18Jun 2019

I will be attending Club Pedestal in July and Club Sanctum in August.

Being a lifestyle Mistress I hail from a lifetime background of experimenting and starting out at fetish clubs.  I was always curious about latex, leather etc and where would anyone be able to wear such outfits outside of the bedroom.

Some history about how I got into kink properly.  I was 26 yrs old and my friend said come out with us to the Rubber Nipple Club, throwing together some black and skimpy ensemble I attended my first ever club and I was hooked.  It was such a friendly club and whilst I got attention it was very respectful and a safe place to be.  I was soon attending lots of different parties and out almost every weekend.

I’ve always been assertive and been strong willed I resent taking orders from others, despite being one of the “quiet ones” Well I’m not so quiet these days and I have found my tribe of people and friends over the years.  Having met all sorts of interesting people in clubs and dated submissive men as well as two who liked to switch.  I have discovered a lot about myself, whilst I can enjoy sensation play and once took a heavy CP style scene just to feel what it was like (not my cuppa tea) I honestly do not have a submissive bone in Me!  I do like to use the Estim pads from time to time and highly recommend them 😉

Having a change of career from the vanilla world to kink I’ve attended fetish clubs much less, simply because I have the pleasure of dressing up and playing on a weekly basis and don’t feel the same urge to go clubbing every month.  I think it’s a healthy balance to have other past times too in a non kink environment.

Attending a recent fet event it was amusing to experience  being treated as a newbie (people were really friendly) but many hadn’t seen my face about at certain events.  I tend to just simply introduce myself as Helen at clubs as I feel my character and personality are clear enough without needing to add the title of Mistress.  It was also amusing having someone ask if I was dominant or submissive, a simple smile and raised eyebrow from Me before heading off into the arena to give someone a good flogging said it all!

If you would like to come and serve me at either Club Sanctum or Club Pedestal then send a polite email.

Kinky wishes

Mistress Helen xXx

Club Pedestal with Miss Kitty Bliss & Joanna Armstrong

16Jun 2019

I have a couple of projects that I would love to fulfil soon perhaps you would love to come and help a Mistress out……

1)Book/pay for a two hour session and be with me for 3 to 4 hours to include a full make-over and you will need to show your face for photos and filming as well as bring id and sign a model release form so that I can upload your pics into my various galleries on the web.

2)Book/pay for a 1.5 hour session and also sign a model release and bring photo id (driving licence or passport) for photos/filming. Be available on a Saturday (only) and be part of three sissy maids in a row decorating your cup cakes on the “Great British Wank Off” I have two sissy maids sorted for this, you will need to be comfy in the presence of others and close proximity 😉 this one could be masked or wearing a tight latex made up face mask or full make-up application.


Kinky thoughts

Mistress Helen xXx

23May 2019

Hi everyone

A reminder that if you want a bank holiday booking to come and play and have some fun then you need to be getting in touch by tomorrow Friday the latest and deposits in by 7pm, any emails sent after that will be looked at late Monday afternoon from 4pm.

My phone will be ignored and I will only possibly answer calls from established clients over the bank holiday weekend to book in from Tuesday.

This is due to the EIGHT time wasting enqs over the last bank holiday, I’m not dealing with this again.  If no one makes a confirmed booking by tomorrow eve I am taking the bank holiday off, like many other Mistress’s.

I have some availability next week and as mentioned it’s double domination 29th/30th with Miss Kitty Bliss (see other blog for info)

Keep it kinky

Mistress Helen XX


16May 2019
Someone to paint my lounge: who is experienced at painting walls, a job well done with attention to detail.  No mess, no patchy walls, no paint on light switches etc, using white matt paint over existing pale colour, no filling required first, just a wash over with sugar soap.  It will take 2 days max.
Refs required from other Mistress’s preferred.
27th/28th June, 28th/29th June OR 29th/30th June are the date options, ONLY over TWO consecutive days!
I require £100 deposit from you, if you turn up and do the work you receive it back on completion.  If you cancel with less than 4 days notice I will keep it and no reschedule or refunds given.  If you fail to complete the work over two consecutive days, you also forfeit the deposit, due to previous time wasting and the time spent in correspondence.
I will give you an amazing TWO hour BDSM session consisting of the likes listed on My website with your boundaries and favourite play taken into account.  This is a solo session with ME.
ONLY apply if you fully meet the above and agree to the conditions.
Whilst I will be present I do expect you to work unsupervised and crack on with the job.
I will supply the paint, dust sheets, paint rollers and brush to cut in, as well as light refreshments and snacks.
Anyone who feels the above is unfair or not achievable need NOT apply or bother to comment on Twitter!  Stay away Trolls.
I painted this room Myself 3 1/2 years ago in two days on My own to a very high standard so I know it can be done.
Email Me to apply and follow up with a phone call, looking forward to hearing from someone who knows what they are doing!
07May 2019

A reminder that I am working in Yorkshire on 10th/11th May as per other blog info With Mistress V and Mistress Helena, so looking forward to these events with such lovely ladies!

I am actually away from real time sessions with My travel re above from 9th to 13th Inclusive!  See below *** Other news

Bank Holidays: Having received EIGHT enqs all wanting a short notice appointment at a very specific time with NO flexibility what so ever, I will ONLY be taking bookings for bank holidays if pre booked a day or two ahead with deposit in the bank.  I will be IGNORING My phone and NOT replying to ANY new emails over a bank holiday from this moment on.  Bank holidays bring out the worst in people that are bored, have too much time on their hands and nothing better to do than contact a hard working Professional Mistress and waste her time.

Expecting Me to drop any plans I have and not show any respect for that or be at all flexible makes Me question if those enqs were at all genuine in the first place.

I suggest to those who have no intention of ever coming to see Me or other Ladies to contact the Samaritans if you need to talk with someone.  Volunteer for a charity or homeless shelter/soup kitchen during the holidays.  Be a worthwhile member of society rather than a leach and utter nuisance on a hard working tax payer!  Remember the Devil makes work for Idle hands.

If you have seen Me before I still require some notice as I do have a busy life outside the dungeon too, when I do not have appointments booked in during the holidays I obviously make other plans!

*** Other news: I will be helping out Madame C in Hampshire on 14th May for a Birthday party for one of her lovely sissies.

I’m available in Sussex from 15th May, I do have some availability today 7th May and this evening and tomorrow.  Thursday 9th May morning is very limited as I then travel to Yorkshire that day.

I look forward to seeing my regular and new play things very soon

Wicked thoughts

Mistress Helen XX


19Apr 2019


Two very strict ladies teaming up for “STRICTLY DISCIPLINE” sessions on 17th June in Kent at Lady Amber’s chambers and then 18th June in Burgess Hill at My premises.

TWO days of very red hot bottoms!  I am looking forward to this immensely

** Note this is CP, Spanking, Caning, Tawse, Flogging, all “Impact Play”

Good boys may be given permission to worship leather respectfully if agreed!

Will there be “Happy Endings” Hmmmm yes when you depart from our wonderful company, take it away with you boys.  Lady Amber is a non sexual Mistress and any relief is on your own time NOT ours.

We find CP enthusiasts are not looking for a H/E and the endorphins released in CP sessions leaves you on a happy high.

**Note to My boys, I will be administering My usual skills with My wonderful gadgets/machinery outside of the above events as I see fit!

Double Domination with Lady Amber


14Apr 2019

I will be teaming up with my evil lil sis Miss Kitty Bliss for double domination in Burgess Hill West Sussex on the above dates.  We love ALL manner of BDSM play and kink, from hard strict severe CP to roleplay and medical roleplay scenarios, each session unique and bespoke to your particular interests.  See My sessions tab for FULL list of interests.

Here is a link to visit Miss Kitty Bliss own website 

Located in Burgess Hill just 20 mins from Brighton as well as Gatwick, free parking, local train station, it’s a great venue that’s easy to plan your journey.

Concise courteous emails to Me, Mistress Helen Ryder followed up with a polite call from your mobile phone.  Lets discuss what mischief, fun and games we can make!

Double Domination with Miss Kitty Bliss in May

14Apr 2019

On the above date I will be teaming up with the gorgeous Mistress Helena for play times between 11am to 4pm.   To book your fun & games send all polite respectful enqs  to 07557 516183 and visit the website for details of services that We enjoy!

Two Alpha females who will take full control of your mind and body, from CP, Pegging, Spanking, Humiliation, full cross dress service, Prison cells, Confinement/Lock down and much more! Sadistic and twisted as well as sensual teasing domination, your limits respected.


31Mar 2019

I have one play time available Monday 1st April from 4:30pm and two during the day time on Tuesday 2nd.

I will then be away on 3rd April through to 8th April inclusive in Yorkshire, whilst I am visiting Yorkshire I will be meeting up with Miss V

This is with a view to offer both solo and domination domination seasons in the future when I am visiting the area.  I also plan to meet up with some other Yorkshire Mistress’s to work with.

I am available for play times in Sussex in My superb well equipped play rooms from 9th April, emails will be checked daily whilst away and deposits for new clients and long sessions as per usual methods will be possible to secure your fun on My return.

See you soon

Mistress Helen XX



03Feb 2019

My suitcase is packed, My last availability to come & play is tomorrow 4th Feb from 5pm up to 8pm finish or 5th Feb at 12 midday or from 4pm to 6pm finish. I return on 17th and My phone will be back on for calls on 18th Feb and then I’m back to sessions on 19th Feb 🏖️🍾☀️

Book in ASAP if you desire a session very soon as otherwise it’s from 19th Feb.  I will be checking emails over couple of days whilst away where it is possible to do so.

27th/28th March is the next double domme day with Miss Kitty Bliss, this is TWO very experienced Mistress’s dominating you!  We had a great couple of days teaming up on the Sussex and London boys.  We will also be attending Club Pedestal again as we had such a great time there last week.

My assistant Miss Ruby Vixen came along on one of the double domme days to participate in some smothering and trampling play, she took to it like a Duck to water and is looking forward to joining in on more play times! Miss RV is mainly a voyeur assistant with emphasis on assisting with light play as the above or spanking.  She will not be doing strap-on play for pegging or caning and more extreme BDSM activities.  Miss Kitty Bliss works with Me several times through the year and can come along by special arrangement for the harder BDSM play.

I also have My dear TS friend Miss Joanne Armstrong, a mature TS who is very playful as well as strict, she visits Sussex usually once a month and we often collaborate on make-over photo shoots as well as TS/Double domme.  I fondly refer to Jo as big sis and Miss Kitty Bliss as little sis.  I am not looking for any further assistants as the people I work with are very reliable and have the same ethos and ethics as Me! 😍

However I am happy to work with other established ladies who have their own website and ethics.

I will be tweeting on occasions whilst I am away so do keep your eyes on My Twitter stream.

Kinky wishes

Mistress Helen 👌🤗❤️