Roll up boys and gurls, book your playtime with Moi and My bestie Miss Kitty Bliss

Two wicked ladies who want to tease, toy and manipulate the pleasures of your flesh!

One hour appointment £300

90 min appointment £400

Two hour appointment £520

Filming subs (only those with experience/less boundaries the better) model release/photo id required TWO hours max £420

We advise to book in ASAP and a mandatory non refundable early deposit is required

FRIDAY 12th APRIL 2024

Have you been a very naughty boy and need some strict attentions to your bottom?

Well, you had better book your appointment with strict Mistress Helen, an expert disciplinarian to administer some  hand spankings, slipper, paddles, caning and tawse etc lets make sure you are glowing and that your internal reset button is dealt with! Boundaries and limits pre discussed of course.

There is a special rate on FRIDAY 12th APRIL 2024 ONE HOUR £140 this is purely an offer for impact play ONLY and no other activity, unless you wish to book in at My usual rate of course.

Sessions will run from 1pm to 9:30pm finish with ONLY FOUR available appointments booked in.  This is to allow cleaning gaps, as well as R&R for Mistress to be fresh for each visitor.  This will take place in My domestic playroom in Burgess Hill.  Other venues not available on this date.

Book and pay your deposit promptly to secure your special time.

My booking procedures and how to pay your deposit in this blog link:

Mistress Helen Ryder of West Sussex (mistress-helen-ryder.co.uk)

Just four days into the New Year and My diary is filling up nicely 🙂 I had a superb playtime last night and I’m still smiling!

Today I am logged into the phone chat lines, no clients booked in for today.  Still keeping myself busy with phone work, blogging, SEO and X posts etc….

Here are ALL My links to perfuse:

Mistress Helen Ryder The Ultimate Sussex Mistress’s links (allmylinks.com)

I love receiving tips or money gifts through Wish Tender if you do not wish to send direct to My own bank account and receive more of the money then tipping through other platforms.  It’s also another way you can send a deposit if you do not want my vanilla name showing on your bank account.


Sadly it just takes a couple of bad apples to make Me have to really enforce deposits!  I am posting this to hi-lite why it is essential that you pay a deposit and respect My time.

EVERYONE has to pay a deposit.

I was badly let down by two clients recently, one accepted a reverse bid on AW, booked Me knowing in advance a deposit would be expected.  He stated he would send an Amazon GC without even asking if it was ok.  I asked him to call Me at a set time & pay deposit by a set time and then he suddenly had Covid!  Yet was on AW changing his user name at the height of being extremely ill. He sent a £20 Amazon GC as way of an apology, which didn’t really cover his messing.

Another client who has always bank transferred a deposit booked three weeks in advance, asked if he could pay in full when he came as didn’t wish to use his account then let me down only a day before with Covid!  No offer of any compensation to Me, if I had the deposit in, it wouldn’t have been such a blow to my self employed status and his deposit would have been held against a new booking.  £150 less income that week instead of the £300 loss of income.  So you can see where this is going!

If you are genuinely ill then obviously I do not want to catch anything, however My finances shouldn’t suffer because of you!

Hair salons, spas, tattooists etc are ALL taking deposits (due to being self employed) and some state that payment in full should you cancel at short notice will be expected.  The fact I state I will move your deposit to one new date is very fair.

If you do not have any intention of booking Me or paying a deposit then please do NOT contact Me!  Those who message or repeatedly call without commiting, I will ensure your phone number/email is circulated on time waster and nuisance forums.

I am blocking/black listing and reporting those who mess Me around.  The only way to get unblocked is to write an apology and pay what’s due/outstanding if you’ve previously messed Me about AND pay in FULL for your next appointment.



Wishing ALL My subs, slaves, sissies, kinksters & players a wonderful festive time and thanks for a great year of fun n frolics in real time or phone sessions.  It’s been a blast! 🙂

I will pop on phone chat briefly Christmas day in between cooking/eating and I am around tomorrow Christmas Eve and Boxing Day.

Anyone wanting to pay me direct for chats, should do so first, SEND & then email or WhatsApp message, your name/sent as subject.

For those who are lonely and suffering with MH or can’t afford a chat with me, then do call the Samaritans but keep it clean!

Any of my boys who haven’t yet sent a gift, money tributes are great and will go towards further ink on my arm next year,  Pop Christmas Ink as ref into my account.

Merry Chritmas

Mistress Helen XXX

Those who wish to be kept under strict lock and key should do so asap for #Locktober

Supply your own chastity, send £250 tribute for the month Bank info on My website Non refundable Then meet to lock up or post a key after payment and arranging via My email: helen-ryder@hotmail.com

You will receive some WhatsApp comms to tease/torment or spur you on throughout the month!  Maybe even a couple of video calls at a mutually arranged time.

For those not wishing to participate in Locktober that prefer a playtime with release included (if desired and appropriate) then book your October session.

I am logged in every day on #Phonechats in between/around any real time sessions.  I am usually on chat in the evenings.  This is perfect for those who want a top up of interaction outside of playtimes, to stay in touch with Mistress or want to build a rapport before perhaps booking in a session.  Some just need a release on the phone and I am in the top 6% on #Dommeline

Mistress Helen Ryder | Dommeline

I also have profiles for chat on Adult Work and NiteFlirt


On Adult Work there is plenty of more racy images and short clips to view, whilst I’m fast asleep please ensure I wake up to sales and tributes.  You can also send via Wishtender  whether it’s a smaller gift of coffee/cake or a big generous tip.  It’s all appreciated and for some of you, it’s better off in my account to spend then have you waste it on beer etc…..

What a fantastic way to start the day seeing all the lovely tributes and sales, put a beaming smile upon my face!

Kinky wishes

Mistress Helen XX

Taking Bookings now for this Double Domme playdate, book/deposit to have your playtime firmly in your grasp and in Our diaries!

One hour from £250

To book


Miss Kitty Bliss (@Miss_KittyBliss) / X (twitter.com)

Any questions or discussion then please call Mistress Helen via her Dommeline when showing available, otherwise just send the deposit first or a call cover fee of £20 for discussion.

Call rates are £2 a min & connection fee on Dommeline:

Mistress Helen Ryder | Dommeline

Or Nite Flirt, call rates apply
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West Sussex Mistress Helen Ryder (mistress-helen-ryder.co.uk)

Please do not use the Loyal Fans messaging platform to discuss real time meets as it is against the T.O.S on there.

For daily updates, little snippets of my Femdom life it is free to follow and my lingerie pics and other sauce you need to subscribe

Miss Helen Ryder’s Official Social Fan Page | LoyalFans

Keep it kinky

Mistress Helen XX


Hi peeps

What a great couple of weeks it has been creating and uploading new content onto My Loyal Fans page https://www.loyalfans.com/misshelenryder

Some Femdom and some raunchy saucy stuff to cater to many tastes, most importantly I’m having lots of fun making it!  So far theres some Spanking/Impact play, foot worship etc amongst the sauce 😉

Yes it’s a different avenue to My website and that’s perfectly ok, no one is forcing you to head over there, unless you are booking Me for domination and I’m telling you to do it mwhahaha 🙂  There will be some saying, “A Mistress shouldn’t be wearing/doing ABC” A Mistress, especially this Mistress does as she damn well pleases so zip it!

Being self employed often involves wearing several hats and Loyal Fans is My saucy spicy hat

Please bear in mind my income is based at 80% over there, which is great compared to other platforms, but if you want a particular type of lingerie and wish to send tips for it then make sure you over cover the amount so I receive enough tribute to cover the item you wish Me to create content in, thank you.

I’ve mentioned it previously but there will be less pics appearing on Twitter or within My blogs here or My website, having given away many images over the years for free and receiving little in tipping etc it makes sense to make revenue from it all and actually make a better living for Myself!


You can text chat with me via Loyal Fans or Finmessage

Miss Helen Ryder’s Official Social Fan Page | LoyalFans

Ms Helen Ryder | FINmessage

https://www.finmessage.com/?ref=MPLQUB Affiliate link for ladies to sign up

One free image from My very recent Lingerie set below (taken 19th July 2023)  others are split between Loyal Fans and Adult Work.

Kinky wishes

Mistress Helen xx



Dear all

Well we are nearly there, almost another year under our kinky belts and what fun times it’s been 🙂 thank you so much to all the wonderful players who’ve graced My playroom or hired dungeons and had so much fun.

I am away between 23rd to 26th December inclusive and taking sessions from 27th December and up to 4pm on New Years Eve.  Then I am available from 2nd January 2023  I expect EVERYONE  to read My website & send a polite email with brief outline and dates/times in your first contact, lots of very silly messages this week by email with 2 liners and ditto text messaging, ALL of which I have not replied to for obvious reasons!  If your email is along the lines of My own interests and we are compatible I will ask you to send a deposit and follow up with a chat and get you booked in.  Failure to deposit will result in your details going onto the time wasters lists and life time ban.

Going forward for 2023 I very much welcome new clients as well as my wonderful existing base of couples, females and gents to return.  I will on occasions advertise double domme.  With regards to filming: laws constantly changing and the pain of keeping model release forms, Id and such like I have no set plans to start filming with anyone in the near future, watch my website for updates  for any changes.  I have been filming solo POV clips for AdultWork over the last year.

Lots of talk on Twitter about ladies working in the adult industry being booted off, this could potentially happen.  If it does then keep an eye on my blogs for recent pics/info and any links for any other social media.  If anyone spots my photos elsewhere on the net without a direct link to my website, mobile phone number as listed on this site or my Adult Work link then please let me know as my content does get stolen and when I started out I didn’t watermark images, then I started doing so and then not bothered again as it often spoils the look of a photo.  Always make sure the profile really is me!

Thank you for the kind generous players who have treated me through the year, with meals out, birthday and Christmas gifts and the friendships formed even though it is a paid exchange, dynamics grow, friendships form, sometimes it’s just one off sessions for those with a bucket list of Dommes or kink to do, that’s ok but I do prefer the ones who build a great rapport over time.


Every day I spend working doing what I love is like a visit to Wonderland, please keep this kinky Alice in wonderland.

Sending love, light and many pleasures your way

Mistress Helen xXx


I’ve been running a successful business for over 14yrs now, during that time I have seen and heard every excuse under the sun to not being able to pay a deposit.

If you write/ring me & follow up with an email and I ask for a deposit and also ask for your next contact to be that you’ve sent it and there is any excuse that it has not been sent, contact will end there.

Not having online banking set up is always/often one excuse, yet your bank will send over money to any account at your request, you can just attend a branch!

Just over the course of the last week gone I have received 12 emails for sessions and out of those 4 were genuine, who paid and committed to coming.

If you have so much time on your hands to waste, then do some charitable work!  Most charities are often looking for volunteers, make yourself useful to society.

Over and out

Mistress Helen

P.S Thank you to the wonderful people who follow My booking procedures and value My time and their own XX

Check out My Twitter feed for all advertised double domination dates and general news, this link is My ONLY Twitter, there have been several fakes recently, stealing My images and creating Twitter accounts to scam people, they have been reported numerous times but still exist!  Mistress Helen Ryder The Ultimate Sussex Mistress (@MsHelenRyder) / Twitter  The one and only!!!

I’m teaming up with my friend Mistress Amber in Gravesend Kent on Thursday 24th Feb 2022 we will be offering CP/All impact play, bondage, NT, sensory dep & many more BDSM Delights.  Pegging, medical play and HE is not available for this DD date, pop your enq into an email to apply.  StrictLeatherLadyAmber (@StrictLadyAmber) / Twitter

Thursday 24th March 2022 My friend Miss Kitty Bliss will be working with Me in Burgess Hill for a full BDSM experience to include pegging, medical play, CP, bondage, sissy make overs and much more!

The sooner you book and pay your deposit the more likely you are to get the time that works well for you, we are taking bookings now.  Sometimes there are places closer to the date so it’s always worth asking.  Miss Kitty Bliss (@Miss_KittyBliss) / Twitter