Just to clarify that short notice appointments are ONLY available to established regulars and I do require TWO full hours minimum notice from having spoken/emailed between us and I will still require the bank transfer deposit or payment in full within 10 minutes of that agreement.  This ONLY applies to bookings in Burgess Hill, I require 48 hours min notice for The Gatwick Dungeon or The Brighton Dungeon.


If you just happen to be passing through Burgess Hill (having never seen Me before) do NOT contact Me!  This is the oldest time waster tactic in history.  It shows a lack of any respect for My booking procedures, security and vetting.


  • If you do not have any access to email Me do NOT contact Me.
  • If you are not willing to send a 50% bank transfer deposit do NOT contact Me.
  • Plan ahead, book, pay your deposit in the time frame I state.  Like all the good bois that generally do.




The Salon Fetish roleplay session, written by the lovely chap who visited!


To Heavenly Hell & back.

Almost a month ago now, on a Thursday, I noticed on social media that a wonderful iconic local Domme had posted information saying how a sub had let Her know he couldn’t attend the session planned for the Saturday coming & that She was now free for a 3 hour session.

I quickly checked Her website & wrote to ask If I might be considered for the session.

I had been frustrated in my attempt to visit another Domme while on my caravan holiday walking in Pembrokeshire. My elderly car cooked it’s gearbox & my life got very complicated & demanding as I sourced & bought a replacement car & got it fitted with a tow bar to be able to bring the caravan back home.

I rechecked Her website where I discovered how to apply for a session & sent Her the full fee for a 3 hour session, & detailed my experience & health issues, hard limits & desires, late on the Thursday evening. I also wrote to my Mistress to let Her know of my plans.

She quickly wrote back the next day saying I was first in line & how she wanted to explore my request for a Beauty Therapy role play taken beyond the therapy. I was tto ring at a certain time so that She could give me details & an address to attend.

We chatted on the phone for about 20 minutes & she detailed all her requirements & expectations & mine too. I was already excited to be putting my self into Her expert & experienced hands.

I received two more messages, one asking about impact play & marks, & one telling me to sleep tight ready for the session next day.

I arrived at the designated spot & waited to ring her at 10;30.

My mind was racing trying to anticipate what might happen & I was excited & dry in the mouth.

I love the feelings & responses an anticipation of sessions brings.

I rang at exactly 10;30 & the phone was answered within 3 rings.

I was welcomed & told how to find Her premises & the house number.

I drove round the corner parked & locked the car, walking up the path, where the door opened before I could ring the bell.

We had met before at a couple of Pedestal events & a munch or two, but I had forgotten how lovely She is.

There She stood having welcomed me in, wearing an authentic beauty therapy cross buttoned tunic outfit including Her professional insignia.

I was asked to remove my shoes, to take a seat on the sofa & offered a cup of herb tea.

She was expecting a delivery so wanted to wait for it so our “treatment session” wasn’t interrupted.

Her easy manner & lovely ability to put me at ease & enquire interested about my experiences & to tell what She had planned for my “therapy” . “ I won’t tell you everything, some surprises are delightful!”

The parcel arrived & I finished my lovely herb tea & was ushered up stairs.

We entered the dungeon room & I was shown some of Her amazing collection of all manner of restraints, clothing & devices plus could see the amazing treatment table with overhead frame & cage below.

In the corner was a spanking bench with many lovely leather restraints.

Mistress told me to undress & gave me a bowl in which to put all my clothes.

“For the treatment to be most effective we will start with an enema. Then I shall shave the poarts of your body I wish to.!”

I was led into the bathroom where a fleet enema was administered very professionally & I was offered to shower so that the body shave could be lathered.

It is the strangest feeling in the world having your testicles held & shaved, the razor gliding over my cock & the inner thighs. I am turned round, bent over in the bath & my arse & buttocks are made hairless in no time. Next I am stood and my pecs / moobs are shaved & I am getting hard & aroused by the intimate attention. All the while She is chatting & enquiring & getting to know me & I feel totally understood & cared for. I learn of Her aromatherapy qualifications & am introduced to some amazing smells.

An assisted shower leaves me hyper aware of the areas that have been made hairless and smooth.

I towelled off and my abdomen is massaged to accentuate the gurgling effects of the enema & soon I am ready to evacuate.

There is something very submissive indeed in sitting on the loo while the Domme stands over you & supervises the evacuation, knowing what is to follow.

Having one’s arse inspected and wiped too makes for a regression like no other.

I am led, feeling a bit spaced & heady, back into the Dungeon room.

I am offered the spanking bench by the sweep of a hand, “Lay on here”

“ I need to secure you for the next part of the treatment!”

Straps at ankles & calfs.

Another two at thighs begin to immobilise me.

Across the lower back.

Mistress tells me how the Norwegian slave who arranged for these luxury straps to be installed has yet to feel their grip.

Wrist cuffs in the most soft and supple leather are buckled tight.

Then they are attached to the side of the bench and I am held .

This device is very interesting, I have been strapped into a fair number of spanking benches.

Some had elaborate stretching mechanisms, one had altogether many many more straps.

On even had mirrors under the face hole that allowed the supplicant to see what was being done to their restrained genitals & nipples.

Here I was almost floating. The bench was wide & the straps held me spread, especially the wrist cuff attachments which prevented me getting any purchase or capacity to move. Very clever experiential design & build . I love being in & using things that have been properly designed & built. It’s quite a rare experience these days.

The gag was huge.

“Open wide for me !” gets me every time & I am surprised I am still surprised but the opening of the mouth is automatic to the request & the result always gets me hard. The strap is done up tight. The edges of the ball, round rings pull at the corners of my mouth & my tongue struggles to find room to exist in my mouth.

I see Her place a bin below my mouth.

“It’s OK to drool!”

Swallowing is hard.

I can see myself in the strategically placed mirror in front of the bench.

Then I can’t, as the tight blindfold robs me of another sense.

Hands & nails explore my held body.

Comment is made about my cock dripping precum.

There is a slight indent in the neck area of the bench where I can just about rest my chin & neck.

I can hear furniture being moved including the bench I am strapped to. I didn’t notice if it was on wheels. I still don’t know.

“Flogger first. !”

The multiple straps are dragged across my exposed skin on my buttocks & back.

Between my buttocks & against my hanging balls sack.

I am helpless to influence what happens.

Then the leather fingers expertly thud & stroke & slash & burn & I am gradually shown how my buttock & back nerves respond to stimulation.

The gag is keeping me quiet, but have I any need to make noises.?

Paddles follow, after again the gentle use of hands & nails to caress the welts & the redness.

Gentle stimulation with caresses is still stimulation & it connects the hardness of my cock to the pain & the pleasure , like no other experience.

Harder & harder but never too hard, never too demanding, always just about what I can bear.

I don’t remember if She used canes?

How can I not know?

I was almost somewhere else in my head just experiencing the feelings created.

No choice really.

Just how I like it.

This submission is all about being the canvass on which the artist decides what colours & textures to deliver to the brain of the supplicant. Experts know just how to do this. This is exactly what I had asked Her to try & create & I am almost tearfully garteful.

“We need to milk that prostate!”

Lots of lube & some sort of strapon enters & begins to massage me internally & on the rim & I am transported. Apart from electrical insertable’s while visiting a few medical specialist Dominas, I have never been “pegged” before. This is amazing. I get lost in my head trying to understand what is happening. Her body presses on top of me & I can feeling Her breathing as She uses Her rhythm & knowledge to take me further down the rabbit hole. Her hands are exploring my skin The straps that hold me still. This much attention after all the months of isolation are getting close to overload. Close but never over the edge.

Not yet!

I am subdued but stimulated. A strange combination of feelings.

She undoes the straps & takes off the blindfold & the gag.

A string of blue anal beads is inserted.

I am helped to stand.

She gives me a pair of Her panties to wear to hold the beads in place.

I am offered a glass of water & take a sip.

I am a bit spaced.

“ Time for your facial, slide into this leather body bag & I’ll zip you up comfortably!”

The bag is on the treatment couch over which a scaffold full of leather restraints is hanging over me & underneath which is the cage.

The zips begin to hold me tight. It fits me remarkably well. She tightens the neck collar straps & I hear the familiar singing of my tinnitus. I can barely move in here but She decides there should be ropes around my ankles & thighs attached to the couch sides.

It’s not like I want to run away though so that’s OK.

She undoes the zips so that air circulates round my newly shaved nipples & then She arranges the zips at my hairless genitals & pulls them out of the pants into the fresh air.

The facial is delightful.

Expert aromas cleanse & exfoliate, nourish & moisturise & I fall into a state of bliss & pleasure.

I had asked to be put into the new leather punishment bondage hood She had shown on Her Twitter page, but She found it was slightly too small for my enormous head.

“Never mind, I have many types of Latex Hood which will suffice!”

I am subsumed by the smell & feel of constricting rubber, my breathing severely restricted & She begins to work on my nipples with clamps & some sorts of devices that had me further gasping for breath.

The Electrics on my cock & balls had me dancing to the kind of tune that only a sadist can get from their masochistic instrument. She had the way of all sadists that expertly gets the sufferer to suffer some more, with no choices. Up & down the scale, She delighted in calling out the numbers on the box, enjoying my reactions & ensuring my compliance to suffer, taking me to heights of pain that I endured for the countdown She decided I should suffer. There is something that makes you brave enough to try harder for a sadist to suffer more than you think is possible, to accept that screaming or crying won’t stop the demands or the pain, only time & the countdown will do that.

I think we got up to the mid forties of a maximum 99 & I always worry that I am complete wuss when it comes to my comparative ability to suffer pain.

I always feel a slight regret when it stops.

I wonder if I might one day be taken well beyond my endurance just existing in the suffering & pain at Her choice.

I should be careful what I wish for.

I am untied & unzipped & let off for a comfort break when I take the opportunity for a pee.

I am shown the other bondage room with a large Gynae chair & a bondage chair with all manner of restrictive leather & rubber wear & devices.

“Your body wrap is the final treatment today!”

Shea butter is carefully & sensually applied to my body.

She produces saran wrap which is rolled tightly around each limb & the abdomen.

On top of this She then produces vet wrap bandages which are elasticated & tightly overlapped from shoulder to wrist & from thigh to ankle. The abdomen is wrapped tightly too & the shoulders criss crossed from front to back.

The equivalent of an ancient Egyptian Mummy without removing the brain through the nostrils.

I am helped back onto the bondage frame and my legs are wrapped together.

My hands are then wrapped & secured to sides of the frame.

My nipples & genitals are conspicuously not wrapped.

“More facial treatment”

The wrap up until now was blue, but She produced several rolls of white wrap.

More delicious aromas & even a gas mask delivery of some really exotic smells taking me back to my teenage experiences in the beauty salons of my youth where my teenage acne was treated & my peccadilloes were pricked & nurtured.

Having the face wrapped in elasticated bandages is both delightful & scary. MY hearing & sight almost disappeared & I had only my nostrils & a tiny hole for my mouth, into which Mistress poked her fingers. I poked my tongue back.

Hands & legs are secured. Again.

The blindfold reappeared & the intensity of the treatment escalated as the electrical contacts were re established & I was then on a journey of pain & pleasure where I got totally lost .

I think at some stage another gas mask was employed.

I was edged forever.

Up & down.

I had mentioned in the phone call never having experienced needles before except in vaccinations & blood sample taking, & in no kink related history.


“ Time for needles !”

To say I was tense would be an underestimate.


Right nipple first. Lightning behind my right eye.


Left nipple next.

Sharpness entering my soul sitting on my consciousness.

One Two Three through the skin on my newly shaved balls intensifying the blood pumping through my rigid cock.

When there is nowhere to run or hide from pain then suffering is all one can do.

I suffered.

“One more each nipple “ I heard faintly.

At an angle to the first, through the skin & out the other side, demanding my attention.

I might have sobbed.

I was grateful.

I am not sure what device She used to extract Her sample.

She tweaked the needles as my climax approached from the far distance & I just swam in the melange of pleasure & pain until there was no way back from the Petit Mort.

I asked permission to orgasm.

She collected Her sample & fed it to me through the tiny hole.

I was amazed when She cut off all the wrap. Single use is understandable with wounds & I suppose too with kink but I do worry about the sustainability of this. I loved it, but I will feel guilty.

I was on a high for about the next two days.


We had a cup of tea together & chatted about the session.

I applauded Her completely authentic Beauty Therapy approach & the “treatments” were just beautiful. Just what I fantasise about when I am having real beauty therapy treatments.

I drove home in a bit of a daze.

Altogether a wonderful experience with an expert practitioner.

I’m always adding to My ever growing collection of kink and thought the grid wall was looking a bit cluttered and it was becoming hard to see where I had hung ALL My wonderful things up.  My lovely friend Joanna Armstrong came to stay Saturday night and whilst I was cooking a Sunday roast Jo was putting up hanging rails for Me and repositioning a mirror, everyone’s a winner 🙂

See pics, this is how the room looks when I’m not conducting a play session, as you can see it also doubles as a guest room for when one of My kink friendly mates visit or if a slave books an overnight and doesn’t want to be in the cage!  All the bedding/mattress comes off for sessions, leaving a wipeable leatherette surface to lie on.  All the atmospheric lighting goes on, curtains closed to keep the outside world away and help you get into subspace.  This is just one room I use for sessions, there is also a medical white room with lots more goodies and the parlour for domestic discipline.

New items are many to include impact play, shibari rope and enfettered aroma play and much more.  Best book a session!

A reminder as usual re new bookings, please send £20 cover charge for a call and email, this is adjusted off the final tribute.  If you’ve been before then send an email as I’m not often answering My phone since Covid came along (it increased TW’s tenfold) I’m only answering to arranged calls, thank you (for My sanity) I also conduct sessions from either Brighton Dungeon or Gatwick dungeon for those looking at a slightly larger commercial play space.  I do require 2 yo 3 days notice to book elsewhere, otherwise it’s 24hrs notice for new people to visit My own play space.

Hello readers

Some general news and info on how to book

17th August I am filming with Miss Kitty Bliss, we currently have two spaces left.

Attendance £100 Near Brighton, on location with possible outdoor scenes – weather and circumstances permitting. Applications  or email Me if you’ve seen Me before.

A reminder on how to book a session with Mistress Helen Ryder

If you are a potential new client or someone I haven’t seen for a very long time then please follow the new client booking procedures with sending an email along with £20 payment by bank transfer preferred or Amazon gift code to My bank info is on the tribute page.  We can then arrange a nice little chat.

On the very rare occasions I might answer My phone to an unknown or unscheduled call, please be aware I will only direct you to My website and blog in regards payment and email.  I will not answer ANY basic questions already covered on this website or discuss your fetish’s until you have paid for My time.

When you meet Me you will find that I am very personable, with much drive/passion and focus on creating a great session.  The less energy spent in negative pursuits with half hearted email enqs. dodgy phone calls etc leaves more positivity for real time sessions!  Don’t let a small £20 tribute put you off at first contact if you are genuine, it is normal these days to pay something to show you are truly invested in a potential session.  The fact that I then adjust the final tribute keeps it very fair.

Recently I had someone send above fee and we chatted but he wasn’t willing to wear a mask in session because he hadn’t been vaccinated.  This was covered on the blog link I had sent over before he paid the phone fee.  I can lead you to all the information but if you don’t actually read it at all then it’s not My problem!

All Professional Dommes have their own way of conducting their business.  Wise words are read the website and simply follow the lady of your choice instructions.





I’m heading up North on 22nd July until Monday 26th July, sessions back in West Sussex from 27th July.

The 25th July is set aside for Our Double Domme event “Sunday Sinners”

I am teaming up with My gorgeous friend Mistress Helena in Huddersfield,  she is just 26 mins train travel from Leeds with a 6 min cab journey or by car from Leeds just over half an hour drive with easy on street parking, sessions are in a beautiful fully equipped dungeon.  Which is scrupulously clean  using hospital grade products, all toys are covered with condoms where possible or sterilised before/after use.  There is plenty of “proper” sterile & insertable lube too!  No cooking fat or motorcycle grease haha.  Two consummate professionals who care about your wellbeing and only use the best equipment.

Two strict blonde alpha females to take control over you, Our fetish interests are immense and we are passionate about what we do, please take a look around Our fetish interests on Our websites to see what makes you salivate and yearn to book a visit for an amazing double domination experience.

Huddersfield Mistresses – Huddersfield Mistresses

Just a few ideas to wet your appetites

Pegging/Spit roasting

CP Judicial, straight up or Roleplay from moderate to very hard!

Sissy transformations

Medical play

Sensory deprivation with EStim/Wand teasing sensual or take the pain if you are a masochist, your limits/boundaries are always respected

Bondage, leather, straps, encasement, mummification and/or time in the cell

Foot worship, maid or slave duties

Contact Mistress Helena to book in and a 50% deposit is mandatory and non refundable (bank transfer info on My online domination/tribute page) Please provide an outline of your interests and any medical conditions we need to be aware of.  ALL sessions are totally bespoke to your interests,  we do listen to your kinks and create the best unique experience.  We are lifestyle Mistress’s with years of experience and deviant tricks up Our sleeves 😉 so lets get together and enjoy some fetish play, it really doesn’t get better than this!

We look forward to “having you” visit us soon.

Contact Mistress Helena on 07557 516183 call or polite text to book in


To save any confusion with the newbs here are your instructions for contacting Me & booking a session.

I ask that ALL new clients pay £20 by bank transfer (bank info on the online domination page) or Amazon gift code to email of

Any first contact by phone or email will result in referring you to this £20 payment and no further discussion at all until I have received it.

When you pay in or send a voucher then send over a more detailed email with your likes/dislikes/ideas of what sort of session you would like to book, along with some flexi dates for Gatwick dungeon (from current till 17th May or Burgess Hill domestic play rooms from 17th May when it is legal to go into someone’s home.

  • Note Gatwick rates are more due to hiring the premises and on parr with other ladies who hire it.  I have included this on My website.

I will check payment in/voucher received and suggest some flexi times for you to give Me a call, we will have a nice chat in detail and book you in.  Secure play time with a deposit, the £20 payment then comes off your final tribute when you attend.

Just too many Covid 2020/2021 time wasters who have no real intention of booking and get some warped fun out of wasting time.

Paying £20 and being adjusted on the final tribute doesn’t then penalise the genuine people that do wish to book.

Genuine new clients/players have done their research and read a site through and know they’ve found a Mistress they wish to book. They do not require silly levels of spoon feeding basic information.

The genuine are welcome to get in touch.

Mistress Helen X


12th April till 17th May I will be taking bookings at The Gatwick Dungeon in Horley, this is due to My domestic premises coming into a grey area of Covid rules and I would rather not take the risk of a £10K fine.  I am also available to double domme with Lady Leather Amber aka The Bondage Mistress in Kent, 48 hours notice is required to book.

My domestic dungeon will open on 17th May provided the goal posts haven’t been moved!

I can do social meets in Burgess Hill and cash point meets as well as the online domination that is advertised on that page.

My phone is on for all polite enquiries, do NOT send text messages as I will ignore them, same goes for WhatsAPP.

It is vital we have a brief chat followed up by you sending an email with an outline and dates/times you can commit.  Those who approach me this way are usually the ones that book, the texters don’t.  If by one email reply to you, you haven’t provided the basic info above or paid £20 to cover a detailed call I will see that you are simply wasting time and have no intention of booking.

I’m looking forward to tormenting & playing again, can’t wait!

For bookings from 17th May, send over a 50% bank transfer deposit if you are engaging Me in conversation now, in order to take you seriously.  If emailing put some effort in with an outline of the type of session and the dates you can commit. One liner emails are pointless.


Mistress Helen XX


March Lockdown Restrictions changing, a little light at the end of what’s been a VERY long tunnel!

all subject to data not rigid dates so do bear this in mind:
March 8th coffee outside and meet up with one person, I will offer coffee meets and going for walks with slaves/subs etc and this will be at social rates and will depend on duration and distance.  If it’s local around 3 miles walking and an hour ish then it will be £80, otherwise POA
Cash point meets too for finsubs, it has been a very long time since I met someone and had them draw out money for me, how I miss the thrill.  This is still subject to a deposit beforehand.
March 29th 2 households or subject to rule of 6 can meet up outside.
12th April Shops open, nail salons, hairdressers, pubs/restaurants serve outside, if The Gatwick Dungeon is open I will hold sessions there until 17th May!  I am taking open holding deposits to prioritise your bookings now, otherwise get in touch when sessions are taking place.  Keep an eye on My blogs and Twitter for further info.
17th May pubs/bars etc can serve inside, hotels, cinema, concert halls/theatres.  This is when you can have someone come into your house, my domestic place will hopefully be open for some sessions as well as Gatwick dungeon or Brighton dungeon.
21st June lifting restrictions all round where possible.
I look forward to meeting up with some of you soon as well as all the online availability (read the online page) I have on offer.  Zoom meeting online 121 or with another dominatrix, WhatsApp messaging/video calls, sending kinky messages to you.
Keep kink alive
Mistress Helen xXx
P.S Due to the rule of other households mixing on 17th May if the Gatwick dungeon opens its doors for hire on 12th April then I will be holding all My sessions there. This will incur a slightly higher tribute to cover the hire/My travel on par with the other Mistress’s who hire it.  Due to the ease of parking at the venue I will be able to bring along some of My own equipment too!
One hour is £180
90 mins is £280 and 2 hours is £350 this higher tribute includes the hire of the dungeon.  I am not passing on extra expense such as my travel time as I will rather be having fun and seeing My chaps than stuck at home!

Hi folks

Like many of you I’ve had enough of all the lockdown and I’m chomping at the bit to get back into sessions!  With moral obligations and a 10K fine I am not conducting sessions in the flesh right now, people are still asking every week!

Whilst it’s been fun staying in touch with some of you online as well as meeting some potential new players in video chats, it just isn’t quite the same as meeting someone face to face, manipulating your mind and flesh.  Hearing you whimper, plead, your breath quicken, your pulse race…. Oh how I miss sessions!

Many of you are aware of My charge for ALL phone calls, this simply came about to the high volume of people asking to discuss a session in the first lockdown and then when I was able to open My playrooms again not one of them ever booked.

Being a wise bird and learning from that experience, I started charging for every single call and if it’s a one off call then it comes off the final tribute of a real time session.  If the phone call is simply to have a bit of a jolly with Mistress then these calls are ALL covered by you.  Right now online work is My only income and doesn’t make up much shortfall of the grants I receive for being a self employed tax payer.  The boring bit is that yes I do have bills to pay.

I very much welcome the paid online sessions, phone chats, video chats when possible, selling items to you, some custom clips if they fit My remit.  So please do keep these coming, it’s My only source of fetish entertainment (other when I see My bubble) and we need to keep the kink alive!

I am also very much missing working alongside some of My fab Mistress friends and look forward to double domme again one day.

Our next date for DD webcam is 3rd March with Miss Kitty Bliss, she will join up online via an app and it will be a cam conference session.  The last one was lots of fun.

Fingers and toes crossed and those into CBT, tie a knot in it for good news next week from BJ to state if any business’s can open.

It’s unfortunate that they can’t state Mistress’s can open their doors, most people in high pressure jobs look for some control/release, so you would think it would be in the list 😉 I am basing Myself on beauty/hair salons opening up.


We have such a treat instore, get your Mistress Helen & Miss Kitty fix with Us both online together/remotely as per guidance, see Us both on cam, discuss your kinks, future sessions, online domination/instructions, bring any toys to cam.  Lets be clear that I am in Sussex and Miss Kitty in Kent, meeting up remotely online via an encrypted app.

Taking your advance bookings now to secure your time with Us on webcam

When you have booked/paid we will send you the link to click on and join Us.

11th Feb 2021 7pm to 11pm