I won’t be taking sessions or working the phone chat platforms from 7th October to 17th October inclusive. I will only be checking emails on occasions during these dates.
I have availability from now 3rd September and up to 6th October and then from 19th October. All polite email requests in that time that appear genuine will be replied to with my 72 hour window, unless you’ve sent with a tribute and these will take priority!
Best kink & swishes
Mistress Helen
Here I am writing an obvious blog instruction some 15 years later that I honestly didn’t expect I would have to write.
I am often asked if it’s discreet, absolutely! My premise’s on appearance to the outside world are perfectly normal, no floggers/canes on display to the naked eye. No flaming torches with “Dungeon/Discipline/Spanking/BDSM” pointing a big red sign/arrow. I don’t dress in latex or fetish outfits and flaunt it all outside. Visiting traffic is pretty low key and I ensure visitors park away from where I am and walk a short distance.
I don’t call your mobile or send messages outside of arranged sessions, only in any event of an emergency and then I would be prudent in speech.
If in public we spot each other, a polite ignore is best.
Don’t call Me Mistress on the doorstep, I won’t greet you at the door calling you slave/sub etc, ditto from you please until you have entered and the front door is closed. I also use the same level of discretion when working from both the Brighton Dungeon and Gatwick Dungeon.
I expect you to never reveal my location to ANYONE else! This includes not printing out emails with postcode and instructions on. Thankfully I have the common sense to not give out my full address in messages for bloody good reason! An idiot just printed out an email to save himself some time logging in (he says) and his wife saw it. So no session happened. What an absolute plonker! Whilst I had a deposit, I then had to take a loss on my self employed earnings due to his stupidity. To date he hasn’t been a decent gentleman by sending the balance over as a decent person would do. I had planned his session, put the background work in and turned away another booking. Shows zero respect for My time and as a person. Shame on him.
Be mindful of your actions please.
Mistress Helen
If you want more knowledge in your personal life for fun or perhaps you want to set up as a profession Mistress. I conduct full day and smaller segment workshops available Monday to Saturday, booked in advance. Each segment will cover the relevant health and safety to the activity you are learning. It is essential that you attend a first aid training course separate from the workshops I advertise.
Book your 121 Workshop, this is at my Burgess Hill West Sussex location. This is a small domestic play space, otherwise if you wish to have your workshop conducted at The Brighton or Gatwick dungeon it will incur higher fees with dungeon hire/travel (POA)
Subjects: Anal play, Pegging, Electrics, EStim and Violet Wand. CP/Impact Play, NT/CBT Techniques/Sounding, Needle & Staples, Bondage, Make-Overs & Sissyfication, Sensual Tie & Tease, Simple Breath Play, Foot Fetish, Edging & Release Methods, Social Media & Web Presence, Personal Safety/Forums/Personal Welfare and setting up as Self Employed.
I also include information and details of the finest fetish equipment suppliers, advice on how to set up a play space, how to conduct a session from first contact from a potential client to completion.
Full Day 11am – 5pm consisting of five-six subjects and short refreshment break £450
1.5 hour workshops to concentrate on a couple of subjects £200
Further telephone support or webcam conversation: £150 per hour
I will supply a submissive player for demonstrations and practice.
Email me with potential dates helen-ryder@hotmail.com
All workshops require £100 non refundable deposit by bank transfer. Workshops can be moved to one new date with 24hours notice, otherwise you will forfeit the deposit. Wear regular comfy clothing that you can move about easily in, you may wish to bring along a fetish outfit and change if desired.
Mistress you can do whatever you like to me, after all it’s you who is dominating!
What’s wrong with the above?
If I let someone rock up with no prior discussion of likes/dislikes and thought fuck it I will just be entertained today by this sub. I’m going to objectify him by making him stand on his head or do a handstand against the wall and stick the bunch of flowers I told him to buy on his way to me, up his arse and then ignore him for 60-90 mins whilst I watch a film or something. Maybe just use them as a footstall whilst I relax and do nothing. Maybe I might need to vent my frustration and cane someone into next week!
Would I still be in business 15years later? Like I have been from finding out what makes a sub tick, what aspects of domination are enjoyable. What aspects are a turn off or hard limit. I promise to not muddle the list up 🙂 but I will encourage, push you and test your limits. Taking into account your health/medical conditions, allergies and any phobias.
Lets have an open chat prior to your session, as readily mentioned in previous blogs I do charge £20 for a ten minute phone call to me. The only time I will ever discuss the nitty gritty of a playtime is via this method. Or you can call via My Dommeline or Adultwork profile, when I am showing as available.
Best swishes
Mistress Helen
First to reassure you all that I am currently taking sessions now and for all of this remaining year ahead. If I ever needed to reschedule a playtime myself I would offer you a new date and in special circumstances a refund. My booking procedures still apply when you cancel at short notice, due to the flaky ones.
Some of you know I’ve had ongoing knee issues since March 2023, this is caused from a historic ACL tear (I never had a reconstruction) I also have lateral and medial meniscus tears. So far I have only needed to reschedule one appointment, which actually suited the person to his benefit. Usually when my knee is causing issues I don’t have anyone booked in and when receiving enquiries I book people in after a knee episode. I’m able to assess when I know I can walk normally and work without issues, so that we can both enjoy the session.
At the end of July 2024 I had an appointment with an orthopaedic surgeon who has advised that I really need an ACL reconstruction, and have my torn medial & lateral meniscus trimmed and floating debris removed. I am now on a waiting list and it will be some time in 2025.
I could be off work anything from 2-4 months with and ongoing rehab.
It is a rather daunting major operation and could be life changing in either direction. For the better I really hope.
What I suggest is that if you have ever been wanting to come and see me to session, then don’t put it off! I’m not sure how long into next year I will be available. Many of you may have noticed I have had to tighten my booking procedures and take small phone call cover fee from new clientele, as well as ask that those who want lots of chit chat in between sessions fully support my business by paying for the extra time. This is due to the sheer volume of time wasters that never book. A brief nod to those that karma will take care of you! My friend Mia wrote a blog about them, have a read https://www.bdsmmia.com/post/timewasters-a-ticking-time-bomb
Being self employed I don’t get paid if I am off sick. I’m going to have to ensure I try and set aside funds to cover my time off. So far to date (in 16 months) I have lost 85-90 days where I haven’t accepted bookings when my knee has been bad. Imagine being off for that length of time without full pay. I make dribs/drabs off the phone platforms. I have approx 8 subscribers on my LoyalFans amongst the over 100+ followers! It isn’t a hive of wealth as it’s made out to be in the press. If the free followers that see some of my free posts all paid a sub each month then that would be great and be a better income. Plus give me drive to upload more, it’s an uphill slog at present. Adult work take off 40% commission as well as a phone connection fee. Dommeline take 50% but do offer some other incentives/bonus payments at times, so it is my platform of choice.
Only use the Dommeline platform to cold call me with ANY of your questions. Otherwise email me and pay me direct the phone call cover fee.
If you love what I do then fully commit and support my business. I love what I do and wish to continue seeing my amazing clients for MANY more years.
Mistress Helen XX
Pic of the pesky knee & my usual smiling face that you will see when you come for your session!
My lovely Gwawr travels some distance to see me and we have the most amazing photo shoots and play dates! I came up with the idea of summer garden tea party, which turned into high tea by the time we had taken many pics, outfits changes and then up to the playroom for plenty of mischief 😉 some of the things were spanking, paddles, lots of tickle torment, teasing, dildo sucking, pegging, edging and I made sure there was plenty of cream consumed!
There was plenty of plotting and planning, plus collecting up some fantastic props and colour ideas between us, I go the extra mile for my players who are so kind and generous with me that it is reciprocated.
I really love getting creative and doing fun shoots like this, universe please bring along some more! 🙏 I love them! 😍
Here are a few pics of the day, keeping the play ones private for personal use for Gwawr only 😉
Who else wants to release their inner “Gurl” or simply book a session and have some fun?
My availability until My mini holiday up North & Download Festival 1/6 2pm-4pm
2/6 Not available
3/6 11am-6pm
4/611am-9pm
5/6 DD fun with @Miss_KittyBliss
6/6 3pm-8pm
7/6 11am-4pm
8/6 11am-4pm
9/6 11am-2pm
10/6 – 17/6 inclusive AWAY! DOWNLOAD FESTIVAL mistress-helen-ryder.co.uk email helen-ryder@hotmail.com
Available from 18th June for phone platforms
19th June real time sessions
21st June
22/23/24 June Not available
25th-30th Inclusive I have availability
Email to book helen-ryder@hotmail.com reading the booking blog link for information about deposits.
Want to discuss a booking on the phone?
Yes that’s fine with Me but I will ask you to email Me first & either pay a small call cover time fee of £20 for a phone consultation prior to the actual booking or simply pay your 50% deposit and then you will be able to discuss in full your session with Me. You can then provide your availability to commit and then I can offer dates that correspond with My diary.
This simply weeds out those who are not genuine about booking and lets Me focus My time on those that are! I’m at My best when I know you are serious about coming along to play and creating wonderful experiences with people.
*Note: If I have replied to your email with this blog and asked you to reply when you have sent funds, further emails with questions will be ignored until you have sent. I always require a phone call as anyone can hide behind a keyboard. I only conduct correspondence and calls with genuine adults!
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Book your shared playtime Thursday 6th June 2024! ASAP! Lets have a kinky lil 3sum party!
TWO bois per playtime, bi interaction encouraged, sexuality & limits respected, straight play & taking turns for those who don’t wish to explore their bi side. I will ensure that you are suitably matched for straight/bi sessions.
12-1:30pm
2:30pm – 4pm
£150 each for 90 mins playtimes in Burgess Hill
Deposit mandatory
I have availability for sessions as per usual and I am looking for a filming sub too!
Is there a boy out there that wants to book a filming session as per My advertised filming rates for the following content:
Stuffing your pleasure hole full of mini choccy eggs & have you rebirth them into a nappy, will require a douche first so it’s just chocolate expelling
Face slapping and spitting
Pegging
Foot worship & foot tease on your cock
Mouth soaping
Edging with wands over & over, orgasm control, maybe ruined orgasm and post orgasm torment (P.O.T) plus CEI
CP at a moderate level
I will require a signed model release form and I need to take a photo of your driving licence or passport ID, you may wear a hood but I would prefer if you were happy showing your face especially for the face slapping/spitting and foot worship clips. At My own playroom in Burgess Hill.
West Sussex Mistress Helen Ryder (mistress-helen-ryder.co.uk)
