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FRIDAY 12th APRIL 2024

Have you been a very naughty boy and need some strict attentions to your bottom?

Well, you had better book your appointment with strict Mistress Helen, an expert disciplinarian to administer some  hand spankings, slipper, paddles, caning and tawse etc lets make sure you are glowing and that your internal reset button is dealt with! Boundaries and limits pre discussed of course.

There is a special rate on FRIDAY 12th APRIL 2024 ONE HOUR £150 this is purely an offer for impact play ONLY and no other activity, unless you wish to book in at My usual rate of course.

Sessions will run from 1pm to 9:30pm finish with ONLY FOUR available appointments booked in.  This is to allow cleaning gaps, as well as R&R for Mistress to be fresh for each visitor.  This will take place in My domestic playroom in Burgess Hill.  Other venues not available on this date.

Book and pay your deposit promptly to secure your special time.

My booking procedures and how to pay your deposit in this blog link:

Mistress Helen Ryder of West Sussex (mistress-helen-ryder.co.uk)

 

The Goddess Society, hosted by the utterly amazing Lady Ava Sheridon  @avasheridon

are BACK in Brighton with the much sought after Anti -Valentines Edit. Yes, you heard right: three whole glorious hours of you being naked, serving and entertaining Us in a variety of wickedly delightful ways.

WHEN: Thursday 15th February 2024 5-8pm

WHERE: Central Brighton location. Address will be sent in your confirmation email.

WHO: Goddesses in Attendance:

Your Host: Lady Ava Sheridon, The Goddess Society:

Domina Blaize @DominaBlaize

Domina Joi Bleu @Joi_Bleu

Myself: Mistress Helen Ryder @MsHelenRyder

PRICE: £220 per submissive which is for the entire 3 hour duration of the event! PLACES: LIMITED!!!!!! There are 8 premium places in total. One of them belongs to you. BOOK YOUR PLACE NOW: ladyavadominatrix.com/event-details/

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Just four days into the New Year and My diary is filling up nicely 🙂 I had a superb playtime last night and I’m still smiling!

Today I am logged into the phone chat lines, no clients booked in for today.  Still keeping myself busy with phone work, blogging, SEO and X posts etc….

Here are ALL My links to perfuse:

Mistress Helen Ryder The Ultimate Sussex Mistress’s links (allmylinks.com)

I love receiving tips or money gifts through Wish Tender if you do not wish to send direct to My own bank account and receive more of the money then tipping through other platforms.  It’s also another way you can send a deposit if you do not want my vanilla name showing on your bank account.

SUPER STRICT ON DEPOSITS 2024

Sadly it just takes a couple of bad apples to make Me have to really enforce deposits!  I am posting this to hi-lite why it is essential that you pay a deposit and respect My time.

EVERYONE has to pay a deposit.

I was badly let down by two clients recently, one accepted a reverse bid on AW, booked Me knowing in advance a deposit would be expected.  He stated he would send an Amazon GC without even asking if it was ok.  I asked him to call Me at a set time & pay deposit by a set time and then he suddenly had Covid!  Yet was on AW changing his user name at the height of being extremely ill. He sent a £20 Amazon GC as way of an apology, which didn’t really cover his messing.

Another client who has always bank transferred a deposit booked three weeks in advance, asked if he could pay in full when he came as didn’t wish to use his account then let me down only a day before with Covid!  No offer of any compensation to Me, if I had the deposit in, it wouldn’t have been such a blow to my self employed status and his deposit would have been held against a new booking.  £150 less income that week instead of the £300 loss of income.  So you can see where this is going!

If you are genuinely ill then obviously I do not want to catch anything, however My finances shouldn’t suffer because of you!

Hair salons, spas, tattooists etc are ALL taking deposits (due to being self employed) and some state that payment in full should you cancel at short notice will be expected.  The fact I state I will move your deposit to one new date is very fair.

If you do not have any intention of booking Me or paying a deposit then please do NOT contact Me!  Those who message or repeatedly call without commiting, I will ensure your phone number/email is circulated on time waster and nuisance forums.

I am blocking/black listing and reporting those who mess Me around.  The only way to get unblocked is to write an apology and pay what’s due/outstanding if you’ve previously messed Me about AND pay in FULL for your next appointment.

 

 

Another year flying by it seems…..

I’ve had lots of fun n frolics this past year, if I had to leave anything behind at all it would just be any negativity from the ones who didn’t cut the mustard, got banned and blacklisted to boot on various forums.  For failing to pay deposits, to cancelling with no offer of compensation on the day.

I’m entering 2024 with FIRM goals to give My wonderful business model some extra attention with updates and photo sets on My LoyalFans platform, more POV saucy clips on My Adult Work profile and being available on My phone platforms when not in real time or gym/downtime, yes guilty as charged for not always taking some time off!

Now a reminder that BDSM, playtimes are a luxury!  Hence I will not lower My rates or give discounts when you ask.  You are paying for a wealth of experience with a quality array of the finest tools of My trade.  ALL appointments require a deposit, ANY short notice cancellations will be covered in full or get blacklisted.  Although I will still offer some appointments of one hour, priority will be given to bookings from 90 mins.

I am interested in collabs with other ladies for filming, My own filming rates will apply.  Otherwise just GG shared content is also welcome for BDSM or of a more adult content for Adult Work.

Wishing you all a healthy fun filled 2024

Thank you to the dear subs who have supported Me over this past year and I look forward to more fun n games with you all very soon.

All My best swishes

Mistress Helen XXX

P.S Anyone sending messages re your mental health, especially for extreme penile operations etc then contact the numbers below

I am a Dominatrix not a surgeon or mental health expert.

Wishing ALL My subs, slaves, sissies, kinksters & players a wonderful festive time and thanks for a great year of fun n frolics in real time or phone sessions.  It’s been a blast! 🙂

I will pop on phone chat briefly Christmas day in between cooking/eating and I am around tomorrow Christmas Eve and Boxing Day.

Anyone wanting to pay me direct for chats, should do so first, SEND & then email or WhatsApp message, your name/sent as subject.

For those who are lonely and suffering with MH or can’t afford a chat with me, then do call the Samaritans but keep it clean!

Any of my boys who haven’t yet sent a gift, money tributes are great and will go towards further ink on my arm next year,  Pop Christmas Ink as ref into my account.

Merry Chritmas

Mistress Helen XXX

Happy 20th Birthday to Club Pedestal in London, congratulations to Derek and his team, one of the longer standing Fetish Clubs.

TWENTY yrs how time flies!  I’ve been attending Club Pedestal for the last 15yrs! I don’t attend every time it’s on as I often have clients booked in for the day after.  Crawling into My pit at 5/6am after travelling home doesn’t leave much in the way of sleep but boy it’s worth it!

It’s so lovely to catch up with some of My Mistress pals and a great night out.  I’ve been invited to attend the slave selection evening and be a “House Dominatrix” but living outside of London I simply don’t have the time to spare.

Ladies: If you haven’t yet been to Club Pedestal then I recommend that you do, on arrival into the venue you will be greeted by kneeling slaves and be presented with a rose.  There is a Fetlife corner tour of the venue available, you will meet lots of new people and make great connections and new friends quite quickly.  I’ve driven there in the past on My own and not felt at all out of place.

There are various areas in the club, space to play, fair amount of equipment, I love the trample cage! A row of subs are like juicy sausages on the floor just waiting to be squished! They have a cabaret show, which is fun to watch.   In the past I have added some fun/slighty strange requests into the Maitre D’s black book, some of those being a sub to be a human frog to hop 3 circuits of the club making frog noises (Myself and the sub creased up with laughter & his knees killing him)  a lap dance from a fit hunk (Mmmmm thanks Maximus I won’t forget that one)  one Christmas I made a sub dress up and sing from the main bar Christmas songs standing on a table.  As well as the usual foot worship, receive a public thrashing, wait on Me, fetch drinks and be a foot stall etc.  Little Muffin also really needs a mention here, a sub who had a full western saddle and used to carry Ladies on his back.

It’s a great playground for Dominant Ladies!

See if you can spot Me in the gallery archives from over the years 🙂 Club Pedestal

 

DO NOT USE MASSPAY!!!!!

They haven’t transferred my money into my account, which was sent from Niteflirt to the MassPay platform at the end of October and I received my payment link 6th November, which I then requested my payment (SEPA).  I have raised a ticket with Niteflirt (still waiting on a reply)  I have also emailed MassPay 11 times and logged a formal complaint as they are in breach of terms of service.

Niteflirt continue to have MassPay mentioned on the site as a means of UK creators/phone flirts to get paid, this is shocking considering the amount of people who haven’t received money! I doubt that I will ever receive the money I worked hard for!

I ask for my fans to please call me via the following methods:

Book a call direct with me and pay by Bank transfer, Wishtender or send an Amazon gift code to my email of helen-ryder@hotmail.com

Call me via Dommeline, rates apply and you must be over 18yrs with bill payers permission.

Or Adultwork, ditto re rules stated above.

CHAPS PLEASE ONLY CALL ME VIA DOMMELINE ESPECIALLY DURING THE ABOVE DATES, SEE DETAILS BELOW!!

 

ANY QUESTIONS YOU HAVE ABOUT SESSIONS

OR

YOU NEED TO BE DOMINATED!

YOU FANCY A FILTHY FUN PHONE CHAT

YOU WANT TO HAVE A NORMAL CATCH UP CHAT

THEN ONLY CALL ME ON MY PREMIUM DOMMELINE NUMBER!!

THEY ARE RUNNING A DOMME OF THE WEEK BONUS From 16th OCTOBER TO 22nd OCTOBER MIDNIGHT (hence I’ve put 23rd) AND I WOULD LOVE TO WIN IT

 

YOU CAN HELP ME ACHIEVE THIS BY CALLING ME ON DOMMELINE!!

Have you been thinking of booking for a session and don’t quite know what style of play you might be into?

I often receive emails from new people who have no idea what they wish to experience, where as others have a deep seated fetish going back years.  It’s often the mature gents who are into domestic discipline from their school days of receiving the cane or slipper.  Thankfully the new generation are also very curious about this, so it’s not dying out!

I have a diverse range of fetish interests so whilst I do not cater to every fetish, there is a great scope of range for those who wish to explore several kinks.

One kink that I do not get to live out as often as I would like is “Tickle Torture” Just recently I received some calls from a gent in the US who is very into it, he has the most amazing profile on Fetlife dedicated to it and has shared lots of the images with me where I narrate the pics on our NF chats.  It’s absolutely hilarious and I would dearly love to have him mummified and just his soles exposed to tickle!

I had a visit from my sissy maid recently and decided that as well as the usual discipline and body that they could assist in some tickle clips to go onto my Adult Work profile.  We also did a short “maid gets her revenge on Mistress” mini clip, where maid anna started off with light feather pampering on my feet, then turned into tickling.  Oh how I shrieked!  I did cane her after as punishment 🙂 we also took some up to date pics, which I will include just a couple here, enjoy 😉

Kinky wishes

Mistress Helen

 

Those who wish to be kept under strict lock and key should do so asap for #Locktober

Supply your own chastity, send £250 tribute for the month Bank info on My website Non refundable Then meet to lock up or post a key after payment and arranging via My email: helen-ryder@hotmail.com

You will receive some WhatsApp comms to tease/torment or spur you on throughout the month!  Maybe even a couple of video calls at a mutually arranged time.

For those not wishing to participate in Locktober that prefer a playtime with release included (if desired and appropriate) then book your October session.

I am logged in every day on #Phonechats in between/around any real time sessions.  I am usually on chat in the evenings.  This is perfect for those who want a top up of interaction outside of playtimes, to stay in touch with Mistress or want to build a rapport before perhaps booking in a session.  Some just need a release on the phone and I am in the top 6% on #Dommeline

Mistress Helen Ryder | Dommeline

I also have profiles for chat on Adult Work and NiteFlirt

 

On Adult Work there is plenty of more racy images and short clips to view, whilst I’m fast asleep please ensure I wake up to sales and tributes.  You can also send via Wishtender  whether it’s a smaller gift of coffee/cake or a big generous tip.  It’s all appreciated and for some of you, it’s better off in my account to spend then have you waste it on beer etc…..

What a fantastic way to start the day seeing all the lovely tributes and sales, put a beaming smile upon my face!

Kinky wishes

Mistress Helen XX