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Whose ever been along to this place in London?

I have, quite some time ago, it was just like a normal cafe but with kink pics on the walls and a wooden spoon for your table number, I always love a wooden spoon 😉

This isolation and lockdown has had me thinking about the social aspects of BDSM as well as the session side.

Wouldn’t it be great to go along to a safe place and just be able to meet like minded people, have a cuppa, nice slice of cake and if you drop some crumbs on the resident Mistress’s carpet maybe have to go over her lap for a little spank (not compulsory as it’s a social)

I would be looking at a small tribute to cover overheads of course as time spent chatting is great but could be spent in sessions.  My thoughts are once a month or every six weeks on a day of my choice, prob a Friday morning for 1/5 to 2 hours, min of 3 attending and up to 5 if just Me or with another Mistress then up to 8.  Everyone pays £35.00.

It’s not a play party, it’s time to come share a story, a book you’ve read, something saucy you’ve seen but can’t share with others.

Send Me an email if this is something you would like.  I make a fantastic Victoria sponge cake and any flavour variation.  I may even consider a sissy maid in attendance that can make a little batch of cakes to contribute to our gathering (same tribute for social applies)

Stay well and safe

Mistress Helen xXx

 

This writing is from My Yoga teacher, she had a bout of mental health and was in hospital she knows first hand the best way to tackle it head on!  Sharing for her.

10 TEN TIPS TO STAYING SANE WRITTEN BY A MAD WOMAN!! )
If anyone is struggling with self isolation or being at home for long periods of time, I have a some tips that maybe helpful (these were my survival methods of staying upbeat & healthy during my long stays at Langley Green Mental Hospital).
1) Routine can help as it can help focus the mind and get help with the over thinking and ruminating.
2) Set your alarm quite early 7am or 8am even if you sit in bed with a cup of tea and read a book. Reading really helps stimulate the mind and stops the mind dipping into the dark thoughts of worry, stress and fear of the unknown. Pick books that you can really lose yourself in which helps fire up your natural creative imagination or find a subject that you’re really interested in. Read about your chosen subject this will occupy and nourish the brain and helps self educate. (I always choose funny books that made me laugh, books that empowered me and my chosen subject to learn about was the working of mind & the human psyche; which was quite apt when in a mental hospital) ))
2) Always shower in the morning put colourful smart clothes on, this again helps lift the mood. (I was a very snappy dressed mental patient when I was In Langley Hospital ). I would get my husband to bring all my nice clothes up and look smart everyday. I noticed a lot of the patience would shuffle around in either their Pjs, dressing gowns or tracksuits, which certain doesn’t help an already low mood. Looking smart just helped me feel normal and in control of the situation even though I knew I wasn’t.
3) Ladies even if you know your not going out put a little make up on as it can help you feel a little bit more positive about your own self image.
4) Exercise everyday 30-60 minutes, even if you don’t want to do make yourself do it. Exercise is essential for mental health it’s a natural release of feel good happy endorphins.
5) Everyday spend some time outside and look at the beauty all around you, even if just happens to be the sky.
6) Say a mantra over & over everyday, mantra literally means free the mind. This is my mantra that I said every day while in the mental hospital and for years after. I would say it over & over & over again until I grew a new brain neutron of self belief – I am full of Gods LOVE, HAPPINESS, STRENGTH, COURAGE, WISDOM & GRACE. This mantra has truly made me stronger and when ever I feel overwhelmed I just keep reciting it.
7) Learn to meditate – how ever busy the mind is, over time and with patience of sitting still and quiet you can learn to calm the mind so you become the master of your busy brains and it is possible to learn to sail your mind and direct it to other ways of thinking. Some days in my tiny little hospital bedroom with barred windows I would sit upright, close my eyes and just be still. Eventually over time I was able to stop the obsessive chitta chatter of my destructive mind and in the end my mind gave in and I found a beautiful, colourful and peaceful place that I didn’t even know existed with in my conscience and it’s accessible to everyone it just takes patience.
8) Let your creative juices flo, painting, writing, cooking, learn a language etc. Switch the dark thoughts off with a creative hobby and don’t worry if you not very good at it, far more healthy than saying I can’t be bothered or giving up.
9) Try to keep your minds calm and healthy with lots of positive stuff use these strange times to widen your mind and self educate, try not to rely on the TV to it for you, grow your mind it’s totally amazing when you do.
10) Put your favourite music on and Dance whether it’s in the kitchen, in the lounge or in the garden – just dance and sing out loud.
Namaste xx

Be VERY aware that I am self employed and a genuine tax payer!  I am currently being hit hard by the Coid-19 virus on My income at present!  However when the worlds back to normal I will be VERY busy again!

With lock down now in-force I am NOT conducting in the flesh sessions.

How can you serve and Me and have your Mistress Helen fix?  Phone sessions £2.00 a min to discuss kinks/BDSM We can chat in greater detail about future sessions, role-play over the phone (those who’ve visited know I’m rather good at this)

Email exchange to discuss a fantasy in greater detail, 3 email exchange £30

To the wonderful boys that have supported Me this year and especially in the last couple of weeks, heartfelt thanks and you are real diamonds!  Thank you!!  I welcome staying in touch with the decent kind genuine bois who have been helping Me.

I welcome enqs that ONLY lead to My time being compensated.

For those who seek My time in sessions then ONLY contact Me if you will be paying a deposit  for a future session.  Or send money gifts and Amazon gift vouchers.  It is pointless asking if I am able to see you in one or two days/weeks as we all have to take each day as it comes.

Look after Me now and support Me and you will be rewarded later!  There will be a boom in sessions when the world is back on its rails, priority will be given to those who have stuck by Me or introduced themselves in a useful way!

Those with much time to spare and less stress are most likely still receiving a good wage and working from home and sliding off for a quiet hand shandy in works time.  Do this at your own expense from your salary and support the ladies who offer these services.

Times like this bring out both the very best in people and sadly the worse!  When I’m not busy doing DIY, paid chats I will be undertaking volunteer work for the NHS.  My time is best spent in a positive productive manner without the negatives.

No intention to book anything, spend any money/simply a time waster: I certainly do not suffer fools gladly! Don’t be that cockroach!   My blogs/website/email and phone all have a software Karma spell on them, you’ve been warned!  )O( BB

Stay healthy and well

Mistress Helen XxX

 

 

 

For those who wish to session from afar you can either sign up to Adult Work or use Dommeline, where I have profiles.

However if it is more discreet for you to send Me a bank transfer or Amazon gift code then I will happily accept that.

My rates are £2 a min, with min of £10 chat if booking direct.  We can arrange a mutually convenient time to speak.

Kinky chats, BDSM sessions or simply discussing a future session in more detail are welcome.

EMAIL Me to arrange

For those who are in vulnerable groups or simply wanting to give your immune system a boost to fight off infections the following can all assist.

Get enough sleep

Drink more water

Eat well

Take a multi vitamin and mineral supplement, note that smoking and alcohol rob you of Vitamin C, which we do not store

Use Immune boost essential oils, couple of drops on a tissue when out and about or use an aroma diffuser when at home or maybe at the office.  Lots of different styles to suit your decor. Put both into an Amazon/general internet search or email Me and I will give you the links

Good ESSENTIAL Oil brands available from Amazon : Absolute Aromas and Tisserand, some essential oils are toxic to pets (either use in a room away from them or stick to Lavender which is a safe one)

Take time to relax, unwind and de-stress.  Stress greatly effects Our immune systems.  A massage, walk in the country, some Yoga or visit your favourite Dominatrix :great de-stresser)

I am doing all the above (giving Domination though, not receiving haha) in My personal efforts to try stay healthy!  I am conducting real time and online sessions such as phone chats and web cam.

Stay safe and wash those hands more!

Mistress Helen X

P.S Click on the phone pic below to go straight to My Dommeline profile, if the pic/text is green I am logged in for calls and if red I’m logged out of calls.

Edited blog for the most important info at the top!

I use on all surfaces a clinical ultra virucidul cleaner as standard practice. This cleaner is proven to kill Swine flu, HIV, hepatitis C, MRSA amongst other Virus’s

After every session I conduct here there is a deep clean in the play space along with light switches, handrail on the stairs, doorknobs, taps, all surfaces that could have been touched etc and the option to wear a mask for us both in session (although wearing a mask is not considered to be vital) I am taking My health and yours seriously.

I was on holiday in Thailand six weeks ago, staying at 2 beautiful beach/island locations before a short stay in Bangkok.  During My holiday I was screened by thermo scan approx 6/7 times at airports and shopping centres.  Despite mixed reviews on masks I did wear a mask when out in busy places such as metro, skyline, airport and shopping centre.  Every time I visited the loo I washed and then used alcohol gel on my hands, same after touching lift buttons, handrails etc.  I wore a mask on the 13 hour flight home, changing it a few times, the cabin was sprayed with disinfectant  with everyone on board (sprayed up into the aircon/cabin)

On entering the UK we were held back and then given clearance to disembark by health  authorities. I wore a mask and didn’t remove it until I was in the car.  Entering the UK I didn’t see a single bottle of hand sanitiser anywhere in the airport.  I carry it with Me everywhere and its hanging on My bag ready to use.

If you are booking in for a session or have booked ahead by a week or so and have paid a deposit, if as it gets closer to your session that you feel unwell with any symptoms of cough, temperature, sore throat then let Me know by email ASAP so that we can reschedule once you have been checked out and given the all clear.

You will give your hands a wash/alcohol them when you arrive.

Lets play safe and still have lots of fun, life is for living and not being locked up in a cupboard whilst the rest of the world does its thing.  So many people fall very ill to other types of flu, heart disease, surgery and road traffic accidents.

After each session I carry out a deep clean on ALL surfaces that could be touched such as light pull/switches, hand rails on stairs, door handles, taps, the bathroom sink/toilet etc.

I saw an amusing comment on the statistics of HIV and wearing a condom, so many people still want to have sex without one and there has been more deaths from that then the current virus!  Yet everyone is caught up with the scaremonger of the news and statistics of deaths far lower than the above.

Put things into perspective, be hygienic/wash your hands and carry on as normal!

Mistress Helen

I’m back from a fantastic holiday, after being up 23 hours and travelling I got home, stayed up for another 15 mins and went to bed!  Then up 5am as body clock wasn’t allowing any more sleep.

I spent yesterday catching up on admin, washed all the holiday clothing, collected my kitten from the cattery who gave her lots of cuddles and sat in her enclosure during the storm reading a book with her cuddling up under a fleece (bless them)  I did a food shop and then got back and tackled the dungeon room play space.

I do plan to redecorate in the near future as I fancy a change of colour, meanwhile I did a deep clean and moved the furniture around to free up central floor space.  This enables the vacbed to be used on the floor now and made the room feel more spacious and far easier to wield a whip/cane!  Oh I spoil you all!

Having spent the last 2 weeks in the company and being around some of the most loveliest polite, friendly, smiling people it came as a bit of a culture shock to be back in the UK with so many a misery gogs, I know the weather is foul, what I would really like to see is everyone making the effort to simply be nicer to each other!

I realise I was away over Valentines, if you have no one special in your life then don’t forget to show your Mistress how much she means to you and spoil her rotten 😉 it’s never too late!

 

Don’t forget I am off on holiday 1st Feb to 16th Feb, may or may not be able to look at emails whilst away so don’t expect any replies until 17/18th Feb now and My work phone is switched off and being left in the UK.

Moi and My best mate Miss Kitty Bliss had two fantastic days of double domination, we are filming together on 4th March £100 tribute from 1:30pm that day till late!  Either in Burgess Hill or possibly a private house in Hove.

I could tell you about all the fun stuff we got up to but I think it’s best to come and experience it for yourself! 🙂

We are next doing double domination play on 25th/26th March and we are taking bookings from when I return from My holiday. One hour double domme is basic £220 and any sundries, enema, excess needles, vet wrap on top if requested/pre agreed.  Solo sessions are £160 for one hour.  Longer play times can be arranged.

See you soon kinksters/subs/slaves/sissies and all!

Mistress Helen xXx

I am available right up to 31st January and then I am jetting off on holiday somewhere hot and tropical 🙂

On My return I will take a couple of days to recover from travel and be offering play times from 18th Feb

During the above dates My work phone will be left in the UK and emails will be replied to if/when I am able to or on My return on 16th/17th Feb.

If you have been lurking in the shadows wanting to come and play then do so ASAP! It’s best to book a play time into My book of fun before I go away!

For those that attend regularly, you will know that I add all sorts of kinky toys back into My playrooms and this year I would love to add some more London Tanners implements to My collection.  I also want to purchase some more hardcore steel CBT equipment with internal spikes and suchlike.  All the more to make My bois squirm 😉 If you happen to see a new shiny that you think you would enjoy and would like to gift to Me then bring it along with you!

I want! https://www.thelondontanners.com/shop/french-martinet/

and a few others too, CP strap Lochgelly Tawse etc, email to ask Me.

The CP Ruler Strap

I am planning to do some photo shoots to give My website an overhaul with up to date images on the homepage and scrolling bar, watch this space over the coming months.

For those who wish to continue to support Me financially whilst I’m away and not making money here is the bank info: Sort: 20-92-54 Account number:  70468665, Name: Ms Rogers, paying in ref: Holiday fund.

Don’t forget I have a profile on Adult Work, My private gallery and mini clips have plenty to see so do go along and check them out!  https://www.adultwork.com/1248241

Kinky wishes

Mistress Helen

 

 

I am introducing a tax for stupid questions.

My location is on my website along with all other basic info, receiving so many silly questions at certain times of the year is relentless!

Recent stupid question was asking how far I am from where the person was staying/lives, use Google maps or AA route planner and put location A to location B and there you have it!  So simple when you engage the big brain up top!

If you are going to email questions and ask Me anything fully covered on My website then send over a buffer payment first to appease Me.

Minimum Amazon voucher of £30 accepted to helen-ryder@hotmail.com

or bank payment to: sort 20-92-54 Acc 70468665 use ref questions