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07Jan 2019

Good news that I have had My operation and both lens replaced in eyes and I am healing well.  I am actually back in sessions today onwards with My regulars and seeing new play mates from Friday 11th Jan when back in full glamour mode of wearing make-up.  If you are new and want to come play before Friday just be aware I will be the kinky strict girl next door look!

Up and coming events are 12th Femdom Tea Party

25th Queen Bee’s with the gorgeous Miss Kim in London

31st Jan Miss Kitty Bliss here for sessions and Pedestal that night so we are pondering on if to go along for a few hours.

1st Feb Miss Kitty Bliss here for doubles from 12 midday as we will need some sleep if we attend Pedestal.

I’m teaming up with Joanna Armstrong for The Burgess Hill Sissy Academy Days, make-overs/photos and play at various dates throughout the year and also by special request.

One of My friends is very interested in coming to assist and be a voyeur on sessions, some extra pocket money for her and lots of fun.  She is 28, slim, totally gorgeous and a lovely lady, watch this space for an announcement!

I have one place available for Malaga, send an email if you would love to come and have lots of fun in the sun.  It’s more reasonable for the 3 nights fully inclusive bed/board/food that you would have thought with a tribute to Moi and your flight on top for you to book/pay. Transfers from the airport to the villa can be arranged.  We haven’t set the dates yet but it will be late May/June/July/August for a THREE night stay.  I will need to have met you and played a couple of times between now and going away.

Happy healthy 2019 everyone

Mistress Helen xXx

30Dec 2018

In 2019 I will hold My multi slave events as well as attending Malaga with THREE slaves in tow for fun in the sun. I have TWO slaves/subs already wishing to attend and have a place for one more. It will be 3 nights away with board/food/all beverages included in your booking for the villa and you are responsible for booking your flights, pick up from the airport can be arranged. Serious enquiry’s are welcomed and we need to have met and played together a couple of times before the Malaga mini fetish holiday. There will be a set daily rate for Moi divided up equally between the THREE slaves. POA with 50% deposit at time of booking and balance in full 48 hours before we depart.

The multi slave event will take place on Monday 4th March from 11:30am to 2:30pm with time set aside afterwards to wind down, have some light food and refreshments.  £230 with 50% deposit taken at time of booking, balance on the day.

The nature of play will include some small periods of confinement, sensory dep, interaction with other slaves if desired. Spanking, CP, EStim, Venus2000 and much more! All boundaries and interests discussed in advance.

 

13Dec 2018

I won’t be available 2-12th Jan as I will be having eye surgery, book now if you’ve been thinking of coming to see Me! I should be all seeing again & ready and raring to kick arse from 12th Jan and the double domination date of 31st Jan and 1st Feb with Miss Kitty Bliss is 100% happening in regards My eyes!  In fact if things are still blurry by then Miss KB will be My eyes and it will be a bit like pin the tail on the donkey!  Mwhahahahaha just joking 🤣 🤣 🤣 I will honestly be fine and available again from 12th Jan if not before!

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It may well be the end of any prescription specs, I will have some plain glass ones for specs fetish.

One of My chaps was asking what/why so an edit here:

I have the early stages of a slightly more rare type of cataract in My right eye (caused by trauma) and with a high prescription for long distance and now reading I need a multifocial lens and both eyes having lens replacement cost £6,836.00 and that is with 10% discount given, Ouch………………………

Rather than join the NHS waiting list and (possibly go blind in one eye whilst waiting) and not get the full treatment required for My eyes I have booked this private.  The NHS will only do My right eye and then only cut My eye open, remove My lens and replace with a monofocial lens. Which will not 100% correct My vision and then I will still need reading specs for close work.  Going private also covers any top up laser treatment.  The NHS won’t do this.  My left eye is also a very high prescription of -7 so it’s not feasible to wear lop sided specs with one heavy prescription and a plain lens with reading varifocial one side or wearing only one contact lens.  The level of My prescription and other complications is making it more complex.  At the end of the day I am having MY eye cut open and lens taken out and replaced so I want it done once only and have the best treatment possible!

Whilst I’m a real time Dominatrix rather than online Findom, kind donations would be greatly appreciated with the high cost of this operation.  Please email if you would like to contribute to My eyes and help Me pay back the finance loan and deposit which are hitting My pockets extremely hard!  Especially with the loss of income whilst I am unable to work.  Another 1K hit to My self employment!

It is after all something very essential to living/My wellbeing and not some daft high end pair of shoes or handbag!

New eyes for 2019 All the better for seeing you with! 😘😘

Mistress Helen xXx

 

19Sep 2018

Today myself and Miss Joanna Armstrong had a new sissy attend for maid training to check out her skills in shoe worship, bottom worship, serving and to see if she had the qualities of being a ladies maid.

Well the little strumpet known as maid Lucy managed to ladder my Wolford stockings! I was very cross so over my lap she went for a good firm spanking. As she wiggled and wriggled she got all flustered and her clitty got very swollen in her satin panties that I had to carry out an inspection.

Maid Lucy couldn’t possibly continue her maids work with such an over excitable clitty, time to have some relief. Down on the floor, she was sat on and the wand came out to tease her.  Pulling her panties to one side, lubing her up and masturbating over a lovely china saucer until she spurted out lots of sticky gooey sissy cream and then she had to lick it all up!

Solo/double domme and sissy training in Burgess Hill can sometimes be rather cheeky and naughty!

We will next be carrying out maid training along with Mistress Firefly at The Sissy Retreat in North Yorkshire on Thursday 11th October.  A whole days event of make-overs, dressing up, afternoon tea and sissy fun.  Visit the website for more information http://sissyretreat.co.uk/

27Aug 2018

Thank you to some of My special bitches, subs/sluts and playthings for remembering Moi Mistress Helen Ryder on My Birthday 24th August.  Presents are still very welcome for those who wish to bring something to session or post via My gift list.

On the 22nd August I had my super slavva rodda CP fave slave take Me out into Arundel for a day out, we had a superb lunch at The Parsons Table. Then a walk around to visit all the antique shops, then back to base for birthday beatings (Me giving of course)

My personal bitch was here for the weekend waiting upon Me (after being picked up from the train station Friday) We had some yummy food in to go with the Rose Champagne and  a fantastic day out in London on Saturday. We visited The Tate Modern and although interesting we did laugh at some of the “ART” A pile of bricks that reminded Me of the stepping stones I am giving to a friend in My back garden! After that we travelled up to see what deviant things we could buy in Regulation.  I have some new evil nipple clamps and a Stinger!

***********Book a session soon to experience both********************

We went on to The National Gallery for some more culture and the nipple clamps and stinger set off the archway metal detector alarm, which I merrily waved at the security staff who laughed and said “Go on through you are so honest!   Wanting to quench My thirst a nice G&T in a nice pub in Covent Garden and then on to a superb French Restaurant for a nice glass of Champagne, followed by French Tapas all very delicious and a superb wine to go with them.

Back to Burgess Hill for a nice relaxing evening, the next day a visit to the gym to burn off the naughty treats and then home to play 😉 I treated My personal bitch to a hot bamboo massage before zipping My bitch into the leather sleep sack with electric butt plug inserted and making good use of all the naughty exposed bits!  You have My permission to fill in the blanks with your minds!!

I have sessions available from now right up to 4th September and then I am at the BDSM Villa in Malaga for a 2 day private party, I have TWO exclusive play times available on 6th and 7th September at the well equipped Villa.  Book your fun in the sun ASAP!  You will need to arrange this by email and the follow up with a phone call before I fly out.  You have until 3rd September the latest to book for this.

Sessions are then available back in Burgess Hill from Sunday 9th September.

I have some dates available in Leeds in October as well as double domme with the gorgeous Miss Kitty Bliss in Burgess Hill in October, keep your eyes peeled for further future blogs.

See you soon

Mistress Helen Ryder

Play Time

French Tapas

The Tate Modern

My art in back garden!

The National Gallery

Painting In NG

05May 2018

Good morning everyone

A reminder that I am fully booked tomorrow on Sunday 6th May as per My tweets on Twitter!

I have ONE space available TODAY Sat 5th May from 2:00pm

I am travelling to West Yorkshire on Monday 7th and travelling back on Sunday 13th May, sessions in West Sussex are from 14th May.

Thank you to some amazing chaps who visited this week and especially to Rodda Slava a cherished slave who came to Me for sessions over 3 years ago now.  Making regular visits for professional services as well as being a fab friend and errand boi.  He had two sessions this week, one being collecting Me from Sussex and driving Me to the Hoxton Dungeon Suite for a multi Mistress party.  Returning Me to Sussex, staying over in the bondage room and heading off for Mistress and personal errands the next day and then returning to Me for a double domme session with Miss Kitty Bliss and then taking us both out to dinner.  He went on his merry way with a multitude of stripes, welts and all manner of colourful badges on his bottom, thighs and some very sore nipples.  I’m not known as the smiling sadist for nothing!  Note: newbs and lightweights I do take limits into consideration so rest assured it’s SSC here.

If I don’t see you then have a great “bonk holiday weekend all”

Mistress Helen XX

28Mar 2018

Hello slaves/subs/kinksters

I wish you all a super Easter weekend and a reminder that I am not in West Sussex from 2nd to 9th April inclusive.  Sessions are available in Sussex from 10th April.

I am a guest Mistress on 4th April at The Sissy Retreat alongside another guest Mistress the amazing Madame Caramel!

On 5th/6th/7th/8th I am available to double domme with the super Mistress Firefly and one hour sessions in Leeds are £200.  All bookings and messages to go direct to http://www.mistressfirefly.com  We make a very formidable dynamic team, so don’t miss out and book your play time in very soon!

I’m very excited to be playing alongside some of the best in the business and meeting super new playthings, yes that’s you boys and girls or how ever you identify.

13Mar 2018

It’s time to tell you a fact or two, especially to those who have Not respected My time recently

Many of you seek “adult services” and without Myself and the wonderful ladies out there offering such exquisite safe outlets for you to fulfill a fantasy, for you to experience a form of well being and release, some say it’s like having an internal clock reset in your head so that you can carry on day to day, what would you do without us?!   …………

Our time is precious, and if you have been granted an audience with us then ensure you respect it. This entails ALL communication around booking a session.  If a Mistress has requested XYZ of you then do it.  If she has a set of booking procedures sent to you previously and you can’t remember them or find the email then read the ladies website in FULL.

Now let Me share a little secret, I am DOMINANT! This means I’m an Alpha Female in charge of My business and run it My way.  Whilst there is a degree of customer service, it does NOT entail being a puppet on a string or a dress up doll following a set of commands from you.  You sought out a Dominatrix because you felt the need to submit.

I love My chosen profession and I love meeting new slaves and having fun.  When I have a booking secured in My diary I plot and plan all the wonderful activities that we will engage in as I want the very best play in that session.

Potential new clients who mess Me about, promise to pay a deposit and then back peddle out of it after engaging My time via emails and phone call are not treated lightly.  Dommes, Mistress’s and Sex workers talk to each other!  We share details of those who mess us around and blatantly waste our time.  We do not relish in adding people to this list and it is not taken lightly, stay off that list by being the best you can be.  Be polite, be reliable, pay the deposit in a timely fashion as instructed and keep communication to the guidelines given.

Here is a guide to stay off that list and be one of the valued clients that will curry favor and make you memorable in a positive light, both with Me and the other ladies out there. Surely you want to be remembered for being that “fun plaything” for Mistress rather than a thorn in her side!

Do……….

  • Be polite, clean and punctual.
  • Use the title Mistress or name in your communication. It’s respectful and babe and such like will result in your email being ignored.
  • Be clear in your communication, especially if asked for additional information.  Be honest and declare ANY medical conditions!  ANY allergies, If you have a funny turn she will know why.  Plus sessions can be adapted around your specific needs.
  • Prepare to bring a gift (most Mistress’s have a list on their site)  or a tip/thank you note.
  • After the session send a thank you email, an item from her wishlist, or leave a review.  The clients that stand out as a good memory are the ones who make some effort, and we all have our favorites………………….

Don’t………..

  • Don’t send appointment requests if you do not intend to book, repeatedly cancel appointments you have booked, or book an appointment and not show up.  If the session is NOT your number one priority due to circumstances going on elsewhere then DON’T book until you can make it a priority.  If you have messed her about then send some money over to compensate her time along with an apology, this may entail you if genuine sorry to have a second chance and make amends.
  • Don’t try and avoid any screening/security methods.  It says that you do NOT respect them.
  • Don’t contact her by other means that she clearly states are not accepted, such as texting.  This will result in being blocked.
  • Don’t be vulgar or too graphic in your communication.  A pre session chat when you have paid the deposit and the booking is secured will always be available.  Emails that list activities in a vulgar explicit manner do NOT impress Me!  you wouldn’t approach a stranger on the street in this manner.  Manners maketh the man!
  • Don’t overstep ANY boundaries that are clear and concise on her website, this will result in you being blocked.  Poor behavior in your approach and communication does not bode well for a session.  How can you be trusted in a session?!
  • Don’t ask questions of a personal nature, if over time she wants to share any detail then be honored that she trusts any personal details with you.  Discretion is a TWO way exchange!
  • Don’t try and friend her outside of sessions on her private social media, that will be for her friends and family if it’s her private account so ensure you respect that.

Stay on the right path and you could be having lots of fun with a great skilled Mistress that will bring out the best in you.

 

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