• West Sussex Mistress
  • Sussex Mistress
  • West Sussex Mistress
  • Sussex Mistress

West Sussex Mistress Helen Ryder

Tribute and contact

Email: helen-ryder@hotmail.com as first contact please, I love meeting new people and will reply to all polite, respectful well constructed emails within 48 hours, emails that are nonsense or lewd and crude/disrespectful are deleted.

Mobile for clients whom have sent a deposit or call cover fee: 07510 698761   Call between 10:00am to 7:00pm. 

No phone texting. Sessions only discussed in detail on phone after a confirmed booking.

DOMINATION & ROLE PLAY with Professional Sussex Mistress Helen Ryder

I have My own well equipped domestic playroom/mini dungeon

Some gentleman like to bring  a lovely gift or tip along with their tribute, this is always appreciated, see further below for My suggestions.  I love being spoilt!  All sessions start with a friendly chat so that you feel in the right zone and ready to play, unless you have asked otherwise.




  • SHORT SHARP SHOCK! Enter, drop your trousers & bend over for 6/12 of the best or a good spanking MAX of 30 mins £130


  • ONE HOUR £160 this is basic BDSM (pick 3 interests)
  • 90 MINUTES £220
  • TWO HOURS £280
  • THREE HOURS £390
  • Then £150 each additional hour
  • ONE HOUR double domination with visiting established Mistress Miss Kitty Bliss or Mistress Leather Amber £320 longer sessions available POA Please note this is West Sussex rates for doubles, touring will incur higher/different rate
  • Couples at My discretion in Burgess Hill 90 MINUTES £300,  TWO HOURS £370


ALL dungeon hire fee’s are binding/final and non refundable, with 72hrs notice to reschedule on ONE occasion only.






Hotel Visit

A visit to your own hotel room starting FROM £250 for one hour if within 15 miles, additional hrs £140ph. POA depending on time of evening and the distance (I sometimes require a driver if available)   Provide all the details for an informed quote.

Sessions additions & Medical

Medical sessions start from a duration of TWO hours plus the sundries below if applicable

  • Enema £5.00 for disposable bulb £12 for fleet, applicable on all tribute scales
  • Caging/Tied and left alone: only as per details on session page £90 per hour (play not included) Only at Burgess Hill minimum TWO hour booking unless you have booked a BDSM session with time added on to be caged
  • Vet wrap £55
  • Multiple play piercings from £10 to cover 20  (POA for anything over 20)

** I do not profit from other adult providers, we are simply playing together and helping each other out in sessions**


My preferred method is via My bank account, or Tip Funder account and details will be provided once we have set up a session.  I do NOT use Paypal.  In some cases I may accept an Amazon gift code.  Cash drop off as per blog info incurs a £50 fee sent first (Amazon GC)  for meet/greet, always check with Me first in your first contact, which method you would prefer to use.  I am also happy to accept an online voucher from https://www.highstreetvouchers.com/

Booking Procedures blog: click here


My availability for play times:

Monday to Friday 10am to 8:30pm finish

Saturday and Sunday 10am to 6pm (booked a week ahead minimum)

I am a well established, highly respected and  very competent Dominatrix on the Brighton/Sussex scene, as well as London and afar! I have regular attendees so it’s best to book ahead where possible if you have limited time constraints.  I do take on new clients provided you follow My booking procedures blog.  I run a fun but tight ship!


  • THREE HOURS £350 involves a variety of positions and time alone
  • FOUR HOURS £450 to include a light refreshment break and extra hours at £150 per hour after
  • POA basis on overnights and anything not advertised, I require 7.5 hours uninterrupted sleep on overnights


Coffee, kink chat & cake Meets: £120 either a coffee shop or at My premises

Lunch/Dinner £150

Night out at a fetish or adult club £750

Out of pocket expenses, food/drink covered by you


All flights/accommodation fee to be covered by you and I book it myself.  A set tribute agreed and paid in advance by bank transfer, starting from £3,500.  POA.


Come and dress in a maids uniform, clean thoroughly to My utmost satisfaction! FOUR TO FIVE hours max and will include ONE hour of play and ONE hour of light or heavier bondage (tied and left to stew) plus a short light refreshment break £450 start time from 11:00am with some flexibility of arrival time.


Do you crave to have a simple proper girls day or night in?


11am – 5pm (start time can be later, finishing by 8pm)  without play £550

£650 to include BDSM play

Dress/Make-up, photos taken if desired, enjoy a light lunch.  Peruse some online shopping sites and receive guidance for shopping, girly time/chat.

Dress up/Make-Up, photos taken if desired, enjoy some nibbles/Prosecco We can have a proper girly gossip talking make-up & dressing tips, peruse some online shopping for lovely new lingerie, Have a great playtime OR enjoy a chick flick, hot shower and make the transformation back into male mode feeling elated from your special girly time.

It’s advisable to do any full body shaving/depilation prior to your arrival.


I will only accept applications from experienced players.

I require your photo/age I.D and sign a model release form.  This will be within my clip sites for ever or until I look to retire, not taken down on request as the model release gives me all rights. The activities will be which ever I choose to do on the day (the less boundaries you have the better) a mask can be worn.  Tribute is £220 and you will be here for 2.5 to 3 hours.  Filming isn’t a way to get a cheap session, it’s a different type of fun way to serve and be useful.  There will be camera setting up and breaks between scenes, so this doesn’t flow like a dedicated session would.  I would not advise this to the inexperienced player, especially NOT a first session.

* Please be aware that once the model release is signed and filming agreed to it is a contract that the footage/images are owned by Me for distribution on any sites I choose and you waiver any rights to ask/demand they are removed from circulation at any future date.



I really love receiving gifts and it makes a great impression that you’ve put some effort and thoughts into the dynamics of coming to see Me!

Follow Me on Twitter and re-tweet my events and almost daily uploads https://twitter.com/MsHelenRyder

Suitable Gifts that I would love:

Money, it’s simple and I can spend as I see fit

Send via Mistress Helen Ryder | TipFunder

Tips via Tip Funder show as Inet Cash GMBH on bank statements

I love Gin and Fever Tree LIGHT tonic, small batch Gin and I always require the mini cans in a box of LIGHT tonic water (The light or dark BLUE ones only, thanks)

Beautiful clothing from All Saints, send Me vouchers (perfect, thank you) ALLSAINTS UK: Gift cards and vouchers, shop now.

I love receiving perfume and it’s wonderful smelling divine! Ask Me which one I’m running low on, many of My favourites are by Tom Ford and SANA JARDIN (a vegan perfume brand) My faves are: Berber Blonde, Incense Water & Revolution De La Fleur

AMAZON GIFT CODES very useful, bought online or buy from a shop & scratch off to reveal and email Me the code along with a message

Gift Vouchers for Botanquie restaurant in Brighton from £25 Gift Vouchers — Botanique. Vegan Fine Dining Restaurant in Brighton (botaniquebrighton.com)

John Lewis or Selfridges vouchers

I love wearing exquisite high end lingerie and typically sets are £250+ having received GC’s for very low amounts in the past (sadly pointless) so ask Me only if you wish to dress me in a full set!

Equipment from Quality Control, The London Tanners, Ouch UK,  McHurt & other good quality fetish suppliers, please ask Me what I require.  Although I have plenty and no longer feel there is much I should be adding much more to my vast collection.

Unsuitable Gifts: Alcohol of your own choice, chocolates or any other food items of your choice, NO flowers or indoor plants due to allergies/poison risk to Cat.  No monogram or name gifts as this is pointless.