with white gloves and slave wore a black tux and they both had collars/leashes on.

The Femdom Ball is at a secret location so no details other than to say it is a beautiful space and we were all so lucky to attend such an event. I had another outfit to change into at the ball, which was custom made for Me and designed by the amazing Iris of House of Harlot. I had attended the showroom/design studio a couple of weeks back and have a chat about ideas. I was blown away by what she made and it was such a pleasure and honour to model it in the fashion show. I am looking forward to seeing the photos from that night online when they are released. I highly recommend House of Harlot!

Between 9th to 16th I was away being spoilt in Tenerife by My BBF, we had a fantastic time and lots of fun. I even got a bit of a tan, which I’m trying to hold onto with the occasional sunbed and it’s lovely laying there for 6 mins imagining I’m relaxing by the pool or on a beautiful beach.

Apart from some great sessions in October the other fun stuff was filming with Miss Kitty Bliss at a dungeon in Brighton. This was the day after I flew back. The actual filming was fun, location wasn’t very suited to filming due to noise levels etc so we won’t be returning to it. We got some great actions shots, all will be uploaded onto clips4sale in due course (I still need to set this up) both our playmates were great fun, we even went back to mine for a two hour needle session with one of them and then all of us went out to dinner. It was a brilliant day and super evening.

I also had the pleasure of filming at The Hoxton Dungeon with Mistress Clarrisa and Sarah The Invader, with our most delightful hostess Madame Caramel conducting interviews and giving some great direction for our action. Some super slaves and sissies to play with and I’ve just received a load of promo pics today from our cameraman.

Up and coming events are:
Club Sanctum 16th November I would like to attend but unsure at present, as I have a kitten and I can not leave her overnight without a cat carer in place. It has to be one of My dear friends or family who I can 100% trust!

Double Domination days with Miss Kitty Bliss 27th and 28th November in Burgess Hill, there is a blog on this so look for it and have a read.

Possibly attend Club Pedestal on 29th with Miss Kitty Bliss and big Sis Joanna Armstrong.

I have availability throughout November and December up to 23rd, I will be in Yorkshire eve of 23rd through to 26th and travel back to Sussex on 27th December.

A few pics from events mentioned above 😘

Roll up roll up and apply for the time of your life!

Our last double domination event until next year!

From CP, Caning party, Solo sessions both days, Medical, Electrics of EStim, ElectraStim, The Zapper and Violet Wand, Bondage, Pegging, Rope work, needle performance art, Venus 2000, hot wax, BDSM Hypnosis (email ahead for deposit/script created by Miss KB) Cross dressing, sissy maid, worship My peachy bottom whilst Miss Kitty Bliss canes or gives you a lovely warm rosy glow with hand spankings and much much more deviant BDSM fun.  Don’t miss out!!!

I am situated in Burgess Hill RH15, this is just 20 mins from Gatwick Airport (yes people fly in for sessions) It is only 20 mins from Brighton without the stress of extortionate parking fees and trying to find a space.

All sessions are bespoke to your interests and limits, email to arrange a time to chat and discuss your double domme dose of deviant delights.

Hypno enqs via Miss Kitty Bliss https://www.misskittybliss.co.uk/

 

For those who have asked what the difference is between having a double domination with My friend Miss Kitty Bliss and Miss Ruby Vixen.
My friend Miss Kitty Bliss is a lifestyle background established very well renowned Professional Dominatrix, she has her own website and has been in the industry for over 10 years and is fully fledged in many areas of expertise, Shibari needles/medical and hardcore pursuits are a real passion.  MKB excels in hard CP too, she also has a clips website page with many movies to view.  Up until September 2019 MKB was the proprietor of The Barnet Bastille in London.  We have worked together and filmed together for quite some time now, we gel very well together and have a lot of fun double domming.  Your experience will be a fully interactive BDSM kink session with both of us actively pegging you, carrying out intimate examinations and bouncing off each other with ideas, and we both excel in roleplays.  We have events throughout the year together at various locations for filming as well as My base in Burgess Hill West Sussex, so always look out for our blogs.

Two strict Nurses

Miss Kitty Bliss ready for your medical inspection

My other friend Miss Ruby Vixen is new to the world of BDSM and she purely assists Me in session with some spanking, trampling, guided use of electrics and as a voyeur.   She is most happy assisting and flexing her new found dominance alongside Me, she doesn’t switch and doesn’t do anything of  a sexual nature, so do not ask!  I guide and instruct Ruby throughout your session. She doesn’t wish to become a fully fledged full time Dominatrix and enjoys the fun and ease of working as an assistant alongside Me or also helping out on Double Domination events with MKB, two’s company and three’s a party!

Miss Ruby Vixen

Q. Can I cum at any point in the session?

A. Yes if it is appropriate to our session, there are plenty of wonderful gadgets to assist in this (Venus 2000, wand with attachments, powerful massager) and JOI (jerk off instructions if that’s your interest)  during a bit of tie/tease or end of session.  Note I do touch My playmates but I’m not here to wank you off something silly.  Service providers/escorts provide wanks!

Q. How long will it take to get to you?

A. Use Google maps from your location to Burgess Hill West Sussex.  I recently had someone ask how long it would take for him to get to me in October, I’ve no idea if he was planning to miniaturise himself and ride on a snails back, walk, cycle, get a train or drive…..

Q. Do you see females, TV’s, TS’s, Gay, straight, pink with freckles, Budist, Christian  etc?

A. Yes, as long as you are looking for a domination/fetish session, have the right attitude, we have spoken, show respect and that we have agreed to session then all over the age of 21 are welcome.

Q. Can I douche/have an enema?

A. Yes it is £10 extra and you need to book a 90 min session to give enough time to cover this and include your play.

Q. Do you supply all latex clothing for me to wear?

A. No I do not, simply due to lack of storage in My beautiful home with TWO very well equipped rooms for play.  I have a struggle fitting all My own clothing and fetish wear into My wardrobes, as well as all the sissy satin/maids outfits that I do provide, you are most welcome to bring your own along.

Q. Can I have a double domme or assistant join in?

A. With enough notice, this can be arranged and does require a 50% deposit of the full double tribute.

Q. Will you do a surprise domination for my partner?

A. Not without speaking with them first, it is about consent.  All couples bookings require the lady to get in touch and both be available on speaker phone to chat with Me at an arranged time.

Q. Will you force feed me drugs?

A. No and do not bring drugs to My premises.  I only allow poppers, which you have to purchase yourself and bring them to the session due to legality.

Q. Can I arrive fully cross dressed ready to play.

A. Only if you are going to leave in the same manner, it will look odd if anyone see’s a lady arriving and man driving off.  It also depends on if you can pass easily and are wearing something very normal and not looking outrageous or a total trollop.

Q. Do you require filming slaves?

A. Yes, these dates are usually advertised on a blog, it is worth getting in touch to express your interest.  A tribute of £100 is expected for filming and you also need to bring photo I.D and sign a model release form.  Filming is usually from a couple of hours to longer, there might be others present, the scenes are always sorted on the day depending on peoples boundaries and activities.

Q. Can I wear a mask for filming or full make up?

A. Yes you may, make-up application by Me is an extra fee of £40 and takes about an hour.

Q. Can I be your personal slave?

A.No, I have lovely bitch boyfriend for this.

Q. Are you a lifestyle dominatrix?

A.Yes I am, this is way more than a business, however that doesn’t mean I give free sessions out!

Q. Can I send you a script of exactly what I want you to do to me, in a very specific order with 6 of these and 8 of those etc etc

A. No, that is Not Me dominating you.  This is being a Fetish actress and I would have to let go of My Dominatrix integrity and be a Fetish actress for you.  This fee starts at £1,000 for an hour instead of the very reasonable £120.

Q. Can I email or ring you to ask lots of questions that are already covered on your website, but I am too lazy to read?

A. No, all genuine visitors to My establishment did their research, sent a polite email, we had a really lovey chat and they paid their deposit and attended.  It’s ever so simple.

Q. Can you cane me, do ABCD etc and not leave marks?

A. I will take your boundaries into account when we session, very light caning usually doesn’t leave any marks but everyone’s skin/body is different.  If you enjoy pain I can easily inflict some using various techniques and gadgets that will not leave marks.

Q. Can I meet you first for coffee/lunch or dinner?

A. Yes, this requires an email/chat and full payment of My social rates via bank transfer for this meeting so I am not taking money in public (although I do some cash point meets with a deposit in place)

Q. I want to try a domination session but I don’t like pain, does it have to be about pain?

A. No, although I love to inflict it I can introduce you gently into the world of Femdom, kink and light BDSM.

Q. Do I have to be a submissive in order to session?

A. About 70% of My playmates are submissive and the others consider themselves to be kinksters, as long as you have a respectful approach and the right attitude and enjoy the activities I have listed then that is perfectly ok to come along and have some fun.

Q. Do you have an upper age limit?

A. No, as long as you are well and healthy and can walk or wiggle up a flight of stairs with ease, are not likely to croak on My premises then you are welcome to get in touch.  I love older gentleman! I always need to be aware of any medical conditions, be honest!

Q. I’m under 21 will you see me?

A. No I feel youngsters haven’t had enough normal kink in their private personal life and regular life experience as yet, this feels too creepy for Me with such an age gap.

Q. Will you travel to visit me abroad?

A. Not on a first time session, come to the UK and session with Me in My premises first.  If I travel to you all expenses such as travel, My own hotel room/travel and out of pocket expenses will be pre paid by you so that I book My own flights etc.

Q. Can I come clean your house/dungeon/garden etc?

A. No, this doesn’t work for Me as I find it still panders to your time and Not My own.  I would rather do the tasks Myself very well or simply pay a professional to do it.

Q. Can I buy you a gift?

A. Yes gifts are lovely, there is a list of suitable suggestions on My tribute page

Q. Can I see you without paying a deposit?

A. No, all first time visitors or longer repeat bookings have to pay one.

I will add more questions and answers here in due course, depending on My thoughts and what comes up.

 

 

I’ve just had the most wonderful birthday (which was Saturday) and no it’s never too late to buy Mistress a gift from My Amazon wish list or sending over money so I can spend it on something special! I am good for fragrance at the moment as I received two different Tom Ford fragrances (I love TF perfumes) lucky Me!

I was whisked away Thursday and taken to a beautiful hotel and stayed in a tree house, the most luxurious tree house with a bathroom the size of my sitting room, as well as a private outside hot tub.  We had champagne and delicious food in one of the restaurants.  They delivered a luxury hamper of goodies for breakfast, which was superb and enabled us to have another relaxing time in the hot tub before a walk down to the beach, on such a beautiful day too.

Then on to Portsmouth to visit The Mary Rose exhibition, which was fantastic, I really want to visit HMS Victory next time! We had a delicious meal up in one of the restaurants, a little shopping/browsing and then back to Sussex.

I was out with My BBF, very special close friends and family for a meal on the Saturday in Brighton and Sunday it was to the gym and burn of some of that delicious food, then relaxing in the garden after My BBF mowed the lawn (such a good bitch boyfriend) I am back in the swing of things today and have one of My regs booked in for some foot massage, easing Myself back in gently haha…..

I only see regs or pre booked people on bank holidays.  I do have availability this week, a polite email introduction and include the last three digits of your phone number of in full (I won’t call you) and I will reply with best time to give Me a call and briefly discuss session along with dates/times along with sorting the deposit to commit to a great play time.

Upcoming dates for filming and double domme ALL with Miss Kitty Bliss:

2nd September we return to the farm (in Sussex) for a day of fun/filth filming both inside and out (weather permitting) express your interests ASAP as spaces are filling up fast!

25th September Caning party running from 1:30pm to 4:30pm and double domme available this day up to 10pm

Just imagine standing in line waiting in anticipation to go across My knee or Miss Kitty’s, then over the school desk or strapped down to the bench and hear the swish of a cane before it strikes!  All bois will be thoroughly warmed up with various implements and we will take into account your limits/boundaries.

26th September Double Domme up to 10pm Come and explore all manner of BDSM delights.

17th October Filming at The Brighton Dungeon as well as double domme sessions for those who don’t wish to be filmed. 11am to 6pm.

 

 

Today I made the decision to not answer my phone in future for a good while unless I am expecting a call from someone who has sent over a polite email introduction or it is a number I recognise from having seen that person before, be aware sometimes numbers are not saved on My work phone so if you are trying to get through and it keeps going to voicemail then pop over a short email with the last 4 digits or your full number so that I will answer if able to, or suggest a time to call.

Despite having written a very comprehensive informative website that covers every base possible I receive calls that will never come to any fruition and I am a great believer in elimination of stress  and not having to deal with toxic people,  ignoring My phone will be a great tonic to My continued success as a multi talented, very experienced and successful professional Mistress that isn’t willing to put up with the  bullshit!

No more silly questions such as today “do I smoke? No and that is covered on my don’t list.

“Do I still offer circumcision and castration fantasy?  also covered on My website!  BTW this is acting it out, going through the motions and using a safe but realistic tool but NOT to cause actual harm or removal, that would be illegal and downright stupid.

We have a saying in this game: There isn’t anyone quite like a time waster that isn’t gonna spend any money that asks a lot of questions.

Genuine new clients have spent time reading My website, they have researched Me thoroughly, they do not ring up asking pointless questions already covered.

Myself and many other Mistress’s roll our eyes when someone ask if they can just ask a question, usually followed by another question and another whilst that person’s other hand is usually wanking away.

I don’t provide free wank fodder at all, you want professional Mistress services then pay like all My other valued treasured good clients, whom I love coming along to play!

ALL My clients were new to Me once, they had the right attitude, the right approach, they emailed Me and we then had a lovely chat, they paid their deposit and came for their session and many continue to re-book time and time again.