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31Dec 2015

Happy 2016 May your kink filled dreams cum true

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Thank you to all those I have had the pleasure of playing with over the last year, and to those who I haven’t yet had the pleasure…..DON’T be shy take the plunge and write to me with an introduction of what you seek and I’m sure between us some dreams can be fulfilled for 2016.

From light introduction to BDSM with sensual alternate massage, role play to hard CP sessions, Strap-on/pegging, 4 hands massage, double domination, Foot worship, Medical play, sissy make-overs, sissy shopping trips, dinner socials after sessions, Fetish Club trips, extended sessions as well as shorter visits to explore your kink in a safe environment, something for everyone 😉

Happy blessed 2016

Mistress Helen XxX

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19Nov 2015

Duo Day 26th AND 27th November an intro from Ms Dita Book Now!

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Mistress Dita is looking forward to 26th AND 27th November (due to popular demand the extra date added) for 4 handed sensual massage and domination, I’m really looking forward to our special day together too!  Ms Dita has written this introduction.  Book Now!

Ms Dita I am a lifestyle BDSM practitioner, it’s something that I live and work in and have done for a very long time. A natural sadist, CP is something I really enjoy I particularly adore the artistry of the whip. It’s not for the faint of heart, but the safety of the submissive is always paramount to me.

To have an unblemished canvass before me is a true joy. To see you quiver as I draw back my whip, to see you jump as it cracks , bare millimetres from your skin, then to observe your reaction as the white Hot burn of the lash, fills your senses. Dare you ask to feel the kiss of my whip? I love all aspects of play, it’s a journey of discovery for Domme and sub. A good scene is dependent on good communication, and I always ensure that I listen to and respect the boundaries of everyone I play with, whilst ensuring their safety, but not overlooking their needs. It is such a privilege to be asked to work with Mistress Helen.   I also enjoy many other aspects of BDSM especially strap-on play.

We have been friends for a very long time and have played together on numerous occasions, you will see the chemistry between us, and may be treated to the sight of us flirting and enjoying each other. It is very important for a four handed massage, that we work in harmony, mirroring each other, giving you the ultimate in sensation, whilst giving the visual stimulation of our playfulness and flirtation. You will be relaxed, stimulated and aroused as our hands sweep warm oils over you. Lay back and enjoy as two very sensual ladies give you all of their attentions. Spoil yourself!

About me I am a busty and curvy, tattooed lady, who enjoys MANY aspects of BDSM play. I have a wicked sense of humour and genuinely enjoy what I do. I firmly believe that pain and pleasure are two sides of the same coin, spin the coin and the edges blur together.

13Nov 2015

SEXPO event

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I’m not available today (Friday 13th Nov) and out of contact much of the day as I am networking and lending a hand on my friends stall at Sexpo.

In response to several people wanting short notice and same day bookings without having ever seen me before NEW clients MUST pay a deposit 24 hours in advance to secure an appointment.

Due to too many previous no shows/wasted time so I am strict over this and it works.  People that are not prepared to FOLLOW booking procedures are clearly time wasters!

http://www.mistress-helen-ryder.co.uk/how-to-book-a-session/

On a more positive note I give thanks to the lovely genuine players out there who follow my procedures and repeat custom, you are appreciated and valued, and fun to session with thank you.

Best regards

Mistress Helen Xx

08Oct 2015

Alternative massage with Mistress Helen

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Slave C had experienced a very CP based session previously and was keen to see Mistress Helen again but having been away up north and visiting another Dominatrix who had left some very visible bruises and welts that he asked for a much softer option of an alternate massage to include some teasing and nipple tweaking.  Yes a sensual massage was exactly what he needed today!

He arrived and was welcomed up to the room all set out with the massage couch set up and candles flickering, feeling hot and sticky from his journey he first had a shower and then went back into the room and saw Mistress Helen dressed in a skimpy chemise, stockings and high heels.

He was instructed to get up onto the couch and then lay face down, he felt a series of pressures along his back and instructions to breathe in deeply and to exhale again and then be aware of each breath taking him into a state of relaxation.

Warm oiled hands gliding over his skin and then working out the knots and tension he relaxed onto the couch and started to feel the benefits of a very sexy dominant therapist.  Chatting occasionally about what he had been up to and then simply relaxing further and further into the treatment becoming aware of warmed bamboo canes (which Mistress Helen had mentioned) the feeling of heat working deep into his muscles felt so good and then hands again on his skin soothing and stroking and gliding.  The touches becoming very teasing in his upper thighs and gently kneading his bruised buttocks.

Time to turn over and the request of some nipple tweaking produced a shiny pair of clover clamps fastened onto his nipples and tied to a ribbon inserted into his mouth.  “Pull on those slave whilst I work on your arms” His arms being expertly massaged and Mistress Helen placing them in such ways that he occasionally swept over her exquisite breasts.   The ribbon was then removed from his mouth and a soft red satin ribbon tied around his cock and balls and then attached to the nipples with just the right amount of tension.  A blindfold was placed over his eyes so now he wouldn’t see his beautiful Mistress and simply enjoy the sensations.

Mistress Helen massaged his arms, legs, torso and chest with having placed a blind fold on him he couldn’t see what was being lowered onto his face.  “Guess the body part slave and get the answer correct, well there might be a prize” Smelling Mistress’s perfume and being the most obvious of choices he guessed breasts.  “Correct answer slave” feeling the weight coming away from his face and drawing a breath and just in time Mistress Helen eased a hand under his head and smothered him once more counting down from 10.  Excitement taking over he ached to be touched and teased and it’s as if Mistress had read his mind, feeling her hands stroking and gliding all down the length of his torso…………….

Well sorry to leave you in suspense but you will have to guess the rest of the session, maybe try such a session out for yourself.

Slave C left refreshed, relaxed and also invigorated.

Alternate massages are great for beginner sessions and can incorporate some very gentle flogging, prostrate massage, melted wax candle massage oil and as much and little as you wish outside of a regular massage if you are starting to step your toes into the world of BDSM or simply fancy something a little more relaxing.

 

05Oct 2015

Duo Domination Monday 26th and Tuesday 27th of October.

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Duo Domination with Berkshire’s Mistress Jane & Sussex’s own, Mistress Helen Ryder…

I’m teaming up with my dynamic Mistress mate so don’t miss out, off on my tour to Berksire soon!

Not ONE but TWO powerful and demanding Dominatrix’s will be joining forces for two days of Duo Domination on Monday 26th and Tuesday 27th of October.

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This will be our 10th get together and as a special celebratory offer sessions on the Tuesday will be £160 for the hour instead of the usual tribute of £200.

Come and enjoy an hour or more of your favourite BDSM activities with not only one but two Mistresses. Your punishment will be our pleasure…Spoil yourself and be indulgent, we intend to!

Novices & Newbies are welcome so don’t be scared off by the thought of two Mistresses, sessions are tailored to your specific needs and requirements. Sensual teasing or taking you strap-on cherry…we promise to be gentle! its twice the pleasure!  With BOTH Mistress’s being qualified in massage we also offer a 4 hands erotic massage to incorporate any light BDSM activities.

Bi….Mistress Janes pet slut T-Girl Gigi may be in the area on Monday 26th so if you’d like her to assist during your session let Mistress Jane know in advance.

Note: We will keep a few spaces available on both days for ‘Same day’ bookings for those of you who are unable to pre book for our Duo Domination event.

BOOKINGS NOW BEING TAKEN for Duo Domination event.

30Sep 2015

Pansy Penny Thank you & confession!

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Haha bless 🙂 I think some one is in trouble re next session!

Dear Mistress Helen

Hi. This is Pansy Penny. I have just enjoyed reading your blog about our session last week. Thank you very much for posting it. You made it sound very exciting and lots of fun, which of course is exactly what it was.
It was lovely to meet you; and I really appreciated you dressing up. You looked gorgeous. I was nervous about the start (I did it mainly so you would be more severe with me), but loved the play-acting and the spanking more than I expected. I also loved the way you humiliated and teased me and got me into more and more trouble.
MJ is awesome, and you two together were great. I hope we’ll be able to do a similar session before too long.
By the way, I didn’t spill any water because I braced the tray against the cupboard. At least I got away with something!
Thank you again.
best wishes
Pansy Penny
19Sep 2015

Rates Keeping it Real!

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I’ve had several of My recent bookings state I am too cheap! (you are always welcome to tip or bring a gift) Smiling at that comment and I have reassured them that they really mean very reasonable compared to many other professional Mistress’s.  I have set my rates for the reason that I know many of you NEED and DESIRE sessions on a more regular basis and setting my rates as they are makes it achievable for you to fulfil those urges and build a better rapport with Me your Mistress over time.

I invest in My equipment and have spent many thousands on high quality toys/furniture/website/photos/clothing/advertising as well as the usual sundries of good quality lube, gloves, enemas, medical grade cleaners etc.  I care about my clients and there well being.  If I were running my sessions from another location I would of course have to increase my fee to cover renting industrial premises or buy another property.  I work from my own establishment legally.

I have turned over two dedicated rooms for play and feel this reflects in my tribute fairly.

I do not see more than 2 to 3 clients max on any one day and being as I get booked for longer sessions of 2 to 3 hours this also would not be possible.  Some days I do not see anyone so it is not high volume traffic at my premises and is very discreet.

I offer affordable quality/experienced domination sessions with a lifestyle background going back to 1996 when I first starting attending fetish events.  I have  also worked alongside several other Mistress’s who have the same ethos of BDSM being available for the average gentleman and not just those with deep pockets.  Reasonable rates does not indicate a poor quality Mistress and it is down to the individual to charge what she likes and feels happy charging based on her establishment/session interests after setting aside her tax/outgoings that the individual is still making a wage.

I can be available to session at the Gatwick Dungeon location in Horley but again keeping my rates REAL it will be a higher tribute then what I ask for staying at my base due to hire charges and travel costs/time.  A one hour booking in the dungeon will be from £180!

So what does the average week bring me in my world I am often asked, looking back over the last week it has been #FootWorship #Pegging #StrapOn #Humiliation #UrethalSounds #RolePlay #Hogtie and #Bondage #MedicalPlay #Nettles #CBT #CP #Electrics not ALL in one session as some people may only have one particular activity that they enjoy and it’s perfectly fine to have as many activities as you like or as little with time permitting of course.

The more complex the session the more time is required, otherwise the session is too rushed and if it’s a very intense session you may need time to unwind at the end. A hot shower, cuppa and a biscuit a little unwinding is sometimes what’s needed after an intense experience.

See you soon

Mistress Helen X

10Aug 2015

Booking Procedures and Deposit Information

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Domination starts right here, read and follow the instructions provided:

Booking Procedures

**If you wish to speak with Me first, I ask for an initial £20 phone fee paid up front (it comes off your final balance) Payments to My Tip Funder Mistress Helen Ryder | TipFunder  preferred or Amazon GC to my email**

*CLIENTS I HAVE SEEN BEFORE: On rare occasions a same day booking may be possible with THREE HOURS minimum notice from the point of the deposit or PIF in my account or Amazon GC if agreed.  This is only in Burgess Hill, not any other dungeon setting.  If an eve booking is required then you need to contact/pay deposit by 4:00pm (If you have a profile on Adult Work with recent excellent feedback from TEN live members then use that system to contact me) The latest arrival time is 8pm, finishing sessions by 9:30pm.

NEW CLIENTS: 48HRS AHEAD MINIMUM NOTICE:

Please email as first contact to introduce yourself and the style of session which interests you (a brief outline/list of activities, not a Shakespearean play) include between 3 to 6 dates/times  that you are looking to book and can commit to.  I will then  require a 50% non refundable deposit PAID PROMPTLY (within 4 hours)

DEPOSITS in order of preference:

Bank transfer (details given once you have applied by email and agreed upon date/time)

Mistress Helen Ryder | TipFunder

online voucher from https://www.highstreetvouchers.com/

Amazon gift code to helen-ryder@hotmail.com

Once I have the payment we can arrange a phone call to me.  On the day of your session we can chat in more detail on arrival or you may wish to call me for a longer explicit chat on either Adult Work or DOMMELINE when I am logged in before the day of your session.  Both these links are within My website and linked on Twitter.  I also sell my own direct phone chat packages (see online domination tab)

*Tip Funder: Tips show as Inet Cash GMBH on bank statements

 

  • I insist that ALL My new clients pay a deposit 48 hours in advance minimum
  • The more complex the session the more time is required to book, think about what you wish to experience.
  • Cash drop offs are possible but will incur an extra *£50 as a meet/greet fee paid 48hrs in advance Amazon GC only
  • Deposits are a vetting & security process and demonstrate that you are making a committed booking as a submissive or kinkster and respect Me and My time!
  • My business = My rules! If you don’t like paying a deposit then don’t contact Me.
  • Provided 24 hrs hours notice given to reschedule your session, the deposit will be moved on one occasion only within a 2 month period.  If you cancel on the day/less than 24hrs notice  you forfeit your deposit and a gentleman would pay the agreed full fee.  If you wish to re-book you will pay a new deposit. I am a self employed tax payer and will not replace your appointment at short notice!  I will have also potentially turned other clients away.
  • Amazon vouchers can be purchased online and also from some retailers/super markets.  I require the code off the card a full 48 hours+ before you are due for your session.  The code is revealed when you scratch off the panel.
  • If you send multiple emails asking further questions (especially being vague & asking for My diary contents/availability) and haven’t sent a deposit, be aware this is a time waster tactic so I will ignore you until you send over a 50% deposit or min £20 call cover fee to answer any questions

The location will only be given after the booking/deposit is all confirmed. There is free parking close by, come and go discreetly and quietly.  I do not have an open door or revolving door policy here.

On the day of your session please ensure you call at the time of your appointment (do not be early)

Having spent thousands on fetish furniture/ equipment, clothing, My website and advertising etc I won’t be skipping town with your “deposit” I also hold a high regard for My reputation in this industry.

I look forward to speaking with you and meeting you soon.

Mistress Helen

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** I do not use Paypal as it’s a breach of their terms**

29Jul 2015

Double Domme Berkshire

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Hello all

27th and 28th August I will be heading off to Berkshire to spend some time with my fab friend Mistress Jane, we met quite a few years ago on the Fetish scene and stayed in touch over the years so we often reminisce on the good ole days as well as going out for nice country walks and our love of veggy food, red wine and vintage fashion.

There will be limited space so it’s best to book soon, priority given to those we have double dommed with previously, as well as existing clients previously seen with either of us on a 121 booking, new bookings are welcome and a deposit may be asked for in advance due to the limited availability depending on time and duration of an appointment. You are most welcome to get in touch with either me or Mistress Jane.

Due to the warm spell we have been enjoying I have been buying some new latex, consisting of short tight form fitting bodies, knickers and bras and corselettes as well as some What Katie did and Kiss Me Deadly vintage style lingerie to show off my ample curves to tease you in sessions so I will be packing a selection for my Berkshire visit.

Fancy being spit roasted, electrics, strap-on, humiliation, role plays, sissy wear, TV/Cross Dressing, make-overs, Corporal Punishment, Edge play, Medical play, foot worship, Fetish Nurse, 4 hands massage with 2 dominant therapists! Alternative massage and much more…….

See you soon!

Mistress Helen X

 

 

15Jun 2015

Caning by Sussex Mistress Helen Ryder

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Caning By Sussex Mistress Helen Ryder
Always so gratifying to receive a thank you message after a session and know that the sub/slave enjoyed his caning as much as I did, thank you dd……….any time 😉
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Wonderful Mistress Helen,
A big thank you for our time together this afternoon. You really are a very clever lady. I am looking forward to continuing my training in the near future.
As you instructed I bought Lady Julia some flowers on the way home. She say they are very nice but I shouldn’t have needed to be told to get them. She says that next time I see you I must beg for twelve nice stingers with the cane for not doing it off my own bat.
I can see I am going to need lots of training and more caning before I reach an acceptable standard.
Your eager and adoring novice
dd
Well I certainly enjoy giving a good caning to all your naughty boys, are you ready to bend over my bench to receive the cane?

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