My lovely Gwawr travels some distance to see me and we have the most amazing photo shoots and play dates!  I came up with the idea of summer garden tea party, which turned into high tea by the time we had taken many pics, outfits changes and then up to the playroom for plenty of mischief 😉 some of the things were spanking, paddles, lots of tickle torment, teasing, dildo sucking, pegging, edging and I made sure there was plenty of cream consumed!

There was plenty of plotting and planning, plus collecting up some fantastic props and colour ideas between us, I go the extra mile for my players who are so kind and generous with me that it is reciprocated.

I really love getting creative and doing fun shoots like this, universe please bring along some more! 🙏 I love them! 😍

Here are a few pics of the day, keeping the play ones private for personal use for Gwawr only 😉

Who else wants to release their inner “Gurl” or simply book a session and have some fun?

My availability until My mini holiday up North & Download Festival  1/6 2pm-4pm

2/6 Not available

3/6 11am-6pm


5/6 DD fun with @Miss_KittyBliss

6/6 3pm-8pm

7/6 11am-4pm

8/6 11am-4pm

9/6 11am-2pm

10/6 – 17/6 inclusive AWAY! DOWNLOAD FESTIVAL email

Available from 18th June for phone platforms

19th June real time sessions

21st June

22/23/24 June Not available

25th-30th Inclusive I have availability


Email to book reading the booking blog link for information about deposits.

Want to discuss a booking on the phone?

Yes that’s fine with Me but I will ask you to email Me first & either pay a small call cover time fee of £20 for a phone consultation prior to the actual booking or simply pay your 50% deposit and then you will be able to discuss in full your session with Me.

This simply weeds out those who are not genuine about booking and lets Me focus My time on those that are!  I’m at My best when I know you are serious about coming along to play and creating wonderful experiences with people.

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Book your shared playtime Thursday 6th June 2024! ASAP! Lets have a kinky lil 3sum party!

TWO bois per playtime, bi interaction encouraged, sexuality & limits respected, straight play & taking turns for those who don’t wish to explore their bi side.  I will ensure that you are suitably matched for straight/bi sessions.


2:30pm – 4pm

£150 each for 90 mins playtimes in Burgess Hill

Deposit mandatory

I have availability for sessions as per usual and I am looking for a filming sub too!

Is there a boy out there that wants to book a filming session as per My advertised filming rates for the following content:

Stuffing your pleasure hole full of mini choccy eggs & have you rebirth them into a nappy, will require a douche first so it’s just chocolate expelling

Face slapping and spitting


Foot worship & foot tease on your cock

Mouth soaping

Edging with wands over & over, orgasm control, maybe ruined orgasm and post orgasm torment (P.O.T) plus CEI

CP at a moderate level

I will require a signed model release form and I need to take a photo of your driving licence or passport ID, you may wear a hood but I would prefer if you were happy showing your face especially for the face slapping/spitting and foot worship clips.  At My own playroom in Burgess Hill.

West Sussex Mistress Helen Ryder (

Roll up boys and gurls, book your playtime with Moi and My bestie Miss Kitty Bliss

Two wicked ladies who want to tease, toy and manipulate the pleasures of your flesh!

One hour appointment £300

90 min appointment £400

Two hour appointment £520

Filming subs (only those with experience/less boundaries the better) model release/photo id required TWO hours max £420

We advise to book in ASAP and a mandatory non refundable early deposit is required

FRIDAY 12th APRIL 2024

Have you been a very naughty boy and need some strict attentions to your bottom?

Well, you had better book your appointment with strict Mistress Helen, an expert disciplinarian to administer some  hand spankings, slipper, paddles, caning and tawse etc lets make sure you are glowing and that your internal reset button is dealt with! Boundaries and limits pre discussed of course.

There is a special rate on FRIDAY 12th APRIL 2024 ONE HOUR £140 this is purely an offer for impact play ONLY and no other activity, unless you wish to book in at My usual rate of course.

Sessions will run from 1pm to 9:30pm finish with ONLY FOUR available appointments booked in.  This is to allow cleaning gaps, as well as R&R for Mistress to be fresh for each visitor.  This will take place in My domestic playroom in Burgess Hill.  Other venues not available on this date.

Book and pay your deposit promptly to secure your special time.

My booking procedures and how to pay your deposit in this blog link:

Mistress Helen Ryder of West Sussex (


The Goddess Society, hosted by the utterly amazing Lady Ava Sheridon  @avasheridon

are BACK in Brighton with the much sought after Anti -Valentines Edit. Yes, you heard right: three whole glorious hours of you being naked, serving and entertaining Us in a variety of wickedly delightful ways.

WHEN: Thursday 15th February 2024 5-8pm

WHERE: Central Brighton location. Address will be sent in your confirmation email.

WHO: Goddesses in Attendance:

Your Host: Lady Ava Sheridon, The Goddess Society:

Domina Blaize @DominaBlaize

Domina Joi Bleu @Joi_Bleu

Myself: Mistress Helen Ryder @MsHelenRyder

PRICE: £220 per submissive which is for the entire 3 hour duration of the event! PLACES: LIMITED!!!!!! There are 8 premium places in total. One of them belongs to you. BOOK YOUR PLACE NOW:

FemDom CFNM Brighton Party ClothedFemaleNakedMale Valentines

Just four days into the New Year and My diary is filling up nicely 🙂 I had a superb playtime last night and I’m still smiling!

Today I am logged into the phone chat lines, no clients booked in for today.  Still keeping myself busy with phone work, blogging, SEO and X posts etc….

Here are ALL My links to perfuse:

Mistress Helen Ryder The Ultimate Sussex Mistress’s links (

I love receiving tips or money gifts through Wish Tender if you do not wish to send direct to My own bank account and receive more of the money then tipping through other platforms.  It’s also another way you can send a deposit if you do not want my vanilla name showing on your bank account.


Sadly it just takes a couple of bad apples to make Me have to really enforce deposits!  I am posting this to hi-lite why it is essential that you pay a deposit and respect My time.

EVERYONE has to pay a deposit.

I was badly let down by two clients recently, one accepted a reverse bid on AW, booked Me knowing in advance a deposit would be expected.  He stated he would send an Amazon GC without even asking if it was ok.  I asked him to call Me at a set time & pay deposit by a set time and then he suddenly had Covid!  Yet was on AW changing his user name at the height of being extremely ill. He sent a £20 Amazon GC as way of an apology, which didn’t really cover his messing.

Another client who has always bank transferred a deposit booked three weeks in advance, asked if he could pay in full when he came as didn’t wish to use his account then let me down only a day before with Covid!  No offer of any compensation to Me, if I had the deposit in, it wouldn’t have been such a blow to my self employed status and his deposit would have been held against a new booking.  £150 less income that week instead of the £300 loss of income.  So you can see where this is going!

If you are genuinely ill then obviously I do not want to catch anything, however My finances shouldn’t suffer because of you!

Hair salons, spas, tattooists etc are ALL taking deposits (due to being self employed) and some state that payment in full should you cancel at short notice will be expected.  The fact I state I will move your deposit to one new date is very fair.

If you do not have any intention of booking Me or paying a deposit then please do NOT contact Me!  Those who message or repeatedly call without commiting, I will ensure your phone number/email is circulated on time waster and nuisance forums.

I am blocking/black listing and reporting those who mess Me around.  The only way to get unblocked is to write an apology and pay what’s due/outstanding if you’ve previously messed Me about AND pay in FULL for your next appointment.



Another year flying by it seems…..

I’ve had lots of fun n frolics this past year, if I had to leave anything behind at all it would just be any negativity from the ones who didn’t cut the mustard, got banned and blacklisted to boot on various forums.  For failing to pay deposits, to cancelling with no offer of compensation on the day.

I’m entering 2024 with FIRM goals to give My wonderful business model some extra attention with updates and photo sets on My LoyalFans platform, more POV saucy clips on My Adult Work profile and being available on My phone platforms when not in real time or gym/downtime, yes guilty as charged for not always taking some time off!

Now a reminder that BDSM, playtimes are a luxury!  Hence I will not lower My rates or give discounts when you ask.  You are paying for a wealth of experience with a quality array of the finest tools of My trade.  ALL appointments require a deposit, ANY short notice cancellations will be covered in full or get blacklisted.  Although I will still offer some appointments of one hour, priority will be given to bookings from 90 mins.

I am interested in collabs with other ladies for filming, My own filming rates will apply.  Otherwise just GG shared content is also welcome for BDSM or of a more adult content for Adult Work.

Wishing you all a healthy fun filled 2024

Thank you to the dear subs who have supported Me over this past year and I look forward to more fun n games with you all very soon.

All My best swishes

Mistress Helen XXX

P.S Anyone sending messages re your mental health, especially for extreme penile operations etc then contact the numbers below

I am a Dominatrix not a surgeon or mental health expert.