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Monday 15th November I have Mistress Lola Noir coming to visit for the day, we recently did a great medical workshop and sharing of Our skills.  I will be helping Mistress Lola with WordPress and we have set time aside to offer the rare opportunity for a double domme or two that day between 4pm to 7pm.  Mistress Lola Noir 💋 ⛓🧨 (@MissLolaNoir) / Twitter

Mistress Lola is lots of fun, is very petite in statue with size 3 feet and very small hands, great for My fisting subs!  One hour double domme is £250 two hours £500 with 50% deposit.

On 25th November My bestie Mistress Kitty Bliss will be here for double domme and then we are heading off out to Pedestal that night, we have been double domming for a few years now so really gel very well in Our play!

We have from 12 midday available up to 6pm finish, we only take two sessions on double domme so book asap   Miss Kitty Bliss (@Miss_KittyBliss) / Twitter

This is My Twitter for all current updates/pics Mistress Helen Ryder The Ultimate Sussex Mistress (@MsHelenRyder) / Twitter

Send your application for the above events to helen-ryder@hotmail.com following the booking procedures blog.

 

In the first instance please write an email to Me, keep it to 2/3 paragraphs max, include the following, your age, any medical conditions, any allergies or past trauma that might affect a session.  Include a very brief synopsis of the type of play.  Any emails that are overtly rude/crude/multiple paragraphs are deleted.

Include the dates/times you can commit within My timings on My website.  Include your mobile number in full or last four digits and I will reply with suggested times to call for a brief chat.  Please also send £20 phone call payment, which comes off the final tribute balance if/when you attend.

Ensure you have read the blog Back to Work Plans regarding Covid19 and about paying a deposit, which is linked on the tribute page.

Once we have spoken/agreed a session please pay the bank transfer deposit or Amazon gift code if I have agreed this in our conversation.

Note: I usually only answer My phone when expecting a call, if I answer without your intro email in place I will not be answering questions and will ask you to email with the requested information above.

ALL New clients to book 24 hours ahead, NO exceptions!  In My area today, you knew this yesterday or further back!  Plan your kink and respect My time.

Existing clients may book a same day play time, with minimum of TWO hours notices from having spoken/agreed, bear in mind that this isn’t always possible as if I am not already pre booked I may be busy elsewhere.

Example email

Dear Mistress Helen  NOT helen, babe, goddess etc

I’m looking to book a session later this week and from 4pm would be best on the following days…..

I’m fit & well, no allergies double jabbed OR I have asthma, allergic to…

I’m new/experienced and I’m interested in the following: CP light/Moderate/Hard can/can’t be marked, pegging/anal play, medical fetish etc…

Best wishes

Name you wish to use

………………………………………………………………………………

I look forward to quality respectful subs/kinksters

Mistress Helen

I’m teaming up again with My friend Lady Amber in Gravesend Kent on Tuesday 2nd November from midday to 9pm

Weds 3rd from 10am to 1pm finish

If you are known to me then get in touch to book or contact Lady Amber via her website and Twitter StrictLeatherLadyAmber (@StrictLadyAmber) / Twitter

50% Deposits are mandatory

We are available for CP Spankings ALL impact play

Strict Bondage sessions, rope, leather, chains, pallet wrap, taping etc

Tickle torment

Breath play

Foot worship & trample

Please note these particular DD events do not include any pegging, anal, medical play or happy endings.  We cater to the old school fetish folk.  If in doubt send a polite email to check on style/aspects of play.

 

 

 

I had an absolute blast yesterday teaming up for some extra medical practice with the lovely Mistress Lola Noir and a very game lab rat aka client!  Mistress Lola Noir 💋Berlin 24th-31st Oct ⛓🧨 (@MissLolaNoir) / Twitter

I now feel more proficient in catheters’ that I am adding this to the medical play (if desired by you) as well as offering double medical fetish with Mistress Lola both here in Sussex or over in Stratford.  We will require a minimum of 48 hours notice with deposit in place for Mondays and Fridays only.

These duo medical sessions will be starting at 90 mins for £400 fully inclusive tribute.

We can also be available for the more gentle side of BDSM and alternative massage and sensual domination

Just to clarify that short notice appointments are ONLY available to established regulars and I do require TWO full hours minimum notice from having spoken/emailed between us and I will still require the bank transfer deposit or payment in full within 10 minutes of that agreement.  This ONLY applies to bookings in Burgess Hill, I require 48 hours min notice for The Gatwick Dungeon or The Brighton Dungeon.

 

If you just happen to be passing through Burgess Hill (having never seen Me before) do NOT contact Me!  This is the oldest time waster tactic in history.  It shows a lack of any respect for My booking procedures, security and vetting.

 

  • If you do not have any access to email Me do NOT contact Me.
  • If you are not willing to send a 50% bank transfer deposit do NOT contact Me.  My only interest is that you commit and turn up to play.
  • Plan ahead, book, pay your deposit in the time frame I state.  Like all the good bois/bitches that do.

I’m here for mutual fun, doing a job I actually really love!  Lets keep it that way 🙂

 

 

 

The Salon Fetish roleplay session, written by the lovely chap who visited!

 

To Heavenly Hell & back.

Almost a month ago now, on a Thursday, I noticed on social media that a wonderful iconic local Domme had posted information saying how a sub had let Her know he couldn’t attend the session planned for the Saturday coming & that She was now free for a 3 hour session.

I quickly checked Her website & wrote to ask If I might be considered for the session.

I had been frustrated in my attempt to visit another Domme while on my caravan holiday walking in Pembrokeshire. My elderly car cooked it’s gearbox & my life got very complicated & demanding as I sourced & bought a replacement car & got it fitted with a tow bar to be able to bring the caravan back home.

I rechecked Her website where I discovered how to apply for a session & sent Her the full fee for a 3 hour session, & detailed my experience & health issues, hard limits & desires, late on the Thursday evening. I also wrote to my Mistress to let Her know of my plans.

She quickly wrote back the next day saying I was first in line & how she wanted to explore my request for a Beauty Therapy role play taken beyond the therapy. I was tto ring at a certain time so that She could give me details & an address to attend.

We chatted on the phone for about 20 minutes & she detailed all her requirements & expectations & mine too. I was already excited to be putting my self into Her expert & experienced hands.

I received two more messages, one asking about impact play & marks, & one telling me to sleep tight ready for the session next day.

I arrived at the designated spot & waited to ring her at 10;30.

My mind was racing trying to anticipate what might happen & I was excited & dry in the mouth.

I love the feelings & responses an anticipation of sessions brings.

I rang at exactly 10;30 & the phone was answered within 3 rings.

I was welcomed & told how to find Her premises & the house number.

I drove round the corner parked & locked the car, walking up the path, where the door opened before I could ring the bell.

We had met before at a couple of Pedestal events & a munch or two, but I had forgotten how lovely She is.

There She stood having welcomed me in, wearing an authentic beauty therapy cross buttoned tunic outfit including Her professional insignia.

I was asked to remove my shoes, to take a seat on the sofa & offered a cup of herb tea.

She was expecting a delivery so wanted to wait for it so our “treatment session” wasn’t interrupted.

Her easy manner & lovely ability to put me at ease & enquire interested about my experiences & to tell what She had planned for my “therapy” . “ I won’t tell you everything, some surprises are delightful!”

The parcel arrived & I finished my lovely herb tea & was ushered up stairs.

We entered the dungeon room & I was shown some of Her amazing collection of all manner of restraints, clothing & devices plus could see the amazing treatment table with overhead frame & cage below.

In the corner was a spanking bench with many lovely leather restraints.

Mistress told me to undress & gave me a bowl in which to put all my clothes.

“For the treatment to be most effective we will start with an enema. Then I shall shave the poarts of your body I wish to.!”

I was led into the bathroom where a fleet enema was administered very professionally & I was offered to shower so that the body shave could be lathered.

It is the strangest feeling in the world having your testicles held & shaved, the razor gliding over my cock & the inner thighs. I am turned round, bent over in the bath & my arse & buttocks are made hairless in no time. Next I am stood and my pecs / moobs are shaved & I am getting hard & aroused by the intimate attention. All the while She is chatting & enquiring & getting to know me & I feel totally understood & cared for. I learn of Her aromatherapy qualifications & am introduced to some amazing smells.

An assisted shower leaves me hyper aware of the areas that have been made hairless and smooth.

I towelled off and my abdomen is massaged to accentuate the gurgling effects of the enema & soon I am ready to evacuate.

There is something very submissive indeed in sitting on the loo while the Domme stands over you & supervises the evacuation, knowing what is to follow.

Having one’s arse inspected and wiped too makes for a regression like no other.

I am led, feeling a bit spaced & heady, back into the Dungeon room.

I am offered the spanking bench by the sweep of a hand, “Lay on here”

“ I need to secure you for the next part of the treatment!”

Straps at ankles & calfs.

Another two at thighs begin to immobilise me.

Across the lower back.

Mistress tells me how the Norwegian slave who arranged for these luxury straps to be installed has yet to feel their grip.

Wrist cuffs in the most soft and supple leather are buckled tight.

Then they are attached to the side of the bench and I am held .

This device is very interesting, I have been strapped into a fair number of spanking benches.

Some had elaborate stretching mechanisms, one had altogether many many more straps.

On even had mirrors under the face hole that allowed the supplicant to see what was being done to their restrained genitals & nipples.

Here I was almost floating. The bench was wide & the straps held me spread, especially the wrist cuff attachments which prevented me getting any purchase or capacity to move. Very clever experiential design & build . I love being in & using things that have been properly designed & built. It’s quite a rare experience these days.

The gag was huge.

“Open wide for me !” gets me every time & I am surprised I am still surprised but the opening of the mouth is automatic to the request & the result always gets me hard. The strap is done up tight. The edges of the ball, round rings pull at the corners of my mouth & my tongue struggles to find room to exist in my mouth.

I see Her place a bin below my mouth.

“It’s OK to drool!”

Swallowing is hard.

I can see myself in the strategically placed mirror in front of the bench.

Then I can’t, as the tight blindfold robs me of another sense.

Hands & nails explore my held body.

Comment is made about my cock dripping precum.

There is a slight indent in the neck area of the bench where I can just about rest my chin & neck.

I can hear furniture being moved including the bench I am strapped to. I didn’t notice if it was on wheels. I still don’t know.

“Flogger first. !”

The multiple straps are dragged across my exposed skin on my buttocks & back.

Between my buttocks & against my hanging balls sack.

I am helpless to influence what happens.

Then the leather fingers expertly thud & stroke & slash & burn & I am gradually shown how my buttock & back nerves respond to stimulation.

The gag is keeping me quiet, but have I any need to make noises.?

Paddles follow, after again the gentle use of hands & nails to caress the welts & the redness.

Gentle stimulation with caresses is still stimulation & it connects the hardness of my cock to the pain & the pleasure , like no other experience.

Harder & harder but never too hard, never too demanding, always just about what I can bear.

I don’t remember if She used canes?

How can I not know?

I was almost somewhere else in my head just experiencing the feelings created.

No choice really.

Just how I like it.

This submission is all about being the canvass on which the artist decides what colours & textures to deliver to the brain of the supplicant. Experts know just how to do this. This is exactly what I had asked Her to try & create & I am almost tearfully garteful.

“We need to milk that prostate!”

Lots of lube & some sort of strapon enters & begins to massage me internally & on the rim & I am transported. Apart from electrical insertable’s while visiting a few medical specialist Dominas, I have never been “pegged” before. This is amazing. I get lost in my head trying to understand what is happening. Her body presses on top of me & I can feeling Her breathing as She uses Her rhythm & knowledge to take me further down the rabbit hole. Her hands are exploring my skin The straps that hold me still. This much attention after all the months of isolation are getting close to overload. Close but never over the edge.

Not yet!

I am subdued but stimulated. A strange combination of feelings.

She undoes the straps & takes off the blindfold & the gag.

A string of blue anal beads is inserted.

I am helped to stand.

She gives me a pair of Her panties to wear to hold the beads in place.

I am offered a glass of water & take a sip.

I am a bit spaced.

“ Time for your facial, slide into this leather body bag & I’ll zip you up comfortably!”

The bag is on the treatment couch over which a scaffold full of leather restraints is hanging over me & underneath which is the cage.

The zips begin to hold me tight. It fits me remarkably well. She tightens the neck collar straps & I hear the familiar singing of my tinnitus. I can barely move in here but She decides there should be ropes around my ankles & thighs attached to the couch sides.

It’s not like I want to run away though so that’s OK.

She undoes the zips so that air circulates round my newly shaved nipples & then She arranges the zips at my hairless genitals & pulls them out of the pants into the fresh air.

The facial is delightful.

Expert aromas cleanse & exfoliate, nourish & moisturise & I fall into a state of bliss & pleasure.

I had asked to be put into the new leather punishment bondage hood She had shown on Her Twitter page, but She found it was slightly too small for my enormous head.

“Never mind, I have many types of Latex Hood which will suffice!”

I am subsumed by the smell & feel of constricting rubber, my breathing severely restricted & She begins to work on my nipples with clamps & some sorts of devices that had me further gasping for breath.

The Electrics on my cock & balls had me dancing to the kind of tune that only a sadist can get from their masochistic instrument. She had the way of all sadists that expertly gets the sufferer to suffer some more, with no choices. Up & down the scale, She delighted in calling out the numbers on the box, enjoying my reactions & ensuring my compliance to suffer, taking me to heights of pain that I endured for the countdown She decided I should suffer. There is something that makes you brave enough to try harder for a sadist to suffer more than you think is possible, to accept that screaming or crying won’t stop the demands or the pain, only time & the countdown will do that.

I think we got up to the mid forties of a maximum 99 & I always worry that I am complete wuss when it comes to my comparative ability to suffer pain.

I always feel a slight regret when it stops.

I wonder if I might one day be taken well beyond my endurance just existing in the suffering & pain at Her choice.

I should be careful what I wish for.

I am untied & unzipped & let off for a comfort break when I take the opportunity for a pee.

I am shown the other bondage room with a large Gynae chair & a bondage chair with all manner of restrictive leather & rubber wear & devices.

“Your body wrap is the final treatment today!”

Shea butter is carefully & sensually applied to my body.

She produces saran wrap which is rolled tightly around each limb & the abdomen.

On top of this She then produces vet wrap bandages which are elasticated & tightly overlapped from shoulder to wrist & from thigh to ankle. The abdomen is wrapped tightly too & the shoulders criss crossed from front to back.

The equivalent of an ancient Egyptian Mummy without removing the brain through the nostrils.

I am helped back onto the bondage frame and my legs are wrapped together.

My hands are then wrapped & secured to sides of the frame.

My nipples & genitals are conspicuously not wrapped.

“More facial treatment”

The wrap up until now was blue, but She produced several rolls of white wrap.

More delicious aromas & even a gas mask delivery of some really exotic smells taking me back to my teenage experiences in the beauty salons of my youth where my teenage acne was treated & my peccadilloes were pricked & nurtured.

Having the face wrapped in elasticated bandages is both delightful & scary. MY hearing & sight almost disappeared & I had only my nostrils & a tiny hole for my mouth, into which Mistress poked her fingers. I poked my tongue back.

Hands & legs are secured. Again.

The blindfold reappeared & the intensity of the treatment escalated as the electrical contacts were re established & I was then on a journey of pain & pleasure where I got totally lost .

I think at some stage another gas mask was employed.

I was edged forever.

Up & down.

I had mentioned in the phone call never having experienced needles before except in vaccinations & blood sample taking, & in no kink related history.

 

“ Time for needles !”

To say I was tense would be an underestimate.

“Relax!”

Right nipple first. Lightning behind my right eye.

Breathtaking

Left nipple next.

Sharpness entering my soul sitting on my consciousness.

One Two Three through the skin on my newly shaved balls intensifying the blood pumping through my rigid cock.

When there is nowhere to run or hide from pain then suffering is all one can do.

I suffered.

“One more each nipple “ I heard faintly.

At an angle to the first, through the skin & out the other side, demanding my attention.

I might have sobbed.

I was grateful.

I am not sure what device She used to extract Her sample.

She tweaked the needles as my climax approached from the far distance & I just swam in the melange of pleasure & pain until there was no way back from the Petit Mort.

I asked permission to orgasm.

She collected Her sample & fed it to me through the tiny hole.

I was amazed when She cut off all the wrap. Single use is understandable with wounds & I suppose too with kink but I do worry about the sustainability of this. I loved it, but I will feel guilty.

I was on a high for about the next two days.

Fabulous.

We had a cup of tea together & chatted about the session.

I applauded Her completely authentic Beauty Therapy approach & the “treatments” were just beautiful. Just what I fantasise about when I am having real beauty therapy treatments.

I drove home in a bit of a daze.

Altogether a wonderful experience with an expert practitioner.

I’m always adding to My ever growing collection of kink and thought the grid wall was looking a bit cluttered and it was becoming hard to see where I had hung ALL My wonderful things up.  My lovely friend Joanna Armstrong came to stay Saturday night and whilst I was cooking a Sunday roast Jo was putting up hanging rails for Me and repositioning a mirror, everyone’s a winner 🙂

See pics, this is how the room looks when I’m not conducting a play session, as you can see it also doubles as a guest room for when one of My kink friendly mates visit or if a slave books an overnight and doesn’t want to be in the cage!  All the bedding/mattress comes off for sessions, leaving a wipeable leatherette surface to lie on.  All the atmospheric lighting goes on, curtains closed to keep the outside world away and help you get into subspace.  This is just one room I use for sessions, there is also a medical white room with lots more goodies and the parlour for domestic discipline.

New items are many to include impact play, shibari rope and enfettered aroma play and much more.  Best book a session!

A reminder as usual re new bookings, please send £20 cover charge for a call and email, this is adjusted off the final tribute.  If you’ve been before then send an email as I’m not often answering My phone since Covid came along (it increased TW’s tenfold) I’m only answering to arranged calls, thank you (for My sanity) I also conduct sessions from either Brighton Dungeon or Gatwick dungeon for those looking at a slightly larger commercial play space.  I do require 2 yo 3 days notice to book elsewhere, otherwise it’s 24hrs notice for new people to visit My own play space.

Hello readers

Some general news and info on how to book

17th August I am filming with Miss Kitty Bliss, we currently have two spaces left.

Attendance £100 Near Brighton, on location with possible outdoor scenes – weather and circumstances permitting. Applications misskittybliss.co.uk/filming-slaves/  or email Me if you’ve seen Me before.

A reminder on how to book a session with Mistress Helen Ryder

If you are a potential new client or someone I haven’t seen for a very long time then please follow the new client booking procedures with sending an email along with £20 payment by bank transfer preferred or Amazon gift code to helen-ryder@hotmail.com My bank info is on the tribute page.  We can then arrange a nice little chat.

On the very rare occasions I might answer My phone to an unknown or unscheduled call, please be aware I will only direct you to My website and blog in regards payment and email.  I will not answer ANY basic questions already covered on this website or discuss your fetish’s until you have paid for My time.

When you meet Me you will find that I am very personable, with much drive/passion and focus on creating a great session.  The less energy spent in negative pursuits with half hearted email enqs. dodgy phone calls etc leaves more positivity for real time sessions!  Don’t let a small £20 tribute put you off at first contact if you are genuine, it is normal these days to pay something to show you are truly invested in a potential session.  The fact that I then adjust the final tribute keeps it very fair.

Recently I had someone send above fee and we chatted but he wasn’t willing to wear a mask in session because he hadn’t been vaccinated.  This was covered on the blog link I had sent over before he paid the phone fee.  I can lead you to all the information but if you don’t actually read it at all then it’s not My problem!

All Professional Dommes have their own way of conducting their business.  Wise words are read the website and simply follow the lady of your choice instructions.

 

 

 

 

I’m heading up North on 22nd July until Monday 26th July, sessions back in West Sussex from 27th July.

The 25th July is set aside for Our Double Domme event “Sunday Sinners”

I am teaming up with My gorgeous friend Mistress Helena in Huddersfield,  she is just 26 mins train travel from Leeds with a 6 min cab journey or by car from Leeds just over half an hour drive with easy on street parking, sessions are in a beautiful fully equipped dungeon.  Which is scrupulously clean  using hospital grade products, all toys are covered with condoms where possible or sterilised before/after use.  There is plenty of “proper” sterile & insertable lube too!  No cooking fat or motorcycle grease haha.  Two consummate professionals who care about your wellbeing and only use the best equipment.

Two strict blonde alpha females to take control over you, Our fetish interests are immense and we are passionate about what we do, please take a look around Our fetish interests on Our websites to see what makes you salivate and yearn to book a visit for an amazing double domination experience.

Huddersfield Mistresses – Huddersfield Mistresses

Just a few ideas to wet your appetites

Pegging/Spit roasting

CP Judicial, straight up or Roleplay from moderate to very hard!

Sissy transformations

Medical play

Sensory deprivation with EStim/Wand teasing sensual or take the pain if you are a masochist, your limits/boundaries are always respected

Bondage, leather, straps, encasement, mummification and/or time in the cell

Foot worship, maid or slave duties

Contact Mistress Helena to book in and a 50% deposit is mandatory and non refundable (bank transfer info on My online domination/tribute page) Please provide an outline of your interests and any medical conditions we need to be aware of.  ALL sessions are totally bespoke to your interests,  we do listen to your kinks and create the best unique experience.  We are lifestyle Mistress’s with years of experience and deviant tricks up Our sleeves 😉 so lets get together and enjoy some fetish play, it really doesn’t get better than this!

We look forward to “having you” visit us soon.

Contact Mistress Helena on 07557 516183 call or polite text to book in

 

Hi folks, lots of enquiries asking if I am working…..

YES I am taking sessions now in My domestic setting fully equipped play space in Burgess Hill, just 20 mins from Brighton and 15 mins from Gatwick.

Yes I will see new people if you have read this website, we have mutual interests in common and you write a respectful email before arranging to speak.  Anything crude/lewd and no dates/times and outline will be considered to be a dubious message.  Think before you write & cover the 10 minute £20 phone call/email fee, which is reimbursable against a real time booking when you attend..  My bank info is on the online domination page.  If you wish to chat longer then I charge £2.00 per minute, anything over the 10 mins won’t come off the session rate.

Step by step guide: Send £20 to cover the call with a covering email

We speak, you are booked in and you pay 50% of the FULL tribute by bank transfer

On the day you bring the balance of the tribute with adjustment of the £20 call charge

example, 2 hour booking £250

Call £20 Deposit £125 Balance on the day £105 cash

Due to working in close proximity I will only see those unmasked who have been double vaccinated with card to prove so, over 21yrs and mask worn though all of your session if you haven’t had the covid vaccination.

I also welcome a lifestyle submissive who is looking to serve a dominatrix from afar if you are abroad, weekly contact and life style coaching, perhaps leading to domination sessions.  If you are a generous loyal submissive then do apply, create the right first impression.  I am only interested in those who can enhance and enrich My lifestyle with regular payments, useful tradesman ship (I require a new driveway and new rear patio) financial domination and to include plenty of promo support on Twitter & any other platforms.

I will be offering double domination with Lady Amber at The Peacock Parlour in North London on 24th June.  It is best to pre book and pay your deposit to secure a play time with us.  If the London chaps don’t book up quickly then the location will revert to Kent where we are always busy with Our regular subs/slaves.

I will also be conducting filming with Miss Kitty Bliss on 19th July with one already booked sub, this is at The Fallen Angel Studio in Milton Keynes.  Another date with Miss Kitty is Tuesday 17th August near Brighton at a rural location, inside filming and possibility of outside filming, weather etc dependent.  Email Miss Kitty Bliss on her filming slaves link on her website.  Anyone known to Me may apply direct.

It’s not often that I work out of My area unless it’s an advertised double domme.  If you want Me to travel to you in a local dungeon to your area, the tribute needs to cover travel as well as other fees.

You can hire Gatwick or Brighton Dungeon as an alternative venue, as both are fairly local for Me.