West Sussex Mistress Helen Ryder


DOMINATION & ROLE PLAY with Professional Sussex Mistress Helen Ryder

I have My OWN well equipped domestic dungeon so My pricing reflects the fact I am not paying dungeon rent to a third party!

All new clients to pay a 50% deposit (non refundable, movable to one new date with 24hrs notice) repeat bookings of 90 mins+ to pay a 50% deposit.  No exceptions!

Some gentleman like to bring  a lovely gift along with their tribute, this is always  appreciated, see further below for My suggestions.

Tributes below are during my “normal hours” Any out of hours requests are on a POA basis.

I only offer short sessions for established clients, first timers 90 mins is best!


  •  30 mins £100  CP session or foot worship ONLY I do NOT conduct sessions of less duration in time/tribute CP special One hour £120 or 90 mins £150  This is CP/Impact Play ONLY!
  • BDSM activities 1 hour £140
  • 90 Minutes £180
  • 2 Hours £250
  • 3 Hours £380
  • 4 Hours £440
  • 1 hour double domination with visiting established Mistress Miss Kitty Bliss from £250
  • 1 hour double domination/kinky play time with TGirl Ms Joanna Armstrong from £250 https://twitter.com/JoannaArmstro18
  • 1 Hour with voyeur/assistant £220 (1 person male or female watching only) please state which sex and I will surprise you with whom watches
  • My gorgeous new assistant Miss Ruby Vixen https://www.mistress-helen-ryder.co.uk/my-new-assistant-miss-ruby-vixen/
  • Solo, double, triple, quadruple or more possible, you need to be flexi on dates/times and a very large budget to play with!  This will only take place at either The Gatwick or Brighton Dungeon.
  • Lola My new lifelike sex doll on bookings is an extra £30
  • Couples 1 hour £250, each additional hour after that £150 both of you to call Me when able to chat together, no surprise bookings for another party as it’s not consenting!  This is away from My own premises at a dungeon.  This is NON sexual!
  • Email exchange, a session is arranged within 2 to 3 emails, with deposit by 2nd one, after that I charge for high volume emails, they must be paid for in advance

If you struggle to save money for play then you can enter a saving contract with me where you send over an agreed amount each week or each month until you have paid enough to come and see me.


  • Enema £5.00 for disposable bulb £10 for fleet, applicable on all tribute scales
  • Caging only as per details on session page £60 per hour (play not included)
  • Splosh sessions POA depending on items and duration of play

** I do not profit from other adult providers, we are simply playing together and helping each other out in sessions**


My preferred method is an online bank transfer and details will be provided once we have set up a session. If you do not have online banking you can attend your OWN bank with details I give you to transfer from your account across to mine **  In some cases an Amazon gift voucher is acceptable sent to My Mistress email address, ONLY if pre agreed and I will state the amount.

Booking Procedures blog: click here


My availability for play times:

Monday to Friday 10am to 8pm finish

Saturday and Sunday 11am to 6pm

Same day appointments are sometimes available to existing clientele or those who have an open holding deposit already paid.  I am a well established, well respected and  very competent Dominatrix with regular attendees so it’s best to book ahead where possible if you have limited time constraints.  I will always insist on a deposit if you haven’t been 100% reliable!

Extended Sessions

  • Extended bondage sessions from £250
  • £600 Special 5 hour package of maid/butler for the day or extended sessions to include confinement bondage etc this session includes full professional make-up and basic chores if and waiting upon Me as a maid/butler.  Otherwise confinement bondage or cage time/seclusion for a period of time.  Full interaction over five hours is at £675 (not this special rate)  There will be a short refreshment/comfort break as required
  • Overnight caging £460 to include 2 hours play on arrival, refreshments, overnight caging, depart by 9am. Available to existing clients.
  • £750 Overnight package starts at either 6pm/7pm (time to be agreed) to include a two hour session, light meal, some down time together chatting/social only, then retire at 11pm (you sleep in the playroom on the padded suspension bondage bed)  Up at 7:30/8am  a refreshing morning shower, light breakfast/tea/coffee and then a 2  hour session, time to unwind with a beverage and finishing by midday (time pre agreed) ONLY available to known existing clients.
  • Weekend Special consists of two overnights in the bondage room either on top of the bed or in the cage, 2.5 hours of full play each day, out to have lunch or dinner (expenses covered by you) Fri eve through to Sunday lunch from £950.

Social Events, advice and mentor

Coffee Meets: £80 either a coffee shop or at My premises

Lunch £120

Dinner £145

The above is payment in full beforehand bank transfer only and will include you treating Me to the beverages/food of My choice at a mutually agreed local venue.  This is ideal for very nervous first timers and is your opportunity to meet and get to know Me prior to embarking on play times in a relaxed setting or for those who desire those little top ups outside of play time spending time with Mistress.

Social events such as The Femdom Ball or Fetish Clubs: are available to slaves/subs with impeccable manners, generous nature and when attending a Femdom event understand that you will speak when allowed to, not monopolise conversation or become jealous if I am interacting with others at events.  you are here to make My life enjoyable, fun and enhance it without ANY negativity!

I have amended My social rates to POA, this is because there is a sliding scale of tributes based on your regular attendance and each social event will be based on those merits.

  • Attendance to fetish events/munches this is only available to those who have attended sessions with Me.
  • Dinner social dates available to those who have just had a session of two hours+ , the expenses of food etc covered by you, along with a £100 tip presented in a nice card before we go out.
  • New to BDSM and want advice/mentor, whilst I love to share My knowledge, My time needs to be covered POA basis depending on duration and meeting place, £160 1st hour.
  • Shopping trips £80 per hour with 2 hour min booking. £100 min spend from you on My items. Lets go shopping for new frilly’s/stockings etc for you and Me.

Gatwick, Brighton or Hoxton Dungeon

On occasions I session in a larger play space, sessions at either the Brighton or Gatwick Dungeon start from £250 for one hour,this is inclusive of dungeon hire and my time/travel.  Longer sessions are available on a POA basis. 48 hours notice is required to book this location.

The Hoxton dungeon requires 4 days notice to book, a one hour session is £350 to cover all hire/train travel & cabs/My time.  Longer play times are possible and a scale of fees are provided on application.

Hotel Visit

A visit to your QUALITY 4* hotel within East/West Sussex. The latest appointment time will be 7pm. My kit will consist of sensory play, tie and tease, alternative massage, pegging, impact play/CP/Spanking, breath play, CBT equipment.  Trample and foot worship sessions also suitable.

  • 1 hour £350
  • 1.5hrs £400
  • 2 hrs £450 this is the max time unless you wish to book Me for dinner with My approval before/after the domination session depending on timings.
  • London hotels are £500 per hour with a min two hour booking.

Alternate Massage

60 minute  £160 at My premises in Burgess Hill

Contact Details

Mobile: 07510 698761   Call between 10:00am to 8:00pm     (email first)

I will NOT reply to ANY text messages, a conversation is essential
Email: helen-ryder@hotmail.com I reply to all polite well constructed emails within  48 hours, emails that are lewd are deleted.  Reminder when making first contact with a stranger that first impressions really count!

Gifts, spoil ME

I really love receiving gifts and it makes a great impression, and you can show your appreciation of a great session by leaving a review using the link below.

Review http://mistressreview.com/Mistress-Reviews/Mistress-Helen-Ryder~54804.html  

Follow Me on Twitter and re-tweet my events and almost daily uploads https://twitter.com/MsHelenRyder

Suitable Gifts:

Monetary Tip in a nice handwritten note or card, this can be saved with other tips and go towards something special

A Lady loves sexy Lingerie and I love shopping at Agent Provocateur and Playful Promises, send an email gift voucher

I love receiving perfume and it’s wonderful smelling divine!

Here are some of My faves, either pick one you love from My likes or ask Me which one I’m running low on!

I would love the following as currently do not have these: Penhaligons Clandestine Clara, The Revenge of Lady Blanche and Halfeti.

Others I like below:

Jo Loves, various (ask Me)

Jo Malone Perfume, Velvet Rose & Oud, Pomegranate Noir

Tom Ford Perfume:  Private Blend Tabacco Vanille, Rose Prick, Black Orchid

I LOVE TO SHOP!  Gift card for All Saints, Debenhams, House of Fraser,  Selfridges, Net a Porter or Havery Nichols

Wolford or Falke hosiery size L or XL

What Katie Did seamed stockings size M/L

Molton Brown bubble bath/shower gel,  Fiery Pink Pepper, Russian Leather, Oudh Accord & Gold are My faves.

Wine full bodied reds, White: Sancerre

AMAZON GIFT CODES, very useful and great for spending as I see fit, bought online or buy from a shop & scratch off to reveal and email Me the code along with a message.


Unsuitable Gifts: Alcohol of your own choice, chocolates or any other food items of your choice, NO flowers or indoor plants due to allergies/poisons.  No monogram or name gifts as this is pointless.