West Sussex Mistress Helen Ryder


Welcome to the site of West Sussex Mistress Helen Ryder.  I have two of the very best well equipped play rooms within my privately owned house.  One is a white medical room “My own kinky clinic” for medical roleplays and the procedures suited to “The Clinic”  with gyno chair and and bondage chair for medical themes. The other room “The Kink Emporium” in my bijou residence has a wonderful ambience a boudoir feel to it.  This is set up for alternate massage, CP, Strap-on fun and much more with the multi-functional bondage bed and bench.  My premises are used solely by me and not rented out to anyone.

I am a multi faceted Mistress with many fetish areas of interest.  I am passionate about domestic discipline as well as sissy transformations, come along to the gender reassignment Klinic for full feminisation, release your inner “Gurl” learn how to be a slut, some maid training, deportment and much more.  I am interested in ALL genders and sexuality (that does NOT mean sex with Me)

When you write to Me simply provide the bare bones of an idea (not a novel) along with dates . We will have a good chat one the session date is secure and on the day, you will see your fantasy come to life in a naturally evolving organic way and not from a script.  Those who write a short respectful email will receive a reply.  I delete lewd graphic emails as a first contact introduction. All new clients are required to book with a minimum of 24 hours notice in order to communicate openly as well as process the first time visit deposit to secure your playtime.  There are NO exceptions!

I am a natural born leader, feisty fun alpha female and certainly no puppet on a string to do your bidding, I am not a simple service provider. I see many new players with the right attitude, which is that we have mutual interests and that you are coming along to be My wonderful plaything and you will be respectful in all manner of approach and that you will have read My website in full and not ask “what services I offer”  it is the wrong approach, indicates you haven’t read My information thoroughly and have the wrong approach.

Unlike some dirty tax dodgers, this is My legitimate legal tax paying business, which just happens to be something I really enjoy and I am very passionate about!

Please read this blog for FAQ’s that often come up! https://www.mistress-helen-ryder.co.uk/faqs/

Fetish Furniture:

  • Bathroom splosh/food play sessions
  • Bondage Chair
  • Bondage Bed with floating swing or board, Not full suspension
  • Suspended Floating Board for sensory deprivation or pallet wrapping
  • Stocks
  • St Andrews Cross
  • Full Length Cage (lay down)
  • Spanking Bench
  • Smother Box for face sitting/watersports
  • Gyno Bench (adjustable for sitting up/laying down)
  • Domestic Scenarios: Such as OTK spanking on my comfy chaise lounge sofa or over my school desk for those who don’t like dungeon style equipment. In my FAQ’s you will find a list of the activities that I thoroughly enjoy.
  • Various exciting adult toys for your pleasure


I am situated approximately under 2 miles from the A23 exit Burgess Hill.  5 mins from Starbucks/Burger King services. If coming by taxi I’m just 5 minutes from Burgess Hill train station, approx 20 minutes by car from Gatwick Airport, and around one hour from London Victoria via fast train.

Burgess Hill is only three train stops from Brighton, without taking out a second mortgage or worry of parking, as it is free, easy and discreet.

I regularly update my blog page with new photographs, salacious stories, general news and on occasions the homework tasks I have set my regular slaves/submissive to write about their sessions (if they wish to share them with you the reader)

All sessions are strictly by appointment.


From early days tying boys up to lamp posts and laughing with my girlfriends, exerting that special power over them.   Dressing my male friend in a bridesmaid dress and full make up and making him parade around for my amusement and then in my twenties attending Fetish parties and clubs, having had relationships and a small stable of personal slaves that I am a lifestyle Mistress and became a professional dominatrix as a natural progression.  I am not “one of those” who thought this would be easy money and jump on the bandwagon after reading some salacious news article or some sleazy TV programme!

I love working in this chosen profession, beats any day compared to my previous high response stressful job working 24/7 cover in the public sector!  Such superb job satisfaction” as a “Professional Dominatrix” I simply adore seeing my “boi/girl & anyone in between toys” quivering in anticipation, exerting my power over them and seeing such pleasure and pain in their faces.  Read My website in full in regards activities that interest Me and the ones I do not participate in.

Newbies & The Experienced

I welcome new players having first spoken with you about where your interests lie, any concerns that you may have and what it is that you would like to experience from a session.   I am very warm and approachable and very firm when the situation/session calls for!  BDSM and seeing a professional Mistress is not all about receiving pain or most certainly not about being abused, it’s about having fun whilst exploring your kinks and delivering a fantasy in a safe, sane and consensual  environment.  Good clear polite communication is key to getting it right!

I see lots of seasoned players too, all session are bespoke to your particular interests and within MY boundaries and yours.  Simply get in touch to discuss a session or a fantasy you may have and have it tailored to your desires, fitting ultimately into MY own interests listed.  For those who can take hard CP and other extreme delights, be aware I especially love to release My inner sadist to those that can take it!  Please let Me know if you are a screamer so we can session in an industrial dungeon and not domestic.

I set a little extra time aside after your session for a cuppa/biscuit and on some occasions a nice slice of cake.  Just let me know beforehand so I may have some sweet treats in for you. It’s great to unwind and become grounded again after a play time, if you prefer to have a bash/dash session with time constraints then that is ok too.


My premises are always clean and all items/toys used sterilized and sanitised to very high standards.  I use medical supply equipment and use strict cross contamination measures with any equipment used. There are times through out the session where I wear nitrile gloves for specific procedures.   Rest assured you are in safe capable hands.  I have a clinical background in former employment.  Having to attend the doctors or A&E due to not using sterile lube is rather boring so I do have have high protocol in regards how we play and what is used!  There are some unsafe high risk to your health Mistress’s out there so do your research well.  A wipe down with kitchen anti back simply doesn’t clean to the same standard of the products I use!

For make-overs I use one use mascara wands, decant products from the main bottles including lipsticks so there is no risk of facial herpes.  All make-up brushes are then fully cleaned in anti bac soap and sprayed before using on others.  There are lots of infections, especially conjunctivitis and facial herpes that can be passed on (they are not always visible) so I take every care not to put you at risk.  Wiping a make-up brush on a tissue before using on another is utterly disgraceful!

I expect you to have an excellent level of personal hygiene, washing facilities (if needed) are available for both before and after your session.  You may bring your own wash bag or use the vast selection of products provided as well as a fresh fluffy towel for your use only.  *anal play (come thoroughly cleansed) a quick acting enema at a cost of £10 can be administered at the start of the session if you are not able to prepare yourself.  Enjoy a nice hot shower before and after your session in my well equipped premises.  Aftercare is provided if I feel you may need grounding after your elated state so you are safe to drive/travel home.  I have a high regard for duty of care with my clients.

*Note this is a domestic environment with two Felines in residence,  My cats do not enter the playrooms whilst in session and all surfaces are wiped down and disinfected daily.  There is no odour of cat as they are scrupulously clean as well as everywhere else.  The only carpeted area is the stairs, all other flooring is laminate.

I only offer one or two sessions a day strictly by appointment.

Mistress clothing:

I make great choices in my own attire and prefer to dress to please myself in a way which will create an air of mystery to the session and surprise you.

I have a variety of “Mistress attire” and you will see some of this in my gallery. It is fine to express that you have a liking for a type of look, which I may take into consideration if I feel it works for the nature of play!  Please respect that Mistress is NOT a dress up doll!

Be aware the more “demands” you try and impose the less accommodating I am! I am the one in control here and you will submit and bend to My will!

I do NOT offer nude sessions EVER!