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It’s great to be slowly getting back into play times with PPE in place for us both, so far the couple of gents I have seen haven’t found it to have impacted their time in any negative way.  A quick temperature check, up for a nice refreshing relaxing shower (it’s an Aqualisa so a lovely shower time) a fresh medical mask and then into the play rooms for some kinky fun.

Whilst there are a few things off the menu as per My back to work plans blog, there is still plenty of fun to be had!

No two sessions are the same here, from pallet wrapping and roping one of my play things onto the cross and teasing and tormenting with electrics and plenty of nipple torture to my next play time that was all about the sensual side of BDSM with soft leather floggers, silk, warm massage oil and more…

I really don’t think the precautions of turning up presenting well on the day, a nice hot shower and wearing mask in your time here has much impact on the pleasure gained from a visit.  Rest assured you do not have to see the preparation and background work that goes on before/after your playtime to keep the environment and all the toys etc clean and sterile.  I have not increased My tribute at all despite the extra costs involved for Moi.

The feedback I have received is that they felt safer coming here than going to the local super market so I think that says a lot.

Send over an email to book as I am only answering my phone if I am expecting a call from you!

Stay safe n kinky

Mistress Helen xXx

P.S Enjoy some pics from recent times

My fab friend in Huddersfield Mistress Helena

My lovely friends Miss Kitty Bliss and Ms Joanna Armstrong at Pedestal

My collared maid Laura & fave boi Slavva Rodda

Moi & Miss Kitty planning some mischief

Just a temperature check, no need to bend over! Well not yet 😉

A wonderful little script written by B for Our delicious phone chat, booked in advance privately

Enjoy!  Perhaps you might like Me to read it to you, email to book and pay for a call.

Hello darling,
Let me just find the light switch. There! That’s better.
Did you have a nice time this evening? I had a lovely time with Steve.
Look at you –  four hours later and you’re still as erect as when I left you to go on my date  – Not that you were able to do much about it, were you?  Locked and gagged in the sensory deprivation chamber you made for me.
So kind of you to spend four months clearing out the cellar and converting it from a wasted space into something useful to both our needs.
Though mainly my needs wouldn’t you agree?
 I’m sure when we first started you saw the arrangement as mutually exclussive BUT here we are ten years later with you now a cuckold and all of your accounts and property signed over to me.
My! I am a naughty minx, aren’t I?
…but its what you wanted…and now you delight in being subjugated to my power and decision-making. Lucky me….and lucky cuck!
Of course, it was inevitable that sooner or later your submissive desires would overrun you.
Not that you ever had much choice in the matter – what with me systematically denying and engaging your multiple fetishes and introducing you to a few of my own –
until the act of pleasing me became as natural to you as breathing itself.
Let me say here and now, I have no regrets in taking control of you. Our marriage was going nowhere, what with you out every night with your mates.
All those years when you returned home too late to read a bedtime story to Rebecca or help with her homework Not just that but your sheer uselessness at doing your share of the housework and unable to manage anything in bed.
Compare that with now. The house is spotless with you doing all the cleaning and meals. Rebecca is at Uni and I have the large bed all to myself while you sleep in the small bedroom…unless I have need of you.
What could be more perfect then a man offering that sort of freedom and support for a woman who is now exploring her liberation…
…and all because I happened across those images on your computer that time.
Who would have known?
I must  say, i was really surrprised when I saw all those imges of women dominating men. And on your hard drive!
It was only as I started to research it – moreso  to understand what was going on in your head – that I discovered you were a closet submissive in need of a dominant woman to take control of you.
Not that this information was of any use to me until I went on a few forums and discovered the benefits of being Dominant -and that is when our relationship turned a corner!
I remember the evening I challenged you over the photos. Your denial and lies. Then the complete change in you when I left the room and returned in black leather with a crop in my hand.
That was the moment you were truely hoisted by your own petard for my pleasure –  I knew then that things would never be the same again.
Strangely,  I was reflecting on it just this evening as you kneeled before me in My bedroom with head bowed as I was getting ready to meet Steve.
How I smiled as you eagerly ran downstairs to the sensory deprivation room to hold yourself in position against the frame as you awaited my arrival to lock you in – which was deliberately delayed as I made myself ready for Steve but also to tease you.
See how far we’ve come. My old husband would never have done that.
But then – as we both know – that man is gone. I no longer have a husband in that sense of the word any more. I have a cuckold. A submissive. A slave…and do you know what darling: I wouldn’t have it any other way.
Actually, as I was inserting the butt plug and locking you into the frame before heading out tonight, i loved the fact that as I brushed against you, you shivered with delight.
What woman wouldn’t want the man she’s locking up for the night to be so devoted to her that she can go out and enjoy herself with another man, knowing he’ll be waiting for her at home, eager for her return.
See how things have changed between us these last ten years. And for the better. Yes, that’s right! it’s our anniversary! Ten years ago today, you knelt before me and told me your desires
That is the day our marriage ended and our new life began.
And to mark it, I’ve bought you a present. Actually, its a present for both of us seeing as we’ll each get enjoyment from it – even if mine is rather shadenfruede  It’s rather large isn’t it. Don’t worry: I’ll unwrap it for you seeing as you are handcuffed to the frame.
Do you like it? It’s the next strapon size up from what you normally take.
Now, Steve has left you a something that will require your tongue to lick it out later on
…but right now, I’ll just click the strapon into place on the harness  – oh my! It is very big.
This is going to be so much fun darling. Deep breath and Happy Anniversary!
Well what happens next will be very graphic so DO book a call…………………………………..

 

I have just had the most delightful hour and a bit with a super new spankee who will be coming for play times when we can get back to the hands on really fun side of the business.

Social rates for a cuppa and a good chat in My garden are available from today as per guidelines https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/coronavirus-outbreak-faqs-what-you-can-and-cant-do/coronavirus-outbreak-faqs-what-you-can-and-cant-do

It’s a great way to stay in touch, share stories and plot and plan the near future sessions and filming slaves.  Also a super way to continue to support Me as well as spending time together.

The fee is £80 and provided you book for a real time session within 3 months £20 will come off your session tribute.

Looking forward to seeing you soon

Mistress Helen xXx

 

I am planning to see selected clients from Monday 29th June that have been self isolating and that will only be driving to Me.  This will only be open to existing clientele so please contact Me via email to discuss a date to session.

Whilst this all sounds rather serious, rest assured we will still have lots of fun and you can have peace of mind that I am taking Our health seriously.

 

  • Bookings will be from one hour to a maximum time of 2 hours and only Two on any day.  I will only be conducting SOLO sessions in My OWN premises, NO hotel visits, NO other dungeons!  I expect to actually only have ONE visitor a day to start with so may be a bit more flexi on timings.
  • First appointment time will be from 11am
  • The second appointment time will be from 3:30pm or an evening booking of 7pm.
  • We both need to be presenting as fit and healthy on the day, your payment paid 24 hours ahead by bank transfer and cash ONLY in exceptional circumstances!  I do not give refunds.  If you need to cancel at really short notice with a genuine reason then we simply reschedule for a new date/time.  Money will only be rolled to one new date so that I am not constantly having diary changes/loss of income.
  • On arrival, you will either be wearing your own mask (clean/fresh/new) I will give you a thermo scan and you will change for one of My masks immediately if required, go to the bathroom and remove all your clothing and place inside a container provided.  Pop your mask on top of the bag to one side. Shower thoroughly with hair included.  Dry off and wear the mask again throughout your session.

 

  • No hugs, pecks on cheek or kissing of My hand for safety reasons.  It’s best to kiss My foot/Shoe 😉
  • Certain activities will be unavailable, such as: Spitting, wearing of My masks (leather/gas masks, please consider bringing your own to wear over a surgical face mask) No drinking of watersports I will NOT be conducting any FULL sissy make overs, other activities omitted are: face sitting, close whispering in your ear and birdy feeding.  Pegging will be done with Me behind and you over the bench, I will risk assess every session.  Think and be sensible about what interests we include in your play times.

 

  • Vanilla massages will not be currently offered due to the added work and costs of extra equipment I will be providing in anyone entering the house.  It’s simply not cost efficient.  Notice that I have not increased the tribute at all, yet I will be making less at present due to the cost of gloves going from £6,99 a box to around £30 and same re the masks!  If your salary hasn’t changed at all or you have thousands in the bank then do tip generously! 
  • At the end of your session, you can have a few moments to adjust with a glass of water or socially distant cuppa.  You may dress again in the bathroom and head off.
  • I will carry out a very deep clean after washing everything down with hot soapy water with hospital grade cleaners such as Selgiene Ultra & Varsen, Barbicide and the like.  Towels will be washed in Dettol laundry care and detergent on a high temperature.  Everything from light switches, taps, hand rails as well as kit used in the session will all be completely sanitised.
  • Regarding bring gifts:  It is more useful for Me to shop online at present so extra tips, gift vouchers are very much appreciated.

Stay safe n kinky
Mistress Helen xXx

I hope all My troupes are keeping well, some of you have been fantastic at supporting My online works, clips, booking phone chats direct with Me or going through the platforms I use.  It’s been super to stay in touch this way.

Some very silly messages, some just asking for sessions during lockdown, most of which come via Adult Work mainly after 11pm at night, it must the magic hour that men turn into complete illiterate imbeciles.  I thought I would share some of them here to give you a laugh (I usually just roll My eyes)

If you simply send more than one hello message during quarantine and haven’t done any of the above to support Me then I am not prioritising any other general hello messages after replying once already.

So here you go, just a few examples and there were MANY more:

The Hall of Shame

Sent during lockdown: 04/05/2020 R u meeting ? X

another 5/5/2020 I was wondering if you are working today

8/5/2020 Good morning. I was wondering if you are available Sunday morning please for a session x

The likes of graphic email but never calls! Hi goddess, cuck loser worthless loser boy here to worship your feet for you over the phone while you pretend to have sex with a superior alpha male (pretend we are bf and gf and you are cheating on me over the phone). Make me do humiliating tasks while you fuck alpha like smelling my own feet over the phone so you can here it, and sucking my own toe like its alphas huge cock. Laugh at me throughout the call and then make me put my legs over my own head and cum in my own mouth, when you are ready my goddess x i will be in silence throughout call x

Another asking for a session but he has alias names on AW and several thousand log ins/no bookings/feedback so probably never going to book anyone for anything.  Weird request!

I am unsure if you can currently offer sessions due to current events (I expect not which is more than appropriate) so with your permission may I be considered to try one of yours please for an hour incall when this crisis has safely passed by for us all? I am a shy person but polite and well mannered. I was wondering if I might be able to work in some fun fantasy roleplay ideas? My concept is based around a childhood scene from the Disney movie The Jungle Book. When Mowgli meets the giant python villain Kaa. The snake is a hypnotist who, through spiralling coloured eyes, makes eye to eye contact with Mowgli hypnotizing him. With Mowgli’s body becoming limply relaxed and immobilized under a trance. He then follows Kaa’s commands which are sung to him through a snake charmer type tune called Trust In Me. It all has a tropical and easy going relaxing tone. The python uses the muscles of his strong body coils to coil around and also playfully move Mowgli about his tree. I would like to play out the scene and use the music and whatever aspects you might suggest to pull off the sensual movements of the two characters. Having a slightly hot, sweaty atmosphere in order to get the feel of the jungle environment as well. There is a link to the scene below I’ve sent so you may see the sequence. If you might be interested at all I would be delighted. Thank you very much. I would be happy to speak with you beforehand by phone also if you wish. Very best.

There was a link too re above but I haven’t included that for your safety!

and this one again from same chap of 04/05 Do u have a strap on? And do u kiss ur gf? X

What ????

This is an average week of AW messages and there were many more asking for detailed chats that never called.

 

 

 

 

My dear bois, slaves, subs, kinksters & sissies

Thank you all very much for supporting Me over the last few weeks, the ones that have sent tributes, bought My clips, sent Amazon GC’s & paid for chats.  This has been wonderful and I really appreciate it.  Long may it continue with this side of My business.

Sadly I still get the emails/bloody texts from the others!  Hmmmmmmmm Covid19 has certainly shown Me the absolute best in some people and the utter worse.

I hope you are all doing ok and keeping well.

I was chatting earlier today with Mistress Ophelia De Havilland (a lovely friend of mine) about how we start doing sessions again hopefully in the not too distant future.

As many of you who know Me I already only offer limited sessions in a day for many reasons.

Once sessions resume I will continue only seeing 1 or 2 people on any one day.

There will be a session in the morning for however long that person wishes to book for, there will then be a gap for a VERY deep clean BEFORE I see My next plaything.

A deep clean will consist of every surface that anyone can come into contact with, door handles, light switch, light pull, stair rails etc as well as EVERY item used in a session with My hospital grade cleaners.

On entering My premises I will ask you to have a good wash of hands and face and strip and wear a mask, I will also wear a mask (mmmm kinky hey) but I won’t be stripping  (I know what you are thinking) 🙂

Overkill maybe or maybe not, but it’s our lives and staying fit and healthy.  Anyone booked in will have to present as completely well on the day, any possible risks must be eliminated.  Deposits will be held against a new play time if either you or Myself need to reschedule.

Mistress Helen Ryder xXx

 

 

Hello everybody

I hope you are all doing well

It’s lovely to receive fantastic help and support from some of My bois, thank you very much for being wonderful and you will all know who you are.

To those who email, state they will do ABC and don’t follow though.  I feel nothing other than pity for you, that your world is so small and you are so inadequate and can’t grasp how to use this time we have for anything positive or productive.  Shame on you.

To those who are genuine and wish to Amazon Gift Code Me with either an online purchase or from a shop then only send to My email of helen-ryder@hotmail.com  Send it first and send an email 20 mins after you have done so.  I won’t be sending any replies to anyone asking if My email is correct.

To those who purchase My clips, thank you and I do know what part of the world is purchasing right down to the town!

See you genuine players on the flip side!

Mistress Helen xXx

 

 

 

 

Hi all

I’ve been filming clips over quite some time in order to launch onto one of the clip sites and at long last with some help from My fantastic Webslave I am now live on https://www.clips4sale.com/studio/152221/mistress-helen-ryder

I already have short mini clips on My Adult Work profile, which have proved to be quite popular.

Once lockdown is over and that I am able to do sessions again, there will be opportunities for filming days either with Me solo or in doubles with Miss Kitty Bliss.  I have plenty of sissy style clips in My library so I’m looking for slaves interested in hard CP, CBT, Pallet Wrapping and anything a little more diverse than what I already have.

We always take a tribute for filming and you have to provide your id and sign a model release, you can wear a mask.

I’ve had a couple of chaps asking how they can help Me right now as I have very little income coming in to live on at present.

Book a phone chat direct with Me with a bank transfer payment to My account or Amazon GC if you can’t use your account.

Or go through the AW or Dommeline when I am logged in available.

Pay for a custom clip and if it can be filmed now then you can have it or receive it when I am able to shoot the content depending on the nature of the request.

Pay a deposit now for a future session or in full if you wish.

If you can afford to send money gifts to My account to keep Me afloat.

Stay sane, stay safe, stay the feck indoors other than essential food or medicine supplies or sensible daily exercise.  I’ve only just started walking and did 4 miles today.  I had been busy with DIY etc and decided to make the best of the lovely weather.

Mistress Helen xXx

 

 

Whose ever been along to this place in London?

I have, quite some time ago, it was just like a normal cafe but with kink pics on the walls and a wooden spoon for your table number, I always love a wooden spoon 😉

This isolation and lockdown has had me thinking about the social aspects of BDSM as well as the session side.

Wouldn’t it be great to go along to a safe place and just be able to meet like minded people, have a cuppa, nice slice of cake and if you drop some crumbs on the resident Mistress’s carpet maybe have to go over her lap for a little spank (not compulsory as it’s a social)

I would be looking at a small tribute to cover overheads of course as time spent chatting is great but could be spent in sessions.  My thoughts are once a month or every six weeks on a day of my choice, prob a Friday morning for 1/5 to 2 hours, min of 3 attending and up to 5 if just Me or with another Mistress then up to 8.  Everyone pays £35.00.

It’s not a play party, it’s time to come share a story, a book you’ve read, something saucy you’ve seen but can’t share with others.

Send Me an email if this is something you would like.  I make a fantastic Victoria sponge cake and any flavour variation.  I may even consider a sissy maid in attendance that can make a little batch of cakes to contribute to our gathering (same tribute for social applies)

Stay well and safe

Mistress Helen xXx

 

This writing is from My Yoga teacher, she had a bout of mental health and was in hospital she knows first hand the best way to tackle it head on!  Sharing for her.

10 TEN TIPS TO STAYING SANE WRITTEN BY A MAD WOMAN!! )
If anyone is struggling with self isolation or being at home for long periods of time, I have a some tips that maybe helpful (these were my survival methods of staying upbeat & healthy during my long stays at Langley Green Mental Hospital).
1) Routine can help as it can help focus the mind and get help with the over thinking and ruminating.
2) Set your alarm quite early 7am or 8am even if you sit in bed with a cup of tea and read a book. Reading really helps stimulate the mind and stops the mind dipping into the dark thoughts of worry, stress and fear of the unknown. Pick books that you can really lose yourself in which helps fire up your natural creative imagination or find a subject that you’re really interested in. Read about your chosen subject this will occupy and nourish the brain and helps self educate. (I always choose funny books that made me laugh, books that empowered me and my chosen subject to learn about was the working of mind & the human psyche; which was quite apt when in a mental hospital) ))
2) Always shower in the morning put colourful smart clothes on, this again helps lift the mood. (I was a very snappy dressed mental patient when I was In Langley Hospital ). I would get my husband to bring all my nice clothes up and look smart everyday. I noticed a lot of the patience would shuffle around in either their Pjs, dressing gowns or tracksuits, which certain doesn’t help an already low mood. Looking smart just helped me feel normal and in control of the situation even though I knew I wasn’t.
3) Ladies even if you know your not going out put a little make up on as it can help you feel a little bit more positive about your own self image.
4) Exercise everyday 30-60 minutes, even if you don’t want to do make yourself do it. Exercise is essential for mental health it’s a natural release of feel good happy endorphins.
5) Everyday spend some time outside and look at the beauty all around you, even if just happens to be the sky.
6) Say a mantra over & over everyday, mantra literally means free the mind. This is my mantra that I said every day while in the mental hospital and for years after. I would say it over & over & over again until I grew a new brain neutron of self belief – I am full of Gods LOVE, HAPPINESS, STRENGTH, COURAGE, WISDOM & GRACE. This mantra has truly made me stronger and when ever I feel overwhelmed I just keep reciting it.
7) Learn to meditate – how ever busy the mind is, over time and with patience of sitting still and quiet you can learn to calm the mind so you become the master of your busy brains and it is possible to learn to sail your mind and direct it to other ways of thinking. Some days in my tiny little hospital bedroom with barred windows I would sit upright, close my eyes and just be still. Eventually over time I was able to stop the obsessive chitta chatter of my destructive mind and in the end my mind gave in and I found a beautiful, colourful and peaceful place that I didn’t even know existed with in my conscience and it’s accessible to everyone it just takes patience.
8) Let your creative juices flo, painting, writing, cooking, learn a language etc. Switch the dark thoughts off with a creative hobby and don’t worry if you not very good at it, far more healthy than saying I can’t be bothered or giving up.
9) Try to keep your minds calm and healthy with lots of positive stuff use these strange times to widen your mind and self educate, try not to rely on the TV to it for you, grow your mind it’s totally amazing when you do.
10) Put your favourite music on and Dance whether it’s in the kitchen, in the lounge or in the garden – just dance and sing out loud.
Namaste xx